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Foreign relationship

  • 26-04-2011 3:09pm
    #1
    Billy7878
    Closed Accounts Posts: 78 ✭✭


    I am one of the many Irish people who have to try and seek a life abroad, while seeking a place for me to settle down for a spell I have had a few flings with girls from various places, but I seemed to have settled for a slightly older girl that is probably dangerous in a lot of ways, she has told me about some of her exploits as regards a few threesomes and swinging parties, but is coy about a lot of her past as I feel she doesnt want to reveal to much so as to rule out a relationship forming with me, she floated the idea the other day when we were out partying that she likes the idea of a sort of cultural norm whereby each partner in a relationship has a lover on the side and also let slip that she has cheated on all of her previous boyfriends at some stage in the past, something she denied previously and seems to regret having told me now, Im not sure why as I feel honesty is probably for the best in this regard

    The thing is I dont think she is an outright maneater, she just is very very sexual and possibly a sex addict, but every sinue in my body is screaming danger at me when I think about getting more involved with her, but I do enjoy her company a lot, Im looking for external input to figure how best to thread here so as not to get hurt or played to much in this situation, she has a lot to offer me as regards friendship and different experiences while living abroad, but i know i need to be careful...


Comments

  • #2
    pickarooney
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 35,724 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    If exclusivity is important to you then there's no point in considering a relationship with someone who is polyamorous by nature, IMO.


  • #3
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Billy7878 wrote: »
    every sinue in my body is screaming danger at me when I think about getting more involved with her
    And you're not listening? Why not? I would.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #4
    S23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 526 ✭✭✭S23


    Jesus it's not rocket science. She has told you about her previous sexually promiscuous exploits (no harm in that as she could do what she wants), she also told you she's cheated on every partner she's had (way out of order and a serious red flag) and then mentioned the idea of a 'cultural norm' :rolleyes: where everybody has a bit on the side.

    Unless you don't mind her having a bit (or bits) on the side and are okay with the extreme likelihood of her cheating, and I get the distinct impression you wouldn't be okay with that, nevermind the possibility she may bring up threesomes and swinging then I'd say run a mile.


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