ex or simply a fling?

Smiley G

had a 2/3 month hook-up with someone and ended it, not as easily as i would have liked.... they took it very badly and i did not really understand as thought it was all a little casual.
However this was ages ago and i did not remain friends (as they had requested) as we were not friends beforehand and i saw no reason to become friends afterwards.
Recently a couple of my friends have been out with them as they know the same people and are referring to them as my ex... This bothers me as I think it was not important enough to be classified as an actually relationship.
I would consider a relationship to be 2 or 3 years long .... not a couple of months!
Am i the only one who thinks this way?

Jesus Wept

Is this your biggest worry?

cordub

Smiley G wrote: »

had a 2/3 month hook-up with someone and ended it, not as easily as i would have liked.... they took it very badly and i did not really understand as thought it was all a little casual.
However this was ages ago and i did not remain friends (as they had requested) as we were not friends beforehand and i saw no reason to become friends afterwards.
Recently a couple of my friends have been out with them as they know the same people and are referring to them as my ex... This bothers me as I think it was not important enough to be classified as an actually relationship.
I would consider a relationship to be 2 or 3 years long .... not a couple of months!
Am i the only one who thinks this way?

I would consider people exes after going out with them more than a few times !! would you call people that you liked that dumped you your ex??

Saila

i you went out with them and it was understood between you and your friends you were going out then they become you ex if dump/dumped

jive

Look man god damn summer is coming. I'm talking mister freezes by the box; you got cola flavour, lime flavour and purple flavour up in there, I'm talking the whole enchilada. The other day I broke up with my girlfriend because she turned out to be a god damned poop hore ( http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056249999 ) and I've never been better. We're in a similar situation and there's nothing you can do at a time like this but throw on the flip flops, man. Kick back and pop open a bottle of west coast cooler and just be chillin like a villain.

We are single barbarians and are going to fill some babe holes this summer and have our wangs tasted. Life doesn't get much better than this, my friend.

orourkeda

Keep your knickers on next time

we'llallhavetea_old

wow, this IS a pickle op...

ArtSmart

The-Rigger wrote: »

Is this your biggest worry?

x 10

wtf is the issue?


image? actually i refuse to think about it.

nonsense.

beanie.

If it was something that had to be ended, then your an ex.

Smiley G

cordub wrote: »

I would consider people exes after going out with them more than a few times !! would you call people that you liked that dumped you your ex??

No.
I believe there is a difference between dating someone and then it turning into a full blown relationship. And that difference is time and knowledge.
I would refer to an ex only for someone i considered was a serious relationship not someone i went out with briefly.

ballsymchugh

i heard he has super aids.

ArtSmart

Smiley G wrote: »

No.
I believe there is a difference between dating someone and then it turning into a full blown relationship. And that difference is time and knowledge.
I would refer to an ex only for someone i considered was a serious relationship not someone i went out with briefly.

wait...you weren't blown??

ah, now i understand.

MrStuffins

If you've been with enough dudes that you have to slot them into a few different categories and ask advise on the internet as to what rules should qualify them to be slotted into each category....... then..........

ArtSmart

MrStuffins wrote: »

If you've been with enough dudes that you have to slot them into a few different categories and ask advise on the internet as to what rules should qualify them to be slotted into each category....... then..........

yes?




(sorry did you say slot or slut?)

RichieC

woes of the middle class... and they say the nurses have it tough.

General General

If you at least left some cement on the patio, then she's an ex-...

Abi

Smiley G wrote: »

had a 2/3 month hook-up with someone and ended it, not as easily as i would have liked.... they took it very badly and i did not really understand as thought it was all a little casual.
However this was ages ago and i did not remain friends (as they had requested) as we were not friends beforehand and i saw no reason to become friends afterwards.
Recently a couple of my friends have been out with them as they know the same people and are referring to them as my ex... This bothers me as I think it was not important enough to be classified as an actually relationship.
I would consider a relationship to be 2 or 3 years long .... not a couple of months!
Am i the only one who thinks this way?

You actually expect someone to stick around a few years before they find out if you're serious enough about them to say you're 'in a relationship'?


Get the boat.

Smiley G

yeah i'm getting from your replies that everyone thinks they're an ex.. or that it simply is not important.
Guess it really is a bit of a non-issue, but i'd had a few beers and the situation seemed bigger than it was...

... cheers AH for sorting it out!:D

General General

Smiley G wrote: »

yeah i'm getting from your replies that everyone thinks they're an ex.. or that it simply is not important.
Guess it really is a bit of a non-issue, but i'd had a few beers and the situation seemed bigger than it was...

... cheers AF for sorting it out!:D

Oh, you bastahrd... you'll pay for that!!!

Mrmoe

orourkeda wrote: »

Keep your knickers on next time

Blowjobs all the way:pac:

leggo

Smiley G wrote: »

had a 2/3 month hook-up with someone and ended it, not as easily as i would have liked.... they took it very badly and i did not really understand as thought it was all a little casual.
However this was ages ago and i did not remain friends (as they had requested) as we were not friends beforehand and i saw no reason to become friends afterwards.
Recently a couple of my friends have been out with them as they know the same people and are referring to them as my ex... This bothers me as I think it was not important enough to be classified as an actually relationship.
I would consider a relationship to be 2 or 3 years long .... not a couple of months!
Am i the only one who thinks this way?

Depends on the context. I'd call girls that I had flings for a couple of months an ex, even if we never made it official, simply because it's easier to say "I saw an ex there" in everyday conversation than saying "I just saw someone I had sex on a semi-regular basis but never actually went out in a serious, committed relationship with".

The latter's a bit jarring, ya know?

Smiley G

General General wrote: »

Oh, you bastahrd... you'll pay for that!!!

that was a genuine typo General, no badness intended. I've edited it already.

Abi

Smiley G wrote: »

yeah i'm getting from your replies that everyone thinks they're an ex.. or that it simply is not important.
Guess it really is a bit of a non-issue, but i'd had a few beers and the situation seemed bigger than it was...

... cheers AH for sorting it out!:D

Definitely. ex can mean ex-boyfriend, ex-fling, ex-husband, ex-wife etc. using 'ex' is just a lazier way of saying 'the person I used to go out with' or 'the person I was married to'.

TeddyTedson

Smiley G wrote: »

yeah i'm getting from your replies that everyone thinks they're an ex.. or that it simply is not important.
Guess it really is a bit of a non-issue, but i'd had a few beers and the situation seemed bigger than it was...

... cheers AH for sorting it out!:D

AH stands for Ass Hole, right:P

OutlawPete

Smiley G wrote: »

yeah i'm getting from your replies that everyone thinks they're an ex.. or that it simply is not important.
Guess it really is a bit of a non-issue, but i'd had a few beers and the situation seemed bigger than it was...

... cheers AH for sorting it out!:D

What a lovely person.

Pity the rest of After Hours wasn't as polite :mad:

General General

TeddyTedson wrote: »

AH stands for Ass Hole, right:P

OutlawPete wrote: »

What a lovely person.

Pity the rest of After Hours wasn't as polite

He called us all ass fucks

Smiley G

General General wrote: »

He called us all ass fucks

Jesus General..
I told you that was a typo...
I would not abuse people i was asking opinions from.

OutlawPete

General General wrote: »

He called us all ass fucks

What makes you think she's a he? He could be a she, couldn't he?

General General

OutlawPete wrote: »

What makes you think she's a he? He could be a she, couldn't he?

I hadn't thought of that... good point.

Well done.