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How do I meet her again?

  • 27-03-2011 5:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm posting this here 'cause I don't know where else to turn. I was in a contract job for about six months that finished about exactly a year ago. I got a liitle close to a girl there for the first 3 months but after that I suffered a vicious bout of depression that messed up everything (thanks depression you really are a star).
    I don't want to go into the gory details but suffice to say it was a pretty terrible time for me (suicidal thoughts, insomnia, exhaustion, anxiety, you name it).
    I broke off contact with her in work during this time as mentally I was in a pretty bad way, I couldn't talk to anyone, it's hard to describe it unless you've been there (it was a miracle I finished the contract to be honest).
    She didn't say anything but I know from the way she looked at me she was wondering "what the hell is wrong with this guy?Why doesn't he talk to me anymore?". She maybe thought she did something wrong or offended me in some way.
    I also didn't have another job to go to after I finished so that made me reluctant to pursue a relationship as I was moving back home (away from the city the job was in)
    Anyway I finished up the job and I am a bit better now thanks to prescribed medication. I am also working again, back in the same city I was when I had the contract job as luck would have it.
    I am posting because I saw her crossing the street today but couldn't get her attention as I was driving. I'm absolutely gutted because I though she liked me but I blew it (again).
    I never really forgot about her, but seeing her again brought her to the forefront of my mind, it's really sickening.
    Don't know why I posted that drivel, thanks for reading it though.


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  • #2
    shotcaller
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 69 ✭✭shotcaller


    Hi Dara,

    Sounds like you're in a tough spot.

    How would you feel about sending her a message through FB or something. Or if you still have a mutual friend in the place you used to work?

    If she did like you there's a good chance she'd like to hear from you again. And even if she didn't, you don't have anything to lose. Do you know if she still works there?

    If you see her again, nothing wrong with a friendly beep of the horn and a quick wave! :D


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    shotcaller wrote: »

    How would you feel about sending her a message through FB or something.

    I don't think I'll do that; it would seem a bit weird after such a long time to contact her out of the blue.
    shotcaller wrote: »
    Or if you still have a mutual friend in the place you used to work?
    Yes but she's not that friendly with her.
    shotcaller wrote: »
    If she did like you there's a good chance she'd like to hear from you again. And even if she didn't, you don't have anything to lose. Do you know if she still works there?
    Yes she still works there. I don't know if she wants to meet me again; she is a woman for God's sake :-) (joke).
    I'd just love to be able to engineer a chance meeting with her without being creepy (stalking in other words). I know guys do that kind of thing all the time and it has worked for them but I don't want to, like I say; be creepy.
    The city I am talking about is quite small so there's a strong chance I could meet her again, particulary if I try to make it happen.


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