Have you changed?

Kimono-Girl

Have you changed since you were younger?

For example i was out tonight with my family and we were talking about the past, and my mother (usually my harshest critic) said she was really proud of me for turning my life around.

when i was 18/19 i felt the world revolved around me, i was selfish, irresponsible and stupid. i hurt quite a lot of people and i was mentally unstable. i got in a lot of trouble, luckily nothing i couldn't undo later in life though.luckily for me there was no long term damage nothing in my past that can seriously effect my future. some big regrets but there's nothing i can do to fix those now.


now i have addressed my issues, left the past behind me and moved on and forward with my life,

you wouldn't recognise me in some ways compared to then, even though i'm still rambling (aka this thread ) and have similar opinions, i think differently i have a different outlook on life, i am happier, i am much more responsible and mature according to what my friends and family tell me. settled too for the first time in my life....



so after hours have you changed?

TL: DR

Have you changed who you are much in the past few years?

mink_man

yes, my age has changed.

Saila

ooooh yeah, I had change forced on me, nearly killed in an accident and other CRAZY health stuff since :rolleyes:

adapt and survive, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger and all that..

msg11

Yes.

Tonight this girl was in me room and I wanted to **** the **** out of her, but she left.

Few years ago, she wanted me and I always though there was something better. Which I was wrong, she is basically my other half, just with someone else. God I wish I could go back now and sort things out.

Moral of the story folks, if they are into you and you get along with them, grab them. Don't do what I did and piss about .

By the way I mean really really got along with her !

questionmark?

Yes when younger I used to w@nk thinking about sex and now I have sex thinking a w@nk would be less hassle you know no foreplay or a cuddle afterwards and such ****e!

OutlawPete

When you grow up, your heart dies.

Gunsfortoys

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

Have you changed since you were younger?

For example i was out tonight with my family and we were talking about the past, and my mother (usually my harshest critic) said she was really proud of me for turning my life around.

when i was 18/19 i felt the world revolved around me, i was selfish, irresponsible and stupid. i hurt quite a lot of people and i was mentally unstable. i got in a lot of trouble, luckily nothing i couldn't undo later in life though.luckily for me there was no long term damage nothing in my past that can seriously effect my future. some big regrets but there's nothing i can do to fix those now.


now i have addressed my issues, left the past behind me and moved on and forward with my life,

you wouldn't recognise me in some ways compared to then, even though i'm still rambling (aka this thread ) and have similar opinions, i think differently i have a different outlook on life, i am happier, i am much more responsible and mature according to what my friends and family tell me. settled too for the first time in my life....



so after hours have you changed?

TL: DR

Have you changed who you are much in the past few years?

I would have to say you have pretty much described me back in the day.

Freaky.:eek:

msg11

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

I would have to say you have pretty much described me back in the day.

Freaky.:eek:

Anyone to be honest..

We all regret our past, sadly it makes us who we are today..

krudler

msg11 wrote: »

Yes.

Tonight this girl was in me room and I wanted to **** the **** out of her, but she left.

Few years ago, she wanted me and I always though there was something better. Which I was wrong, she is basically my other half, just with someone else. God I wish I could go back now and sort things out.

Moral of the story folks, if they are into you and you get along with them, grab them. Don't do what I did and piss about .

By the way I mean really really got along with her !

sounds a bit...rapey

deathrider

I was all typse of an asshole in my teen, and a great part of my 20's too. I constantly angry at... Well at most people really. I also was heavy into the beer. Over the last 2 or 3 years though, I changed completely. I'm like a totally different man, a lot calmer, haven't drank in two and a half years, moved to a different county, and left my old life far behind. It's all worked out quite well. I'm even talking to an old girlfriend of mine now, that I hadn't spoken to in a decade.

littlefriend

msg11 wrote: »

Tonight this girl was in me room and I wanted to **** the **** out of her, but she left.

By the way I mean really really got along with her !

How come she was in your room?

If you really feel like that you should tell her.

msg11

krudler wrote: »

sounds a bit...rapey

hahaha, Yes, Yes it dose look that way !

msg11

littlefriend wrote: »

How come she was in your room?

If you really feel like that you should tell her.

Ah been there before, not with her. I just no this will end up on the scrap heap.

Suppose I should tell her, but going by past experience I know now keeping my mouth shut is also a good option.

LETHAL LADY

Wow mams dont hand out the compliments easy well done keep up the good work .

deathrider

msg11 wrote: »

Moral of the story folks, if they are into you and you get along with them, grab them.

I seen something about this on a show about travellers lately. Seems to work a treat alright, but you'd probably get fecked out of a pub for it... :pac:

Kimono-Girl

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

Wow mams dont hand out the compliments easy well done keep up the good work .

ah to be fair she was as drunk as a skunk and i was the designated driver but i will take and accept the complement.


plus it just got me thinking, i can't even pin point the moment i changed i just did, i can't explain it really, its a bizarre feeling, yet a good feeling.

SafeSurfer

Yes I have certainly changed. I think that everybody changes over time if only because those around us are constantly changing.

Adamantium

i suppose i have matured a little (i'm 20 btw, still young), when i was 12,13(1st year), i was more down to earth, grounded, less burdened with worry, more witty,sociable-- I was basically like my ideal version of myself!

when i was 16,17 i was somewhat immature, aloof,(world weary) i now look at my brother who is now this age and see how much more mature I should have been(does anybody else ever look at younger brothers and sisters and think that?)......i was basically like a buggy computer with incorrectly installed programs

Going to college at 17 (way too young)made me do a lot of growing, and thought me the world a isn't pretty, dropped out of my course and now i'm back doing something I love with some brilliant people.. I'm now back to a more improved optimistic mindset like the one I had when i was 12,13 Version 2.0 .........sure it only took 7 years to come full circle!:p:)

pragmatic1

Of course, everyone changes. You're not the person you were a year ago never mind ten years ago.

Seaneh

Yes...
I've had a stroke and about 30 hours of major surgery in the last 18 months in including a lot of poking in my temporal lobe. So my hearing is fecked, I get tired a lot, I have to take a pill every day, I have to get ct and mri's every few months and ent appointments as often. I freak out when I get a bad headache or my arm is asleep and I'm sometimes prone to not recognising people or their voices.

That said, I'm far less selfish or self centered, I'm less angry, I'm happier, I'm more loving and giving, I really appreciate my family and friends,I'm optimistic about my future and I live to help people.

And I'm only 26.

RichieC

pragmatic1 wrote: »

Of course, everyone changes. You're not the person you were a year ago never mind ten years ago.

I dont!

Saila

Seaneh wrote: »

Yes...
I've had a stroke and about 30 hours of major surgery in the last 18 months in including a lot of poking in my temporal lobe. So my hearing is fecked, I get tired a lot, I have to take a pill every day, I have to get ct and mri's every few months and ent appointments as often. I freak out when I get a bad headache or my arm is asleep and I'm sometimes prone to not recognising people or their voices.

That said, I'm far less selfish or self centered, I'm less angry, I'm happier, I'm more loving and giving, I really appreciate my family and friends,I'm optimistic about my future and I live to help people.

And I'm only 26.

at the time of your stroke were you overweight and generally unhealthy and all that or?

aligator_am

When I was younger I was incredibly selfless and kind, several nasty break ups later have made me a person I'm not overly happy with, wish I could go back and change many choices I made

LETHAL LADY

Well as they say whats in sober comes out drunk so I think she means it. Im going to feed my mam with G&Ts and I would imagine the conversation would go like this "Hi mam" says me "I wish Id never met your father then I wouldnt have had you" says mam


Not a reflection on my mam for dramatic purposes only.

Larianne

Yep, totally changed. Lost weight, More attractive now. Became less introverted, more outgoing, don't hate myself, enjoy life, take risks more.

K-9

More liberal and empathetic, think I'm the exception to the rule sometimes.

Used to be quite the Republican and right wing cut, cut, cutter but more aware now.

Still searching for the answers though!

Kimono-Girl

aligator_am wrote: »

When I was younger I was incredibly selfless and kind, several nasty break ups later have made me a person I'm not overly happy with, wish I could go back and change many choices I made

see i cannot understand this ^ if you don't want to be nasty then just don't, if you cannot do it by yourself get help.

but no matter how nasty a break up is you should still not let them make you into a nasty person. thats still your choice, take responsibility for your actions and don't blame your ex for your behavior now.

Seaneh

Saila wrote: »

at the time of your stroke were you overweight and generally unhealthy and all that or?

I was about 15st and 5'9. I was a big lad but not obese. My health wasn't the cause of the stroke. It was random, one in a million type stuff.
An infection in my middle ear (mastioditis) caused bleeding in my sinus which caused a clot which traveled and lodged two clots in my brain, one behind my left ear in my temporal lobe and one in the cerebral venous sinus (pretty much the middle of my brain).

I'd actually lost a lot of weight in the 12. Months previous and was in better health than I'd been since I was in school.

Saila

Seaneh wrote: »

I was about 15st and 5'9. I was a big lad but not obese. My health wasn't the cause of the stroke. It was random, one in a million type stuff.
An infection in my middle ear (mastioditis) caused bleeding in my sinus which caused a clot which traveled and lodged two clots in my brain, one behind my left ear in my temporal lobe and one in the cerebral venous sinus (pretty much the middle of my brain).

I'd actually lost a lot of weight in the 12. Months previous and was in better health than I'd been since I was in school.

I had a feeling it wasnt the stereotypical overweight unhealthy type stroke the media portrays, stories like this help to portray the reality of a lot of illness.' You can be screaming fit and healthy and active and BAM illness/disease strikes such is the randomness of life...

Copper23

I tend to take these "Oh I've changed so much since yesterday" resolutions with a pinch of salt.

People speak with actions, not words on these things.

Like an alcohol who preaches how great they are being on the wagon yet has left families, colleagues and friends still suffering the damage they caused to their lives with disregard.

Still, at least most people are smart enough to see others for how they really are and can judge for themselves.

Kimono-Girl

Saila wrote: »

randomness of life...

is it random though?

i like to believe everything happens for a reason. but im an pessimistic optimist these days


http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pessimistic%20Optimist

Saila

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

is it random though?

i like to believe everything happens for a reason. but im an pessimistic optimist these days


http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pessimistic%20Optimist

some things are truely horrifying and cant be put down to happening for a reason, but saying this to yourself is part of the acceptance process so you will find yourself believing it so you can get through...and change and then accept it

aligator_am

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

see i cannot understand this ^ if you don't want to be nasty then just don't, if you cannot do it by yourself get help.

but no matter how nasty a break up is you should still not let them make you into a nasty person. thats still your choice, take responsibility for your actions and don't blame your ex for your behavior now.

I think the word nasty may have been taken out of context here, I should have said messy, would have been more apt.

Kimono-Girl

aligator_am wrote: »

I think the word nasty may have been taken out of context here, I should have said messy, would have been more apt.

ah ok.

i caused a nasty break up myself once and i would hate to think the guy still remembers it, or worse let it effect him, in fact i hope he doesn't remember my name. i was so awful words cannot describe the nasty things i did.

even trying to explain it to my current partner was bad enough, i was so ashamed of my behaviour, anyway no point in spending my life wondering what if.

montane

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

ah ok.

i caused a nasty break up myself once and i would hate to think the guy still remembers it, or worse let it effect him, in fact i hope he doesn't remember my name. i was so awful words cannot describe the nasty things i did.

even trying to explain it to my current partner was bad enough, i was so ashamed of my behaviour, anyway no point in spending my life wondering what if.

Care to share some of the details here?

Kimono-Girl

montane wrote: »

Care to share some of the details here?

like what exactly?

im not going to get all personal and give out personal details on a public interwebs forum!


i'll give my opinion and you'll be damn grateful for the opportunity to read it

ascanbe

Yes. I've sold out. I'm now after the 'anti-corporate' dollar.

richymcdermott

ya i changed gotten more handsome ladies love it

montane

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

like what exactly?

im not going to get all personal and give out personal details on a public interwebs forum!


i'll give my opinion and you'll be damn grateful for the opportunity to read it

You self-admittedly did some really nasty $hit to this dude. You're too ashamed to air this in public. No wonder the poor dude is so messed up now.

Kimono-Girl

montane wrote: »

You self-admittedly did some really nasty $hit to this dude. You're too ashamed to air this in public. No wonder the poor dude is so messed up now.

people have asked me about it and to my face i will answer any question honestly, i am ashamed about things i've done, but i hope i can stop others from making the mistakes i did, i would love to meet someone who has done nothing to be ashamed of,


but i will not post personal details about my business when someone else is involved or some else's business on a public internet forum, i learned that lesson when i was 20!


thats what this whole thread is about, have you changed since you were younger? this is one of the ways i've changed i guess.

Seaneh

Saila wrote: »

I had a feeling it wasnt the stereotypical overweight unhealthy type stroke the media portrays, stories like this help to portray the reality of a lot of illness.' You can be screaming fit and healthy and active and BAM illness/disease strikes such is the randomness of life...

Guy across from me in the neurology ward was 38, fit, played rugby swam 50 laps of a pool every second day, gym session the other days. Young family and beautiful wife and his stroke was far worse than mine.

Anyone can get sick at any time. Strokes can happen for a million random reasons.

Saila

Seaneh wrote: »

Guy across from me in the neurology ward was 38, fit, played rugby swam 50 laps of a pool every second day, gym session the other days. Young family and beautiful wife and his stroke was far worse than mine.

Anyone can get sick at any time. Strokes can happen for a million random reasons.

I spent the last 10 years as an athlete SCREAMING fit, cycling 400~km a week, racing across europe at times over the biggest mountains they have there on some of the highest paved roads in europe and one day BAM! my legs went from under me and I was diagnosed with MS
and my world was turned upside down, its not survival of the fittest [I just disproved that] its survival of the luckiest

liah

Oh god yeah, I can see significant change in myself year to year, nevermind from just when I was young. I'm almost the polar opposite now to how I was in my teens.

kumate_champ07

I ate an easter egg in bed last nite before falling asleep, I'll be 28 soon. not sure what age your supposed to stop doing that at.

Jesus Wept

Never, what kind was it?

whiteboy

Nope everyday is exactly the same

see they even made a song about it...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Aj9_8t1eQc

kumate_champ07

Creme egg, 2 plus a large egg. got another one for tonite!

Jesus Wept

kumate_champ07 wrote: »

Creme egg, 2 plus a large egg. got another one for tonite!

They were 1.50e when I was in Tesco a couple of days ago. :pac:

minidazzler

Yeah, I go through a personality change from time to time. Right now I am quite narcissiistic and a bit of an asshole in general, but I am not really sorry for it, because I've been having fun with this me for now. I'm not treating people like sh1t, but I'm not being the nicest person ever either.

Red Hand

minidazzler wrote: »

Yeah, I go through a personality change from time to time. Right now I am quite narcissiistic and a bit of an asshole in general, but I am not really sorry for it, because I've been having fun with this me for now. I'm not treating people like sh1t, but I'm not being the nicest person ever either.

"I've had my fun...and that's all that matters."

http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/27535_10168825116_5746_n.jpg

Yes, I've changed quite a bit from my teens, used to be really shy. Like, minidazzler, I go through phases, though with me it alternates between being socialable and a little reclusive.

--LOS--

I've changed a bit back and forth I think, I'm quite a quiet person anyway but it used to hinder me a lot more and I was pretty unhappy but then I had a period of being a lot better, had people I got on well with etc. Then life crap came along and changed me for the worse even though I have things in my life that should make me a lot happier now, other stuff gets in your way, never seems to all work at once but that's life.