Is my ex interested?

LegacyUser

An ex of mine recently got back in touch with me on Facebook and I'm trying to work out if she's interested or not.

The background is that we went out with each other about 10 years ago but were only together about a month or so back then. I guess we were quite young then, she was 18/19 and I was 22/23 at the time. She was at university in the north and I was working down here so we only really seen each other at weekends. When we finished it seemed to be initiated mostly from her side, although I have to admit at the time I didn't really see it lasting forever and we had only been going out a month so it was no big deal.

After we finished, we only met up once after that (nothing happened) and we haven't seen each other since or been in contact at all in any way. That was about 10 years ago.

Just before Christmas I met up with a friend of mine and he told me he had seen her several months previously. I can't remember for sure but I'm almost certain he said that she had been asking about me.

Around Christmas just gone I looked her up on Facebook as I was single and sent her a message just saying hello and asking how she was etc. However she didn't reply. I thought that was fair enough and although we weren't friends on Facebook, I could see some limited info on her profile and wall so I'd seen she had been online several times after I sent the message. At that point I just assumed she wasn't interested in getting back in touch or anything and shortly after I started seeing someone else so I just forgot all about it and never really gave it a second thought.

Then about a month ago then she sent me a friend request on Facebook. I accepted it and shortly after she posted something on my wall asking how I was etc. I responded but she didn't seem to reply so I left it for a while. A few weeks later I posted something on her wall and we sent a few replies but it was mostly just chit-chat.

After this things went quiet and I checked out her profile earlier today and noticed my messages were missing from her wall so I guess she deleted them. I'm not particularly bothered by that though. I decided to send her a direct message this afternoon just asking how she was and her plans for the weekend etc. She responded a short while ago.

She finished off the message saying "cheers for the message, really good being in contact again, have a good weekend x"

The thing is I can't work out if she's interested again or not. Part of me thinks she is not as she hasn't really said anything obvious about wanting to meet up or anything. But then I'm wondering why she bothered adding me as a friend and getting back in touch again? I mean I sent her the initial mail which I assumed she ignored as she never replied to it. She could easily have just left it like that and I wouldn't have bothered her again.

I'm not sure if I should just leave things be or try and suggest something. I recently just finished with someone else and while we hadn't been together a long time, I'm not really looking to rush back into another relationship with someone else. Having said that, I'm kind of curious as to whether things might work out with me and my ex if we gave it a 2nd chance. However I've no idea if she's interested in me again or whether there's some other reason she decided to get back in touch.

Is she interested or just being friendly? What should I do?

LegacyUser

No, my fb status was set to single and didn't change. Me and the girl I was seeing never really had discussed or agreed to be bf and gf and both of us kept our statuses as single.

Faith

Sorry, but I can't see anything at all in your post to indicate she's interested. People I've hardly ever spoken to have added me on Facebook. It means nothing, sadly. You'd know if she was interested - that is, she wouldn't be ignoring your mails and comments.

Firetrap

Sorry, I'm not seeing anything in it either to suggest she's interested. She's not been exactly burning up bandwidth sending you messages, she has deleted some off her her wall and to be honest, her comment has politeness written all over it. Facebook friendships aren't always like real life ones but it could well be the ideal medium for her. That she can be friendly to you but still keep you at arm's length. I'm thinking that if she was more interested, she'd have made a move by now.

LegacyUser

I think you guys are probably right; she doesn't seem massively interested. I will leave things be and won't pursue it any further.

Thanks for the replies.