Losing a good friend

LegacyUser

I'm having the opposite problem to the one I read here a lot and I don't know how to approach it. My single best friend of 20 years has effectively cut me out since I got married and pregnant. It's always the case of people in their 30s saying they need new friends because their mates are all married or with families, in my case the single friend is the one who has chosen to back off from a very good friendship.
Nothing has changed about my personality and the fact that my other friends, both single and married, are still around as normal but my closest friend just doesn't make any effort at all any more confirms that.
For the past six months or so it's always up to me to initiate contact and always up to me to suggest we meet up for a chat or coffee or dinner or the cinema or whatever. She never has any suggestions herself which leads me to believe she just isn't bothered whether she sees me or not. I'm not into clubbing any more but neither is she and we haven't been to clubs for years anyway, long before I got married or pregnant. I am still interested in doing everything else we've been doing together with the exception of getting pissed at the moment, obviously.

I am super aware that she probably has no interest in pregnancy so I never talk about it unless she asks me how I am doing. In all the years I have been with my husband I have never discussed our relationship with her or anyone else, it's not something I have ever done. So it's not like she can't relate to me any more, because I'm the same person I have been for years. There's been no falling out or no arguments.
I don't even know why I'm posting this. I suppose I'm upset that a very long and good friendship is going down the tubes. It's the exact opposite to what single women complain about when they say they drift from their friends when babies or marriage happen. I'm just sad and I guess I want to give a different perspective on a situation that seems to happen a lot. Friends who settle down or start a family aren't alien beings and we still want and need our friends around.

Wibbs

Moved from the Ladies Lounge as you'll get more answers here. Good luck