What to do..

Seany_Boy

Been with current gf 4 years... We had split up a while ago for few months, but got back together and all was going well.. I bought a house and she moved in with me.. Both in mid 20s..

Everything was grand, but then the other day for some strange reason I lifted her phone and checked messages.. never did anything like this before and not sure why i did then... Lack of trust I think.. But anyways.. Realsie I shouldn't have but I did..

Basically I seen some messages from a female friend of hers about feeling horny, wanting pics etc etc.. gf said you first and other girl had no free texts so none were exchanged, but she left it by saying to gf send pics when you can..

Couldn't believe it.. Confronted her and she said that it was nothing serious, there was nothing sexual in it, they did it for a bit of fun.. Said the other girl was the one that was pushing it and she immediately text her and told her never to text her again... Other girl in rship with a fella too..

Has vowed nothing had ever happened, or will ever. Is attracted to me and it was just some fun that she realises is wrong and she feels ashamed and annoyed about it... I feel a bit betrayed to be honest, or am I over reacting??

She asures me it they used to only text like once a month or less, it was stupid and silly and she only wanted me etc etc etc...

Bit taken back by the whole thing to be honest...

Juicyfruit

Is it possible OP, that it's actually a guy and she has his number saved under a girls name?

greengiant09

sounds well dodgie tbh....i certainly wouldn't believe a word that comes out of her mouth. it could well be a bloke texting her. think you need to get to the bottom of this.....i'm not sure how....you can't take anything she says as gospel.

Groom!

Ring the number yourself and see who answers

Katgurl

i dont think the person's gender is the only issue? why is it ok for OP's missus to carry on $exual conversations with a female anyway; its not a step up from a pillow fight, its still a betrayal.

OP I wouldnt be happy if i was in a relationship with someone who was having that sort of interaction with any third party.

On another note, has she ever given you any indication before that she might be gay?

i'm sorry but i can't really give you any advice except to say only you can decide if you can trust her and let this go.

wasper

Say Bye Bye to her now. From now on you will not be trusting her, she will be insuring to hide her phone. The situation will become intolerable. It will be eating you & her.

diverdad

It doesn't make a lot of differance if its a guy or a girl behind the number; she is in your life and also in your house. She is supposed to be in a relationship with you.

The use of a girls name instead of a guys would be pretty common way of hiding things.

Got to wonder about her if it is a girlfriend of hers; gay, bi, whatever?

If the situation were reversed and you told her a mate from the pub had been texting you for pics of your lad and you were swopping them back and forth... what exactly would her reaction be?

If you do split, she could be entitled to a claim on the property. If you do split than it is better sooner rather than later.

Wompa1

Seany_Boy wrote: »

Been with current gf 4 years... We had split up a while ago for few months, but got back together and all was going well.. I bought a house and she moved in with me.. Both in mid 20s..

Everything was grand, but then the other day for some strange reason I lifted her phone and checked messages.. never did anything like this before and not sure why i did then... Lack of trust I think.. But anyways.. Realsie I shouldn't have but I did..

Basically I seen some messages from a female friend of hers about feeling horny, wanting pics etc etc.. gf said you first and other girl had no free texts so none were exchanged, but she left it by saying to gf send pics when you can..

Couldn't believe it.. Confronted her and she said that it was nothing serious, there was nothing sexual in it, they did it for a bit of fun.. Said the other girl was the one that was pushing it and she immediately text her and told her never to text her again... Other girl in rship with a fella too..

Has vowed nothing had ever happened, or will ever. Is attracted to me and it was just some fun that she realises is wrong and she feels ashamed and annoyed about it... I feel a bit betrayed to be honest, or am I over reacting??

She asures me it they used to only text like once a month or less, it was stupid and silly and she only wanted me etc etc etc...

Bit taken back by the whole thing to be honest...

That to me is cheating..it was with a friend of hers. A bit of fun or not, it sounds like they were having an inappropriate relationship. Screw her, kick her ass out.