Proposal Advice

Basicilly

Hi,

i am hoping to propose to my long term girlfriend in June when we go on holidays to turkey. We are planning on visiting troy and i thought this might be a nice place to do it.

I'm not sre how to go about sorting the ring though.
a) Should i buy a token and then we shop together for the real one when we get back or

b) Should i buy the ring before going and hope she likes it. I'm really not sure about exchange policies and there is the issue of safety as we will be driving and hostelling for 3 weeks.

any thoughts advice greatly appreciated,

caprilicious

So exciting! Turkey is beautiful. I reckon you might be as well getting a token ring for the proposal itself, then get her to pick out a ring out there.

Turkey has a massive selection of jewellers , it'd be a great place to pick out her ring (& maybe pick out the wedding ring while you're at it )

Best of luck!

ElleEm

caprilicious wrote: »

So exciting! Turkey is beautiful. I reckon you might be as well getting a token ring for the proposal itself, then get her to pick out a ring out there.

Turkey has a massive selection of jewellers , it'd be a great place to pick out her ring (& maybe pick out the wedding ring while you're at it )

Best of luck!

I second this. Turkey is so beautiful so anywhere you do it would be gorgeous. I have friends that got the lady's engagement and both wredding rings in Turkey and they are gorgeous and were cheap enough too

Congrats!

tinkerbell

I agree with not getting the engagement ring first. It's such a personal item and she has to wear it for the rest of her life, I completely believe that the woman should be able to choose what her engagement ring will be. Plus (well this is my opinion), it would be such fun trying on lots of different engagement rings and the excitement of going shopping for one. But that's just me.

Oh again personal opinion, but I wouldn't bother with the token ring, there is no need. All you need are those four words - will you marry me. You don't need a token ring, just wait and get the real deal.

spezi

Definitely dont buy the ring yourself. Use a token ring (even from her own ring collection) and let her pick one one once you come back to Ireland. It will be nice to have something to "look forward to together" once you come back.
Best of luck with your engagement!

Basicilly

Thanks a lot for the advice. I'm thinking of going with the token ring just to have something so she knows its not just a spur of the moment decision and that i had put thought into it.

The idea of buying a ring in turkey sounds interesting. We are finishing our hols in istandbul for the last 5 days so maybe we could buy it there. Does anyone have any experience of buying rings in istanbul. Is there much chance of getting ripped off etc. or does anyone know of reputable jewellers?

killiank

Yeah I think the safest bet is to buy a toy ring first. we got engaged last year & she still laughs at the size of the toy ring that I bought. Think I got it in Claires accessories in blanchardstown. (I remember the lady in the shop telling me there was a matching ear ring set) Now I didnt put a massive amount into trying to get the right size on the toy ring. It was also nice going ring shopping that day we got engaged.

prettygurrly

i think from my experience in arabic countries if you stick to the high street, i.e. air conditioned, properly licenced shops you will do well. they will always be more expensive than the backstreet sellers but you will have more comfort buying the rings. also if you see well dressed and often in western clothes turkish people in the shop buying rings that's always a good sign.

(on a personal note i'm the complete opposite to those above, i want my fella to pick my ring. i would hope that by now he knows me well enough to know what sort of ring I would like and i also would not like to know how much it costs. i also would love to know that he chose it and so far with everything else he's bought me he's been bang on with my taste...but that's just me, i think in your situation buying a ring in turkey will be a lovely reminder of your proposal and then the security situation is a good point as well)

Basicilly

Thanks all. It does sound romantic to pick the ring if possible but we have a running joke that i can never get a present she likes. (I got her James Blunt tickets once to find out at the gig how much she disliked him. I didn't know who he was at the time.:))

Anyway, here's hoping she says yes...gulp!

lemon125

I'd echo everyone else argument against buying the ring first. I got engaged last year and did the same, i.e gave her a token, but in my case it wasn't a ring it was a necklace with four stones to symbolise the four years we were together.
My thoughts were, the token you give her will also have special meaning so if you gave her a ring, she might not have room for it on her fingers!

P.S My Fiancée is just after coming over and asking about me posting on Boards and wondering who i was on it....... no secrets here!!!

carolinespring

I remember reading a thread her about a year ago about a chap who got his girlfriend a charm bracelet with a engagement ring charm and when shopping togther for the ring later.

To me it was really romantic.

Thomas Sabo do beautiful silver bracelets and charms

http://shop.thomassabo.com/EN-en/charm-club/charm-carrier/pid/X0032-001-12

http://shop.thomassabo.com/EN-en/charm-club/engagement-ring/pid/0330-051-14

http://shop.thomassabo.com/EN-en/charm-club/lovebirds/pid/DC0013-153-14

http://shop.thomassabo.com/EN-en/charm-club/wedding-rings/pid/0673-051-14

http://shop.thomassabo.com/EN-en/charm-club/glittering-heart/pid/0019-051-14


I have a Tiffany bracelet and love when my husband get a charm and whould have loved a bracelet when he asked me to marry his, so romantic that she has something to wear and the bracelet will be a story over time as you can get charms to mark all the special events in your life.

My mum has one my Dad got her and she calls it her love story. Each charm has a meaning. Totally beautiful.

optogirl

Basicilly wrote: »

Anyway, here's hoping she says yes...gulp!

Have you discussed it before??