So, what are my prospects?

wobblyknees

Of maybe meeting someone? I am separated but I have 3 young kids who live with me at weekends. I've slowly been coming round to the realisation that I will be enjoying single life for a long time!

Otis Driftwood

Moved from tGC.

Vicxas

Honestly you'd be surprised, my first bit of advice is not to put yourself down!

LegacyUser

You don't say if you're male or female.... if you're male chances are you will be with someone new soon. However, if you are female it may take longer.
Don't know why but guys seem to hook up much sooner than the girls.
Someone told me that its cause they can't be on their own - I know lots who are on their own and happy with it. But if you are male, and want a partner, you'll get one.
For women, its more difficult, they are up against younger models so to speak!
i.e. a 37 year old woman "chasing" a 40 year old on a night out can be up against 20 year olds for the same guy (make sense?)
Anyway, good luck.
Like the other poster says, focus on the positives.
Advice I was given was..... don't look and you'll find love!

wobblyknees

Sorry, should have said, I am male. I don't know whether I am really 'looking' as I have quite an active/busy life and like I said, my kids are with me at weekends which I love. Maybe this is where the question stems from. Am I leaving enough time in my life for someone else? I think it would be great to meet someone with the same interests as me. This is something I haven't really experienced before in a relationship. The other thing is, I don't drink/smoke, so I'm not really 'out there' so to speak, as far as pubs/clubs are concerned anyway. I do want to meet someone in time, this much is true, but I'm not quite sure how to approach it.

Emme

You're male - your prospects are excellent.

wobblyknees

Emme wrote: »

You're male - your prospects are excellent.

I suppose only time will tell.

bubblebrain

Good luck!

wobblyknees

bubblebrain wrote: »

Good luck!

I suppose without any plan, luck is the way to go!

Emme

Join any online dating site and you'll be beating the women off after a matter of hours. I give it no more than 2 months before you're happily coupled up again if you put any sort of effort in.

wobblyknees

Emme wrote: »

Join any online dating site and you'll be beating the women off after a matter of hours. I give it no more than 2 months before you're happily coupled up again if you put any sort of effort in.

Seriously? I get the distinct impression that my kids will be a bit of a turn off for most women.

Emme

wobblyknees wrote: »

Seriously? I get the distinct impression that my kids will be a bit of a turn off for most women.

It depends what age women you're interested in. If you're looking for women in and around your own age there's a chance that they too will have children so why would you having children be a turn-off?

If you're looking for someone a good bit younger than yourself (as many men in your position do) it might take you a bit longer but I don't see why children would be a turn off for any reasonable woman. If a woman finds your children to be a turn off would you want to be with her?

bubblebrain

wobblyknees wrote: »

Seriously? I get the distinct impression that my kids will be a bit of a turn off for most women.

Not necessarily. I went out with a guy who devoted his weekends to his son and I respected the fact that his son was such an important priority in his life but I guess it depends on the person really.

Life and people are not all uniformed - all our situations are different and most people come to a relationship with some sort of baggage whether it be children or bad past experiences or personality traits.

wobblyknees

Emme wrote: »

It depends what age women you're interested in. If you're looking for women in and around your own age there's a chance that they too will have children so why would you having children be a turn-off?

If you're looking for someone a good bit younger than yourself (as many men in your position do) it might take you a bit longer but I don't see why children would be a turn off for any reasonable woman. If a woman finds your children to be a turn off would you want to be with her?

I'm interested in meeting someone my own age (early 30s). I'm definitely not looking to meet someone a good bit younger than myself. I suppose though that if I met someone, age shouldn't really be a deciding factor. And in answer to your question, if a woman found my children to be a turn off then no, I wouldn't want to be with her. They are too important to me!

wobblyknees

bubblebrain wrote: »

Not necessarily. I went out with a guy who devoted his weekends to his son and I respected the fact that his son was such an important priority in his life but I guess it depends on the person really.

Life and people are not all uniformed - all our situations are different and most people come to a relationship with some sort of baggage whether it be children or bad past experiences or personality traits.

Ok, maybe I'm a little guilty of pre-judging what will happen then. I know I've no real way of knowing, but I am apprehensive based on the bad experience(s) I have been through. I guess this is what you mean though. We all tend to have our 'baggage'.

um7y1h83ge06nx

I think people are being a little too optimistic here.

Dating sites do work, although I have found that they are sometimes a bit like a cattle mart. where men are the cattle and women the farmers (that's one strange analogy!). Women tend to get a little inundated by men contacting them so they essentially have the choice of 'picking'.

Overall I guess it depends on what you want really. I find it a lot easier to meet women now (I'm 28) than when I was younger. It's like a guy is attractive to a much wider age range of women. I have met women in the past year ranging from 21 to 37.

If you want something serious it's a lot trickier, but that's only my point of view. I sound a bit jaded here but I wonder with our busier, more complicated lives in this generation is it a lot harder to have relationship where both people reckon they have found the 'one' or a 'one'?

Best of luck.