Are we just casual?

LegacyUser

Sorry if this is long, but basically I met this guy in December in a club. We ended up kissing. Exchanged numbers and he constantly texted me, I was unsure about him until we met up again in early January and went clubbing, then I decided I did like him alot. But then he had to go back to England for college work placement. (Hes 22 and I'm 19) He told me he'd stay in contact on facebook instead of texting, which he has. The thing is we never discussed what "we" are. I know I dont know him very well but now I've found that I really like him and am avoiding other possible love interests because I just want him. I dont know what to do, because I think we are just a casual hook up for when hes back in town (no sex yet though) but I'm not sure. He was back last week and I met up with him, once for a night out & again the next day....

Also last week before I met him one of my male friends picked me up, just messing, but I didnt know my guy was behind us the whole time & according to one of my friends he threw a filthy look like he was annoyed...

I am a friend

If it were me, i would certianly be assuming it were casual until we had both agreed it wasnt. In order to 'protect' myself, I would not be sleeping with him until I was happy with the status of the relationship as I would not want to be sleeping with someone and getting emotionally involved unless he felt the same. Good luck.

Count Duckula

Sounds to me like you're just casually dating, and there's nothing wrong with "dating" more than one person. Don't avoid other people just because you're enjoying time with this guy, particularly not until it becomes serious (in indeed it does).

Azureus

I certainly wouldn't be ruling out other love interests because of this guy. I'd say he is into you, but you've only actually hung out with him 3/4 times and most of this was out clubbing. It's hardly the basis of a relationship especially considering he doesn't actually live in the country.
As said above, i would avoid sleeping with him until you know what the score is, purely because it tends to lead to attachment on the girls part that he may/may not reciprocate. It's definately casual for now imo, see where it goes but don't put all your eggs in his basket as it were.

IrishEyes19

I'd say because of the distance, OP, he's not putting a title on it. That way as long as he doesnt, feel free to go out and relax about meeting other people, unless you both discuss where you both stand, which I know is really hard, because you dont want to freak the guy out either. However, Id suggest letting him know through facebook photos or what that you are going out, having a good time, nothing desperate like pics and pics of you with other fellas, thats just very off putting and could scare him, but just show that you are technically available, very quickly, he should lightly comment on where you both stand and if he eludes to it at all, that could be your starter to ask him where he thinks its going.

I know most people will say thats a form of game playing, and that honesty is the best policy, but honesty in terms of "where do we stand" can freak even the most soundest of people out when they're not ready or sure where they do stand and then you are left wondering if they ever wanted this at all. So rather than creating an awkward question, just do what you are doing, going out, but let him be aware of it, and if he's interested, he should get the drift and try to bring up the conversation somehow. best of luck