Big headed friend

budweiser90

I have this mate who is really cocky and he brags about everything. Don't get me wrong he's my best mate and I can talk to him about anything. It just really annoys me the way he slags me sometimes, its like he has to be better at everything in comparison to me. He even slags my looks sometimes (even though I've been told by many I'm a very good looking guy.)

It really does get to me and sometimes I just feel like punching him straight in the face to shut him up. At the same time he is one of my best mates and he's always there for me.

Does anyone have a mate with a similar personality. If so how the hell do you put them in their place!?

Pyr0

Tell him his digs at your looks are really starting to p*ss you off big time and can he cut it out. If he's anything of a friend to you he'd stop with the slags.

LegacyUser

To be honest, if hes slagging your looks then its likely that he doesn't actually think your ugly or anything because if you were and he is your best friend then he definitely wouldn't. I've a few friends who like to brag, generally they all have a very competitive relationship with siblings and it reflects in their social relationships with others. Does he have a sibling by any chance that is near enough his age? As for cockiness, personally I enjoy that trait in my friends, makes for some fun times if you don't take it too seriously.

budweiser90

I don't mind the bit of banter, but he's constantly doing it. Just wish he'd shut up sometimes. He has one older sister but he wouldnt really be in competition with anyone.

LegacyUser

budweiser90 wrote: »

I don't mind the bit of banter, but he's constantly doing it. Just wish he'd shut up sometimes. He has one older sister but he wouldnt really be in competition with anyone.

So tell him that. To me it looks like he believes its banter and is going over the top not realizing its genuinely bothering you. Seems to easily fixed if you just sit him down and explain that hes getting on your nerves.

LegacyUser

My best mate built a house with his wife and is living down in the sticks. I'm delighted for both, he is a great mate but today chatting he said in a joking matter that i could only dream about a house like his. Fcuk you. If i wanted to live in shíte hole i could but i like Dublin. If i moved to the sicks i could build a house easly. He lost fifty euro on national today, he backed 6 horses but i had the winner, he wasn't impressed.

Everyone has friends like that.

elbee

OP, we all have that mate I think. . . or did have!

He may not realise he's doing it - if he makes a comment about your looks that you don't like, I'd say something like 'Ah, here, I wouldn't say that about you,' and change the subject. If he keeps it up, I'd say 'Jesus, you're really going to town on me tonight, are you feeling threatened or something?' Keep it jokey for as long as you can, and if it *still* doesn't stop, then I'd say something like 'Seriously, man, I don't make nasty comments about how you look, it's rude, knock it off.'

And if he says you're oversensitive, point out that he's the only person you know who does it

As for the bragging, it's almost impossible to call someone on that without looking jealous. I hate to say this but that's one you may just have to learn to laugh at.

Salty

I know exactly how you feel. Lately, I've had a few friends turn 18 so I've been out more often with them for birthdays and that. Last month, I was clubbing with some of the girls for a birthday, and I had a lot of guys approach me, all of whom I turned down because I have a boyfriend. It's a regular occurance, and I don't think much of it.

In school on the following Monday, I was late, and one of my closest friends (who hadn't been out because she was underage at the time) had heard about all of my "admirers" at the weekend, and was so jealous about it, I couldn't believe it. Me and the others were having a laugh about it, but she was intent on tearing me down, subtley saying things that basically said I'm not all that good looking or whatever. I was completely bewildered by her.

She has since turned 18, and I was out with her on a mystery tour with the rest of the 6th year group. We were in the club dancing, and I got the usual drunktards approaching me, and she got none, and she wouldn't stop going on about how she couldn't understand that I got so much attention and she didn't.

It's really annoying, and I'm constantly having to convince her of how gorgeous she is so she won't have a sulk at me. At the same time though, she's full of herself about her appearance and her figure. I don't get it.

Just to add in to all this, I'm in no way cocky about what I look like. I'm not a model or anything (I'm only 5'1"), and I never tell my friends about what happens when I'm out, or make a big deal of it. The rest of my friends think it's funny, but she makes such a big thing out of it.:(