How do you make friends in this country?

letsallgotothe

Is it just me but outside of predefined circles of friends like the people you went to school/college with or to a lesser degree the people you work with, its pretty hard to get to know new people. And i dont mean for a quick shag down at coppers but like actual real friends...

What do you do to step out?

liah

You have to go to the pub. Non-drinkers are fecked. I didn't drink at all before I moved to Ireland, but I had to once I got there else I wouldn't've met anyone at all.

Haven't had more than a handful of drinks since I left, either.

ejmaztec

letsallgotothe wrote: »

Is it just me but outside of predefined circles of friends like the people you went to school/college with or to a lesser degree the people you work with, its pretty hard to get to know new people. And i dont mean for a quick shag down at coppers but like actual real friends...

What do you do to step out?

Just pay them a weekly retainer.

admiralofthefleet

go to the pheonix park after dark

NothingMan

Met a load of new friends right here through boards socials since last September. All about getting out, doesn't need to be a beers, but it usually is.

L'prof

letsallgotothe wrote: »

Is it just me but outside of predefined circles of friends like the people you went to school/college with or to a lesser degree the people you work with, its pretty hard to get to know new people. And i dont mean for a quick shag down at coppers but like actual real friends...

What do you do to step out?

Get pissed and start a fight.
Apologise the next time you meet and buy him a pint.
You now have a new friend.

hondasam

go to the next beers night and meet all the people on here.

you will probably be sorry you asked this question.

Raze_them_all

I only talk to two people from school, my cousin and my neighbour. Go get a hobby, get involved with local stuff etc

Nolanger

letsallgotothe wrote: »

What do you do to step out?

GAA/rugby/musical societies/church choir/Freemasons

Kylo Ren

Give great blowjobs

Raze_them_all

Nolanger wrote: »

GAA/rugby/musical societies/church choir/Freemasons

Freemasons< stonecutters tbh

PeakOutput

go to school

go to college

go to work

play gaa or soccer or rugby

thats how the vast majority do it

TeddyTedson

Just talk to people when you're out and if you get on with them take their number and give them a ring next time you're going out.
Most people generally want to get to know other people too I think so they're not going you're a stalker or anything:P

Daegerty

I suppose you could join a gun club or something if you're not into drinking

Aoifey!

Most of the people I know that aren't school/college I met in the pub. It's just the way Ireland is I guess, want to meet people then go get pissed.

Poor Craythur

I find I collect a handful from friends from different stages in life and they accumulate. School, then college, then work. But I admit, work friendships are the hardest to strike up.

I've made some friends right here on boards though. And some foes. :mad::p

hondasam

Poor Craythur wrote: »

I find I collect a handful from friends from different stages in life and they accumulate. School, then college, then work. But I admit, work friendships are the hardest to strike up.

I've made some friends right here on boards though. And some foes. :mad::p

why do you think work friendships are the hardest ?

Poor Craythur

hondasam wrote: »

why do you think work friendships are the hardest ?

IME, people just treat work as work and the people that work there go along with that.

hondasam

Poor Craythur wrote: »

IME, people just treat work as work and the people that work there go along with that.

sometimes it is easier to keep work and personal life separate. I generally find with work friends we just talk about work. It can get boring on nights out. Do you have work nights out ?

I think I agree on the work friendships bit, work is for work. I've made acquaintances and we've done social stuff outside of it, but it is harder.

Poor Craythur

hondasam wrote: »

Do you have work nights out ?

Not really, no.

hondasam

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Not really, no.

Is that because it is a small place or people are not interested ?

pragmatic1

letsallgotothe wrote: »

Is it just me but outside of predefined circles of friends like the people you went to school/college with or to a lesser degree the people you work with, its pretty hard to get to know new people. And i dont mean for a quick shag down at coppers but like actual real friends...

What do you do to step out?

Pub.

Poor Craythur

pragmatic1 wrote: »

Pub.

I don't find it a great for striking up friendships, TBH. Definitely you can have some craic with randomers in the pub but it rarely goes farther than that.

Raekwon

Yeah I'd agree that the pub is probably the best place to meet friends outside of work/school/college.

You could also look into joining a sports club that incorporates social events, I used to meet up with that lads on my astro footie team for paintballing, go-karting etc, but 9 out of 10 times the pub was the preferred option.

Poor Craythur wrote: »

I've made some friends right here on boards though. And some foes. :mad::p

Hi!

Poor Craythur

Raekwon wrote: »

Hi!

Grrrr.

Captain Darling

I dont make friends in the pub, i go there with my friends to socialise. Down through the years i've made friends through school, work, sport, music and even here. Inevitably though we always seem to end up in the pub.

Its our culture to meet in pubs, on the continent they do it in cafes. The drinking culture is synonymous with friendship, even though the friendships mightnt have started in the pub.

pragmatic1

Poor Craythur wrote: »

I don't find it a great for striking up friendships, TBH. Definitely you can have some craic with randomers in the pub but it rarely goes farther than that.

Met some of my best mates in my local. Sharing a house with people is also a very good way to make mates as long as they arent insane.

Jaxxy

I found my circle of friends increasing through mutual acquaintances. We'd be out on a night out, a friend would bring one of their friends I hadn't met, and it just kept growing like that. My closest friends though are the ones I've had since school.

Boards is a great way to meet people too, but has already been said, that usually involves drinks (at least it does at first). Unfortunately our social culture revolves almost entirely around the boozer OP, sorry about that.

Oranage2

Secondary school, work and college seem to be where i made my friends. im thinking about joining some sort of club to increase my friend numbers as they are starting to dwindle

EverEvolving

JaxxYChicK wrote: »

I found my circle of friends increasing through mutual acquaintances. We'd be out on a night out, a friend would bring one of their friends I hadn't met, and it just kept growing like that. My closest friends though are the ones I've had since school.

I've met quite a few like that actually, especially from mates from college who come down for the weekend and bring other mates along that live in my area and often we have end up closer than they were ... just realised I'm a friend thief, oops!

Well not really, but if I'm at something and I know someone that would like to do it too I always invite them and it grows from there.

Poor Craythur

pragmatic1 wrote: »

Met some of my best mates in my local. Sharing a house with people is also a very good way to make mates as long as they arent insane.

Maybe it's because I don't have any set local that has regular clientèle. Maybe if I did, friendships would build up.

St.Spodo

One of the best things you could do would be to join a sports club. It's a really good way to make friends, especially when you play team sports. Nightclubs are not good for meeting new friends, groups tend to keep to themselves.

Saila

letsallgotothe wrote: »

Is it just me but outside of predefined circles of friends like the people you went to school/college with or to a lesser degree the people you work with, its pretty hard to get to know new people. And i dont mean for a quick shag down at coppers but like actual real friends...

What do you do to step out?

Its a myth that it all revolves around the pub, you just need to get new interests which involve others and there you go

southsiderosie

When I first moved to Ireland I joined some of the groups on meetup.com and ended up making a good circle of friends. But come to think of it, they were all other foreigners.

I did have one Irish friend, but he had been living abroad for years, had just moved back, and was finding it hard to make friends.

Oops, I think we are back to where we started...

lorsric

Join a club, join online dating websites and start chatting to people, be bold, be brave and most of all have fun
Noone likes a grump, so be friendly and fun to be around.

Daegerty

Go to mass?:pac:

Phoenix Park

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

go to the pheonix park after dark

leave me alone,i'm full to the brim at this stage

Poor Craythur

Saila wrote: »

Its a myth that it all revolves around the pub, you just need to get new interests which involve others and there you go

I don't know, I reckon it's a big part of it.

ballsymchugh

liah wrote: »

You have to go to the pub. Non-drinkers are fecked. I didn't drink at all before I moved to Ireland, but I had to once I got there else I wouldn't've met anyone at all.

Haven't had more than a handful of drinks since I left, either.

no we're not.

Mr. CooL ICE

ballsymchugh wrote: »

no we're not.

Very ballsy statement there, mister mchugh

Dangerous Man

You need to get involved in business - be high-powered, adaptive, and ruthless. There's nothing like the back and forth between business partners in the boardroom; when a big deal is being done, you can smell the power in the air - it's elemental. Get into big business - it's the best. I'd recommend that you begin by befriending the son of a man who is the head of a union in a troubled, but ethically sound airline. If you can, take this young man under your wing, so to speak, and convince him to convince his skeptical father than you'll protect the jobs of the workers in the event of buying out the company. Once you've bought out the company, sell it off in pieces to the highest bidder - profit. Friends made.

Saila

Poor Craythur wrote: »

I don't know, I reckon it's a big part of it.

it all depends what you are into really, if you like to spend most of your hours of socialising in a pub then yes its a big part of it, if you have other interests then not so much.

Azureus

As everyone has said, it depends what youre involved in.
My main friendship circle evolved through hanging out with a couple of people from school and the circle has widened over the years with new friends of friends becoming integrated into our group whether it was through nights out / bowling / cinema / movie nights in someones house, whatever. My other close circle of friends I met at a aquaintances 21st-turned out myself and his friends clicked more than myself and him and theyve been close friends of mine ever since!

Other than that Ive a circle of mates from work, a circle of friends from dance classes, a few friends from college... get out, meet people and maintain contact with them-it evolves into friendships.

holystungun9

Buy a house with them. With prices going up you'd be stupid not to buy.
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