Not cumming during sex

LegacyUser

As per the title I very rarely cum during sex (I am male) no problems maintaining an erection etc but I guess a few lost years of too much porn and w**king has left me this way - I'm obviously enough stopping masturbating but i'm wondering if anyone here has had a similar problem - and basically when will it come back? (pun intended)

With a great girl now and very passionate sex, think i'm satisfying her and it's good fun but if this is at the back of my mind it's not helpful.

any ideas or experiences welcome please and thanks

Staplor

Are there condoms involved?

Extra safe can be a problem for some folk.

kevin99

Relax and enjoy it! Think of how wonderful your girlfriend is and how you love her and want her body.

LegacyUser

i know guys who would kill for the advantage you have.. you have the rare skill of a male porn star!....the majority of guys can't help cummin in less than ten minutes...its why a lot of girls are'nt big into sex...im male and i can say sex isnt about coming ....its game over as soon as you come...i like it to last as long as possible...have you tried getting her to come then getting a blow job? or are you dead set on cummin inside?

greengiant09

i had a similar problem and searched the net to see if anyone else was suffering from the same thing. i found that this is not that rare of a problem. it seems that you can develop this from watching too much porn....especially very graphic porn. people can unintentionally train their mind to be conditioned by very hardcore porn until eventually it's the only thing that really gets them off.

then when it comes to the real thing, they have problems either getting it up or cumming because their mind has become so conditioned to hardcore porn.

the solution they advised was to quit watching porn and quit masterbating. i know it's easier said than done but you got something worth quitting for. one guy found that he was back to normal again after a month without porn/****. another took him nearly 3 months.

i also heard that if you **** too aggressively, as in you cause the skin around your penis to become tougher, than when it comes to real sex, you may not be as sensitive as you should be down there. the advice here was to use certain creams to make the skin less firm and to quit the aggressive ****.

LegacyUser

I have a similar problem, what creams would you use?

LegacyUser

Don't worry whether or not you cum. Enjoy yourself, enjoy her. Plenty of ppl have a hang up about this when they shouldn't have! Speaking as a woman, once I enjoy the intimacy etc, it doesn't bother me if neither of us reach a peak, or just one of us does.

greengiant09

i can't remember what cream they recommended. i don't think it was anything fancy. could even be something like face moisturiser....anything that will soften up your skin. i think the important thing is to be a little bit careful when ****.....cos if you go at it too hard and the skin toughens up...then you will progressively have to go harder and harder to feel more sensation as your skin toughens up over time.