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  • 29-03-2011 7:56am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Has anyone here had a friend not want to hang around them anymore? Someone acting distant and not answering phone calls anymore? Should I ask him why or would that seem needy? Or just forget about it?


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  • #2
    humanji
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,976 ✭✭✭✭humanji


    Personally, I'd ask them if anything was up. It's always possible that nothing is wrong and that you're just imagining them being distant. Or they may not want to talk about it and you may not be able to salvage the relationship. Either way, you won't know unless you ask them.


  • #3
    Ellie2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,123 ✭✭✭Ellie2008


    Defo ask Ive been going through a hard time at the moment and have cut contact with friends as I know if I meet up with them they'll know something is up and one of my friends is very touchy so I think she assumes its about her.


  • #4
    whatdoicare
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,398 ✭✭✭whatdoicare


    I agree with Ellie- I'm going through an insanely awful time and I can't seem to work up the energy to be meeting friends and pretending everything is okay.
    Don't be too pushy about it, one of my friends (we'll call her "friendA") started texting me asking what was up and I said I was crazy busy at work and just hadn't the time or money and she took it really personally and got a bit dramatic.
    Another friend, lets call her "friend B" just texted "no bother, when you're able we'll meet up" and I was relieved.
    Now I'm at a point where I don't feel guilted into meeting "Friend B" and let her call up for an hour one day when I was feeling really up for it and I called up to her once aswell. She understands just from meeting me that I'm not up for much craic and doesn't push it.
    Due to "Friend A's" drama, I keep putting off meeting her as I'm sure there's going to be a barrage of questions to follow and TBH I'm just not able for it. I'm always on the verge of tears and I just don't want to be sharing it with her.

    So, give yr friend some space, if she wants to meet you, she'll text/call/email you- she might be going through some stuff that you are unaware of.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    It's not that he is out of touch with everybody. I called to his house and he said he was going out soon. Then others called who I think he arranged to meet. The last time I met him before that he seemed in a big hurry It's small things like that.

    He lived nearby and maybe I called around too much. We also different political opinions and maybe we debated argued too much.

    How can I say to him without having an arguement?


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