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In love with 2 of my best(girl) friends? confuzed

  • 23-04-2011 2:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Dunno if this is weird, am i confuzing romantic love and platonic. i prob seem like soo gay but i love them!!!!!!!!

    Is this normal? can someone explain it. When my friends found out (guy friends) they are like 'you fancy any girl at talks to you' but that's not it. I was really shy and never had girlfriends (friends) until i was 19, even though i know them my whole life coz they live in my estate. I love being friends with them, my point is if I find another girl I'll have to love her a lot a hell of lot to love her so much more than these 2 girls. Am I confusing love for friendship or love for them? Has anyone been in this position?

    People think am weird but to me it makes sense.


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  • #2
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    gecp92 wrote: »
    i prob seem like soo gay but i love them!!!!!!!!

    Sounds like you have some growing up to do.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 3,505 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Sometimes when girls are close to a male friend they start treating them like a surrogate boyfriend. I've seen it happen with friends of mine, where (with the exception of actually getting with them) they treat a male friend like they're his girlfriend. Often these girls already have boyfriends, but they enjoy the male care and attention they get from the friend also. It's not on purpose or anything, but it sometimes goes bad, when the male friend starts feeling closer and closer to the girl and really does adopt the non-sexual boyfriend number 2 position. This never ends well, as it has a big impact on the guy's relationships/potential relationships with other girls. He has put the girl on an unrealistic pedestal, which neither the girl herself or any other girl can actually achieve.

    Now I couldn't possibly tell you if this is your position or not, and it's great that you have such close female friends, but be careful. Don't leave yourself closed off to other relationships, in denial of the fact you may be subconsciously waiting around for one of these girls to love you.


  • #4
    johnboysligo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 388 ✭✭johnboysligo


    here is a little question to ask yourself.
    Could you see yourself dating or having a romantic relationship any of these women?

    If the answer is yes then you might be in love.
    If the answer is no then you might just be feeling a very strong platonic love for your friends.



    p.s. that question has a lot of holes in it ill admit but if it helps the op figure some stuff out then its worth asking and he is the only person who can figure this out at the end of the day.


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