More family issues

David09

Following on from this thread:
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056229577

I was totally furious at the time about what was going on, but took the advice, knuckled down with my studies and eventually forgot about the event.

However, now I'm in another situation, this time concerning my mother.

I grew up with my mother as a single parent. We lived with my grandmother who was a very difficult person to deal with. She had a hold over my mother from moving out as she promised to leave the house to my mother as long as she took care of her.
I had two really nasty uncles who utterly despised my mother, both for being a single parent and because the house was to be left to her.
They were both married and settled in high paid jobs.
However, they had an influence on my grandmother, telling her how to "deal" with my mother and making "veiled" attacks on her through winding my grandmother up against her which would result in rows.
In late 97, it all came to a head. My grandmother had an accident and my uncles accused my mother of not taking care of her properly. They put her in a nursing home, ejected my mother and I forcefully from the house, chopped up all our furniture and belongings, including school books (I was 14 at the time), and eventually got her to change her will.
They never told my mother what nursing home my grandmother was admitted to. They wouldn't reveal this information as they had her exactly where they wanted her to be so they would benefit.
When we eventually located my grandmother 10 months later by means of a local T.D., she had died a few months previously and my uncles hadn't informed us of her death. This was a massive blow to my mother.

Fast forward 14 years. My mother is has dug up medical evidence detailing that her mother was not in a mentally fit state to have sold her house or make wills.
I've had this checked out legally at great expense but the issue is with time limits.
I feel that since so much time has passed that she should just move on and forget about the shocking stuff that happened but she dogmatically won't. She wants to take her brothers and the solicitor dealing with my late grandmother's affairs to court.
She won't talk about anything else only this stuff and to be honest it's beginning to frighten me. She has alienated everyone around her, cost me massive money in legal fees but she just won't drop this stuff. I'm a mature student, living at home with her and have exams coming up soon and really have more practical stuff to worry about.
She follows me around the house talking about it.
I just can't take any more of it.

Fentdog84

I can never understand why people/families get themselves into these kind of situations, for what? A bloody house or a bit of land? Nothing much you can do OP, its your mothers battle and you are entitled to live your own life without being dragged into the whole sorry mess if you dont want to..You just have to switch yourself off from it.