Does anyone else think this is strange behavior from Someone?

LegacyUser

Does anyone else think this is strange behavior from someone?
ok il go into it by detail

Im seeing a girl roughly a few weeks now

I get on great with her and that-the only problem is is she wont go anywhere with me in public , we just had one date before and she brought a friend along I havd only met one of her friends by the way ,whenever i see her I go to her house.we never meet anywhere now except in her house, as well there has been times I would be supposed to call into her at a certain arranged time and she ring and say she was having friends offer still call but at a later time that night, I have asked her countless times and offered to bring her out for dinner or cinema but always an excuse not to go, I now I know some will say it sounds like shes married or with someone, but shes not, someone I know who knows her comfirmed she don,t have any partner, so that,s not the reason she won,t go anywhere outside the house, I find that strange she don,t wanna be seen with me in public, Im split whether give it time for her to come around or ask her out straight asap what the problem or issue is.

Kevin Duffy

She may just not want you to get too involved in her life too soon, so that if it doesn't work out it's easier to split, for both of you.

She may really like being openly affectionate, but not in public.

She may have no money and not want you to be paying for everything.

She may be a vampire, under house arrest, or agrophobic.

It's all just guesses until you ask her and she is the only one that knows.

Miss Fluff

Ask her why. Just bring it up and see what she has to say. My guess would be she may be skint.....

S23

I agree that the girl might not want to rush things or get too serious too soon but, to answer the title of your question, yes it is strange behaviour. The only thing you can do is talk to her about it in a mature and level headed manner. We could guess here all day as to her motives but only she knows.

You'll have to talk to her if you want to know. If you're happy shes not seeing anyone else then fair enough but that was the first thing that came to mind with me.

lace

I suppose it depends on her age, living situation, past and experience. Can't really say whether it's strange or not without knowing someone's situation.

For example, if she's young or inexperienced with dating she may want to take things slowly. If she lives at home with her parents they may be very strict about where she can/cannot go. Maybe public situations make her nervous or there's someone she's trying very hard to avoid. Perhaps she just can't afford to go out.

There is something keeping her from wanting to go out in public with you and while it could be trivial, there's also a chance it's something that's a major problem for her and she may just be too embarrassed to talk to you about it.

If you really like her, get to know her a little better. Find a way to politely ask her why she doesn't want to go out on dates with you. Be patient, and explain that you just want to understand because you'd really like to have some fun dates with her.

Good luck!

HugoDrax

She might just be using you for sex and just keeping you in her back pocket while she waits for something better or while she sees other people at the same time? Perhaps some women compartmentalize their life into boxes with the right hand not knowing what the left hand is dong? Perhaps anything? Who knows unless you ask her? She's not going to tell you what is really going on unless you confront her about it.
And be mindful at the same time that curiosity killed the cat - she might end it and you'll never see her again and you might never know what was going on.
Up to you.

FortyPlusHubby

In her last relationship her boyfriend gave her a hard time. He was abusive to her, and when they split he said he'd kill her (or himself, or you) if he saw her with another man.

Of course it's all just idle speculation. I'd ask if I were you though

40pH

DOBBER112

For such early days, shouldn't this be like the honeymoon period where you both can't get enough of each other?!
In my opinion if shes not really making much effort, not even bothering to come to your place and maybe even not pushed about being seen with you in pubic I would gauge that shes just not really that into you. If shes already playing with your head aren't you better off minus the head wreck?
Sure if you like ask her for an explanation but just be honest with yourself, at the end of the day if she isn't making you happy then is it time to move on?

Good luck anyway