Loooonnnng distance relationship!

LegacyUser

Would appreciate any advise;

Basically, I have no job and a few friends are going traveling for the year (Possibly longer); i'm going to take the opportunity and go while i'm in position to do so!!
Question is what to do about relationship? Been with boyfriend for over two year and half years...

Stay in contact?
Or would zero contact be easier?

Anyone been in similar situation?
Thanks!

Stheno

moved from tLL

LambsEye

Don't think anyone can tell you what to do in this position. It totally depends on you and your boyfriend. If you guys are 100% happy and you see yourselves together in the forseeable future, then I would say stay together.

I did it, and I won't lie to you, it's the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Unfortunately it didn't work out for us. Just be aware going into it that it's very, very difficult, and your relationship will be tested hugely. BUT if you do it, then at least you know you've got something hugely special.

Kimia

I'm surprised you haven't thought of going with him somewhere?

Scarinae

Really it depends on the couple, you'd be best off talking to your boyfriend and seeing what his thoughts on the matter are. Have a think about what you want as well. If you stay together - will you trust him being at home, with other girls around? What will you do if you meet someone else on your travels? Can you manage not talking every day, and knowing that you don't know everything that's going on in each other's lives anymore? Are you prepared to spend money on flights to visit each other? Will you resent being 'tied down' to your boyfriend at home, or will you be homesick for him?

I'm in a long-distance relationship myself. I've been with my boyfriend nearly four years and in that time I've spent one summer in Central America, he's spent two summers in Kenya, I've lived in London for a year and a half, and he's spent nearly a year in Namibia. We've managed so far, but it can be tough at times. What gets us through is trust, communication and the fact that we really like each other. It isn't for everyone though, and plenty of people probably think we're mental to even try it. I'm flying over to Namibia on Tuesday to see him for the first time in about six months.

aquarian_fire

It depends on your feelings towards him really. Do you want to try to stay with him when you head off or do you want to be single while you're away? Do you see yourself with/without him in your future? They're really tough questions to answer and really tough ones to make a decision on, but it has to be done if you're leaving for such a long time. Best of luck with it.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies! I know no one can make the decision for me, just good to get other peoples experiences!

And Fishie enjoy Namibia!!