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  • 01-04-2011 1:42pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok so i'm with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now but i'm not sure how i feel anymore. I guess what i'm wondering is what do other people feel after being with a partner for a number of years? Should i still be looking forward to going home to see him or is it normal that that feeling would disappear? Its not that i dont look forward to going home to him, i just dont really feel anything either way. When we hug/cuddle should it still feel the same as it did in the begining or will the feelings like that naturally fade a bit?

    Basically what i'm asking is if you are with someone a number of years, should you still be excited to see them? Should they still give you butterflies sometimes? Should they make you weak at the knees sometimes? Should you still melt into hugs like you did?


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  • #2
    Contessa Raven
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 642 ✭✭✭Contessa Raven


    Hi OP,

    I am with my partner the same amount of time and I have to say while I don't always get butterflies, I still get happy and excited when I know I'm going to see him. We don't live together atm, although we have in the past for college and I found that when I was going home in the evening's I'd be really excited about seeing him.

    I don't know about all relationships though. He's my first bf so I can't compare it to anything else.

    In my experience those things shouldn't disappear totally. They lessen to an extent because it becomes "normal" to see your partner all the time but I still have days where I feel I'm going to burst because I'm so in love with him.

    Although, maybe that's just me. :o

    CR


  • #3
    Azureus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,130 ✭✭✭Azureus


    Im with my boyfriend three and a half years and live with him. There is definately a mundane normality that comes with being with the same person for so long but theres ways around that. Spend time with friends / get out and do things / basically dont get into a rut!

    I look forward to going home to my boytoy every night, and when hes not around I do miss him. That said, there are days that I think 'Oh god, id love to be single, just for a while!' but they are very fleeting and if it was to be put into actuality I would be devastated, no doubt about it.

    You dont have to feel 'loved up' every second of every day to be in love or be happy with your boyfriend. But imo there still should always be a bit of spark and a bit of fun in the relationship because otherwise you will both get bored and grow apart.

    So in answer to your question, no i dont ALWAYS get butterflies, but I sometimes still do. I dont ALWAYS go weak at the knees but there are still sometimes that I see him and think 'daaaaamn! ;)'. I dont ALWAYS get super excited to see him, but I do always look forward to him being around.


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