Wedding Present Ettiquette?

Kazbah

Ok so a guy I am not very friendly with has invited me (on my own!) to his wedding. Nothing against the chap, he's a nice bloke we were friendlyish 2/3 years ago through a mutual friend but haven't kept in touch much bar xmas cards and the odd text. I've never met his girlfriend. Now they have invited me to their wedding. To be honest I'm a bit strapped for cash myself. I don't think I'll go to the wedding cos it's a while away from where I live and it's on a Thursday so I'd need 2 days off work. Should I send a present with the RSVP? They're moving to Dubai after the wedding so I guess they only need cash. What do ye think?

In general going to a few weddings over the summer, do people think the "going rate" is still the same regardless of ould recession. I think the going rate was/is e150-200 per couple. What do ye think? To be honest between dolling myself up, socialising the day, the hens and possibly overnight accommodation I'm stony broke from weddings over the last couple of years and now the wave of Christenings is starting!!

Sergio

If your not going to the wedding then i wouldnt give a present unless they are good friends of yours and you want to but by your post you said they werent so i wouldnt feel obliged to send anything if i were you.

ana_conda

I agree with the previous post you're way overly generous.

Have a read of this thread I think it will give you a good indication of what people expectation are.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056218131

Also a lot of people would be offended because of the invited alone part. I know friends who've falling out over that!

janbaby

I wouldn't give money! If your not going then I wouldn't give a present esp when your not even good friends.

I often think people invite old friends to be polite but secretly hope they won't come.

tinkerbell

Don't bother going and do not give any present. They are not close friends of yours so there is no need to give a present.