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  • 28-03-2011 12:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    ok, brace yourselves now.

    Ok, I'm nearly 25 and I should really know better, but I dont!

    September 2009 I started a course and within the 1st week I kissed a guy in my class, it was drunken so didnt think anything of it! A while later, I started seeing someone and the the guy who I kissed came out and said that he was mad about me! I said I was with someone and that nothing could happen! Turns out it did, we kissed a few times and I ended up breaking up with the other guy as it wasnt fair on him.

    This went on for months! Me and the guy from college got together for about 2 months, I ended it as he seemed quite clingy and possesive. He was upset about it but we remained friends as we had grown extremely close and we still are.

    Months went by and we did the casual kinda thing, suited both of us OR so I thought! His feelings were growing stronger and he told me he loved me last November! I replied with I love you too but not in the same way.

    Now dont get me wrong, I love him to bits, hes the best in the world and I would give my left arm to love him like he loves me!

    He has pursued me for nearly 2 years now! The problem I have is that there no spark there, the I cant keep my hands off you kind of thing!

    Now when he mentioned this to his friend, his friend said that I am looking for something that is not there, that after knowing eachother so long - its not going to be there all the time, admittedly it is there sometimes!

    I have just started seeing a guy, hes lovely and the spark is there with him!
    However, on paper he wouldnt be the guy I would go for whereas the other fella is in some ways!

    Anyways, the college guy wasnt pleased at all when I told him that I was seeing someone.

    Yesterday he gave me an ultimatum, cancel seeing the guy and do something with him - I told him there was no point as I dont do ultimatums.

    well when he realised last night that I wasnt showing to his house, he decided to go out on a date with a girl whos number he had gotten! he kissed her too!

    Ugh, it felt like I was kicked in the stomach badly! I just didnt want to imagine him kissing someone else.

    My head is just a minefield! and I wish it was clear for me!

    I dont want to let him go as I know our friendship wont be the same ever again!
    I do like the guy I'm seeing too!

    I'm just so confused as to whats going on in my head/heart :(


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  • #2
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    To be honest, you need to stop dating people until you know what you want.

    You kissed this guy, started seeing somebody else, cheated on him with the first guy, got together with the first guy, left the first guy but remained friends and are now seeing somebody else, knowing the first guy still has feelings for you, then get annoyed when he kisses somebody else.

    Sorry but you're just stringing guy number 1 along from the start and you need to either get with him or forget him.

    I'd say you should stay single until you actually know what you want, because it seems like you're hurting innocent people with your indecisiveness.


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