help..

LegacyUser

hey guys, just looking for some advice.
so i've been going out with my boyfriend just over three years, i love him so much but at times i'm finding things hit me and i'm unhappy.
when we're together we always have a good time. there are a few problems though and they've been getting to me alot lately.
any time we get intimate i have to initiate it except on the odd occassion,
he never compliments me, dont get me wrong he'd always tell me he loves me but nothing like u look nice today or that.
i don't really know what help im looking for but sometimes i just feel upset and i think of us breaking up which i know i am not strong enough to do, i'd miss him way too much and could not bare to see him with someone else, but on the otherhand we have similar fights every few months.
i talk to him about the problems and he says that its not intentional and he tries his best, i just wish he could be more affectionate towards me

does anyone have any advice to offer me..

Ickle Magoo

Hi there,

If you are unhappy then you need to sit him down and spell that out. If this is a potential deal-breaker then he needs to know how serious an issue is. Once you've made him aware and he either can't or won't be as affectionate as you wish your relationships to be, then you either have to accept his limitations or find someone else who is more affectionate.

All the best. :cool:

lace

Don't settle.

If he's not giving you the care and affection you need and you're finding yourself more and more unhappy then sit him down and explain that it's a serious issue and that if he doesn't change his ways ye're going to have to talk about a break up. Be honest about all the things you have a problem with and prepare to hear his problems too. It may be that he's also not getting what he wants from the relationship or that he feels your behaviour is unreasonable. Talk it out and give the relationship a last chance to turn around.

If things don't change then don't be afraid to move on. I know it seems scary because you've been in this relationship for three years - but do you really want to spend another three years with a man who doesn't give you the affection you need?

Taltos

Op has he changed? Did he do all that before and now no longer compliments you?if so then talk to see what happened. If not, then why do you think you have the right to change him? Is it that you really should not be together?

I am a friend

Has your appearance changed since you met him?