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  • 19-04-2011 12:05pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Been invited to a wedding next month& am considering inviting a work colleague. Bad idea, or go for it?


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  • #2
    Peanut2011
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    unless you are friends outside of work than bad idea!


  • #3
    cantdecide
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    Will need more info on your relationship with this person at work and outside of work...


  • #4
    hondasam
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    how friendly are you and this person?

    Do you fancy person ?


  • #5
    ongarboy
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    It's difficult when we don't know what existing interaction/relationship you already have with this colleague. Is there another workmate you can ask who knows both of you and might be in a better position to advise? My cousin invited a colleague she knew to a wedding and it went fine. I don't think there were any romantic intentions so that complication was removed.

    I'm guessing you are posting this question as you fancy this person also as I suspect if they were a mate or even a colleague that you already have a laugh with in the canteen/ work nights out/by the watercooler etc you would feel comfortable in casually asking. I still say go for it if you know that person is definitely single but it would be important that you know them fairly well enough already and would have had workplace craic/non work conversations with them. Otherwise, popping the question to them when you never previously discussed non work stuff with them could come across as sudden at best or creepy at worst. Good luck!


  • #6
    SheRa
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    If it is a date, then a wedding is a lot of pressure for a first date. You would be better going for a drink or a coffee with them.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
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    Meet once every few weeks, talk generally about work. Invite would be totally platonic


  • #8
    [Deleted User]
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    Invite your colleague if it's a +1 for the wedding you want. No one likes going to weddings on their own so your colleague will understand that you're just looking for a +1. Say you'd like to have someone to bring and it'll be good fun. However if it's a date you're looking for rather than a +1, ie. you want to form a relationship with your colleague, then no, don't bring them to the wedding. It will be a very personal event, quite possibly you'll have family members there, and there's also the fact that it will be your first date but everyone will be asking about your relationship and future (don't know why it's seen as so appropriate at weddings but it seems to be a trend). It'll probably be a bit heavy and possibly freak your date out too.


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