breaking up - when to tell him

LegacyUser

Going to try to make this as concise as possible so I don't waffle on about my problem, hopefully I succeed!

I've been with my boyfriend for four years but I've reached the point where I think we should break up before we drag it on and end up resenting each other. We've talked about splitting before during the years after various arguments but it was more in the heat of the moment at the time. But when we've discussed what we'd do if we'd split at various occasions, he's said that he'd prefer a clean break with no reminders so he'd be able to get over the break up in his own time.

I currently live in the apartment which he bought. I haven't yet discussed breaking up and here lies my issue. I'm not sure if I should broach the subject yet and then have to still live together while I find a new place to live. Or, from what we've discussed before start looking for a new place and once I find it, then break up so I can move out of his place straight away.

To me, the second option seems a little calculated or might feel a little odd to still live together when I know myself at this stage there's no future in the relationship. Once I tell him I'm moving out, it might seem a little odd that I had everything arranged. Or is it best to go by what he has said before and make it as easy as possible for him to get on with his own life?

Sinfonia

Would you be able to up and leave pretty much straight away, and just take the first place you find, temporarily, or stay with any friends/family?
Realistically you can find suitable places to live within about a week if you work a bit at it..