Unfair to gays in cyberspace

easychair

Hi guys. I have been a regularish poster on message boards on and off over the years. Like many other I guess, life sometimes becomes busy and I close my account, and then when things quieten down it occurs to me to open an account again. Recently I registered for a gaire account, remembering them in the past to be a fun place to post with like minded gay people.

However, I was amazed to see that the owner of that site deleted a members account and gave, as the reason, "Nathan was harmless enough at first but it became too disruptive when 10 people were jumping on every post he made about his dubious relationship / wedding. Many of us thought he was making it all up it seems."

In other words, because of the actions of 10 people jumping on this guys posts, he was banned. Not for his own actions, but for the actions of 10 other people. the thread is here http://www.gaire.com/e/f/view.asp?parent=1344412&nav=9
I have closed my account on gaire as I don't want to be part of a site which is so apparently nasty to delete an accouint because of the actions of other people, as I hate the unfairness and lack of any sort of natural justice in such a rotten decision.

I had assumed that gay people stick together , as there is enough prejudice and hatred elsewhere.

Have you ever been unfairly treated in cybersapce, and what did you do about it? What can you do about it?

AndrewJD

easychair wrote: »

Have you ever been unfairly treated in cybersapce, and what did you do about it? What can you do about it?

Not much, not much and not much.

bitter_lemon

i got banned from gaire but i can't really complain as i was given loads of chances. i don't know the circumstances there so i can't comment.

my thread got locked here. i'm sure it was done for a reason. i can be controversial at times :rolleyes:
i like to challenge things. on a forum it is hard to tell where someone is coming from. people construe things to suit their own agenda.

Aard

Gaire is small and niche; Boards is huge and general. As such, the latter has more "mature" moderation rules (...most of the time), like when it comes to banning. In fact, I don't think there's ever a/c deletion going on; usually it's just a permaban. Btw, I'm talking about Boards at large here, which would then have a trickle effect on the various subforums.


Generally speaking (and this applies to every last one of the internet forums I frequent): the smaller the forum, the more unnecessarily strict the moderation, the less "community" that is fostered, the quicker its demise, the fewer people who join, da capo al fine.


Answer: encourage posting (debate, q&a, chit-chat, even drivel), rid over-modding. I've seen it happen time and again, by no means just on gay forums. The problem with niche is that everybody only talks about niche. Add to it the emotionally heightened topic of sexual orientation, and things go downhill relatively quickly.


I can see it happening here, again ffs. I log on this morning to find a locked thread; it was like Christmas Debacle mk II. Note the LCD. Just sayin' is all.

Asry

ha, I don't know if this counts, but lesbians have been really mean to me on various forums and communities through the years! Apparently I have no right to be there because I'm bisexual? I'm familiar with erasure, of course, but that's taking it a bit mean. It happens in RL too. I don't mean to go aggro on the gay/lesbian community here, so I hope nobody takes it like that.

Chuchoter

Aard wrote: »

Gaire is small and niche; Boards is huge and general. As such, the latter has more "mature" moderation rules (...most of the time), like when it comes to banning. In fact, I don't think there's ever a/c deletion going on; usually it's just a permaban. Btw, I'm talking about Boards at large here, which would then have a trickle effect on the various subforums.


Generally speaking (and this applies to every last one of the internet forums I frequent): the smaller the forum, the more unnecessarily strict the moderation, the less "community" that is fostered, the quicker its demise, the fewer people who join, da capo al fine.


Answer: encourage posting (debate, q&a, chit-chat, even drivel), rid over-modding. I've seen it happen time and again, by no means just on gay forums. The problem with niche is that everybody only talks about niche. Add to it the emotionally heightened topic of sexual orientation, and things go downhill relatively quickly.


I can see it happening here, again ffs. I log on this morning to find a locked thread; it was like Christmas Debacle mk II. Note the LCD. Just sayin' is all.

Well tbh its only a matter of time until we have another major Christmas Debacle in my own opinion, but anyway.

I think problems arise within forums when they get too cliquey and there is a group of people who've been there for ever who exclude everyone else, thats happened on a fair few forums I've been in. In terms of moderation, just don't be an idiot and you won't get banned.

Asry

what was the Christmas Debacle? My interest has been aroused

Annasopra

Easychair

This forum will be not be used as a vehicle for you to bitch about another forum. If you have a problem with gaire then contact them

http://www.gaire.com/e/f/options/contact.asp

Everyone else. I locked the thread about transgender parents because there was just too much hostility going on.