How To Stop Being Touchy Feely?

LegacyUser

I have been seeing a girl for the past 2 months and last week we finally decided to become a couple; she wanted to take it slowly, which I was happy about, as I wanted her to only want to commit to anything when she was ready. So I was delighted when she said yes.

I'm a very affectionate male - very touchy-feely (rubbing of hands, fingers through hair, kisses and things like that). She somewhat dislikes this when she is around other people, which is understandable. I've been making a massive effort to tone this down, because it's just who I've always been, just because I really think she is worth the effort. I'm trying to do everything right here so I'm becoming very conscious of how I am with her, but I'm finding it rather difficult, as I do sometimes forget and do it.

Is there any way for me to try and be less? I'm really struggling because it's just who I've been my whole life.

You say her feelings are understandable, but are you sure you do understand? Maybe if you took some time to think about how your public affection makes her feel then you'd find it easier to stop. Affection is a really great thing to experience, whether your the one giving it or receiving it. It's a real pity that by showing her affection in a way that makes her uncomfortable, you're turning that great experience into something she'll start associating with feeling uncomfortable. You'll turn affection into something she doesn't like. Remind yourself of that every time you realise you're doing it and I'm sure you'll begin to catch it earlier and earlier.