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Painful Break-up. Advice please! :(

  • 05-05-2011 12:31pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 366 ✭✭


    Hi,
    I'd been going out with my BF for the last five months. We seemed to really click with each other and always had a great time together. I fell for him pretty much instantaneously and he said he felt the same. He often said that he'd completely fallen for me and how lucky he felt to have met me. When we'd kiss, he'd say that his heart would skip a beat. Troughout the whole time we were going out, he text me every night. He was a really genuine kind of guy so i'm sure it wasn't all talk.

    Our relationship wasn't completely perfect. He was working and i was studying and with living on opposite sides of the city we didn't get to see each other very regularly. The biggest issue was the fact that i'm going travelling this summer (something which was all booked prior to us meeting.) When we started going out he said he didn't have a major issue with this. He said he'd miss me and would be sorry to see me go but that he respected that this was something that i needed to do..

    Anyway, we were out last week and i brought up something about my trip. He seemed quite stressed in himself and said he had a bad day in work. One thing led to another and he eventually said that he thought we should break-up, because he couldn't bear the fact that i'd be away for so long. The break-up was unexpected and not planned by either of us.

    To be honest, i'm finding things very difficult. I can't understand how quickly things ended. When we went our seperate ways he seemed to regret what was happening. He complimented me saying that this was the best relationship he'd ever been in and that unlike other break-ups he'd gone through, he couldn't say a bad word about me. He hugged me.

    Anyway, its been a week today and i haven't heard anything from him. I thought he may contact me again to talk things over. Am i being naiive in hoping that i will hear from him again? I miss him terribly. It's so difficult to go from having someone as a daily part of your life to them not being in your life at all.

    Any advice would be appreciated.


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 159 ✭✭m-a-i-


    Hi OP
    you poor thing, I know how hard it must be, my exbf of 7 months broke up with me a month ago and I was gutted but it does get better. like you it was totally unexpected and didn't see it coming at all.
    The best thing for you to do is to remove contact from him as much as possible. If he wants to talk to you then thats fine but you could only make you feel worse if you try an contact him
    I remained facebook friends with him for a while after and it was torture for myself, so my advice would be remove him or alternatively if you can't do that until you feel you are ready, block his updates from appearing on your profile. like you I couldn't believe one of my best friends was not part of my life anymore but it does get better.
    Based on him complimenting you and the way you write this, you seem like a sweet and caring person and you will find happiness again soon but in the meantime keep yourself busy with your friends, preparing for your trip and remember its ok to cry and be angry and go through the motions.
    if you need to rant feel free to pm me :)
    As my baby brother said when I was in your shoes " your only one broken heart away from a happily ever after" :) x


  • Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 81,083 Mod ✭✭✭✭Sephiroth_dude


    Were ye gonna be breaking up anyway before you left?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 453 ✭✭gypsy_rose


    Since he broke up with you OP it's up to him to make the first move, and since he hasn't contacted you a week later, I'm afraid to say it is probably over for good. The truth is OP, if he can't handle you gone for a whole summer, would you really want to be with him anyways? If he was really mad about you he'd wait, no matter what. Go out and find yourself a man who won't let you slip through the net just cos you're gone for a month or two


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