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Wedding Present Ettiquette?

  • 28-03-2011 11:38pm
    #1
    Kazbah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 764 ✭✭✭


    Ok so a guy I am not very friendly with has invited me (on my own!) to his wedding. Nothing against the chap, he's a nice bloke we were friendlyish 2/3 years ago through a mutual friend but haven't kept in touch much bar xmas cards and the odd text. I've never met his girlfriend. Now they have invited me to their wedding. To be honest I'm a bit strapped for cash myself. I don't think I'll go to the wedding cos it's a while away from where I live and it's on a Thursday so I'd need 2 days off work. Should I send a present with the RSVP? They're moving to Dubai after the wedding so I guess they only need cash. What do ye think?


Comments

  • #2
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    Cant see any reason why you'd send a present in this situation to be honest. Firstly , your not going to the wedding (often thats when you should give a present). Secondly your not even that friendly with him.
    If you actually want to send one, by all means do, but if you dont you are definitely not breaking any etiquette 'laws' here if you ask me.


  • #3
    Sibylla
    Closed Accounts Posts: 740 ✭✭✭Sibylla


    You might get better replies in the weddings forum.


  • #4
    Kazbah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 764 ✭✭✭Kazbah


    Sibylla wrote: »
    You might get better replies in the weddings forum.

    Ta wasn't sure where to put it.

    I kinda think feic it but would hate people saying I'm tight


  • #5
    mikemac
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19,986 ✭✭✭✭mikemac


    Were you invited to the whole day so wedding and meal and afters?
    That seems to be the case

    Or was it just the afters?


  • #6
    Staplor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,128 ✭✭✭Staplor


    No present. Just decline the rsvp.


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  • #7
    dory
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 4,574 Mod ✭✭✭✭dory


    Agree with the above. You definitely should not feel like you have to give them anything. Just decline the invite and let that be that.


  • #8
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,957 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    If you're not going to the wedding and are not particularly close to them, then there's no need to get a present. Just send a nice card and leave it at that.


  • #9
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    they should make combination toasters/waffle irons... but no I would think you shouldnt feel obligated to get them anything. Even if you went to the wedding, Im sure theyd appreciate a card or something but they arent going to shun you for getting one less free appliance or set of steak knives.


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