Am I Shallow

LegacyUser

Im going unreg for this for obvious reasons!!!

I have been in contact with this guy who I have been getting on really well with, emails, phone calls, emails everyday for the last 2 months.
I would of before now concidered mysellf not shallow at all. BUT i have seen his picture now and im so disappointed. He has nothing that i can say "well his eyes are lovely etc"

He has a heart of gold, makes me laugh, has a great out look of life but im not phyically attracted to him...



What to do???

Ickle Magoo

Why not go on a date or two and see if he grows on you? Sometimes attraction isn't instantaneous. If it doesn't, don't worry about it, there are plenty of people in the world who could tick the "attractive" as well as the heart of gold, makes me laugh, has a great out look of life boxes.

All the best.

gypsy_rose

It is honestly hard to judge on a photograph, just like people give out saying that the person wasn't as good looking as their picture, so it can go the other way. Plus, I generally find that a person's mannerisms/facial expressions etc. are what make them attractive more than just their facial features. Meet up with him and see for yourself, I say.
Good luck

LegacyUser

Give it a go.

I say this because I was once in a very similar situation. I got talking to this guy online - he was lovely, funny and easy to talk to. Physically though... Not my type. I agreed to meet him because his personality was so appealing - but I have to say I was nervous as hell, more nervous than usual because his photos did nothing for me and I was scared I was leading him on.

When I met him, I'll be honest it wasn't lust at first sight. But I gave it a chance. From the first kiss though... WOW.

I'm with him 2 years now and we've been living together for the last 3 months. So happy and attracted to him. Major sparks flew from that first kiss. I feel so rotten describing how I felt about him originally. It feels weird and so wrong too because I find him so attractive now. I love his looks - okay he's not a model or a head turner to most people but to me he's absolutely gorgeous inside and OUT.

My point is - You can't be sure if there's attraction until you actually meet the person. You could talk to someone online who looks like Brad Pitt but when you meet no chemistry. Attraction is a combination of so many elements.

The fact you've talked to him for two months is a great sign that you and him could have something there. Just - Give it a go.

Firetrap

I don't see that you've got a lot to lose by meeting him in person. He could be more attractive to you when you see him in person. Even if he was drop dead gorgeous, there'd be no guarantee that ye would have chemistry if you did meet. So give it a try and see what happens

I am in the "meet him in person" camp and see how things go. One date isn't going to lead anybody on, and chemistry might hit you

LegacyUser

Hey there OP, similar thing happened me and he was fab in person, great charisma and a lovely guy..do not go by the photo!
Just use common sense safety (e.g don't give him your address til you have dated a bit)

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone for the replies

Im going to go ahead and meet up with him sure what have i got to lose.....and maybe if nothing comes out of it sure theres always room for new friends.

Thanks again folk