god parents

deise48

sorry i dont know where best to place this but im looking for advice me and my wife have had a life changing situation with people we were best friends with for a long long time .is there any way tou can change god parents?

robinph

It doesn't mean anything so what would you need to change?

alwaysadub

I couldnt tell you off the top of my head who my godparents are.
Just tell the kid they are someone else.

deise48

i dont want the people god parents to my children or vice versa

Praetorian Saighdiuir

deise48 wrote: »

sorry i dont know where best to place this but im looking for advice me and my wife have had a life changing situation with people we were best friends with for a long long time .is there any way tou can change god parents?

Yup, its normal for this to happen after a drunken "wife swap" situation.

Best stick to random internet couples.

starbelgrade

Mr. Corleone is Johnny's godfather.

To the Italian people, that is a very religious, sacred, close relationship.

eternal

no you cant change it cos its logged in the church where the baptism took place.And yes it does mean something.It means if anything happens to the parents than the god parents look after the kid .
I take being a god parent seriously

Jesus Wept

deise48 wrote: »

i dont want the people god parents to my children or vice versa

It's not a legally binding thing. It means nothing. I am sure they know you don't like them anymore so it kind of goes without saying.

Ask some else you like instead. Have them over for dinner and a bottle of wine, etc.

deise48

alwaysadub wrote: »

I couldnt tell you off the top of my head who my godparents are.
Just tell the kid they are someone else.

still though it means something to me

LETHAL LADY

God parents have no legal rights to your child.

stevejr

You're talking about your child's god-parents I presume?

Go and talk to the priest(s) who christenend your children and I think you may be able to change it.

deise48

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

God parents have no legal rights to your child.

i know that but its the moral aspect im looking at

sam34

eternal wrote: »

no you cant change it cos its logged in the church where the baptism took place.And yes it does mean something.It means if anything happens to the parents than the god parents look after the kid .
I take being a god parent seriously

it doesn't have legal standing

Saila

eternal wrote: »

no you cant change it cos its logged in the church where the baptism took place.And yes it does mean something.It means if anything happens to the parents than the god parents look after the kid .
I take being a god parent seriously

somehow I dont think thats true

Mena

deise48 wrote: »

i know that but its the moral aspect im looking at

Could you expand? What moral aspect?

starbelgrade

deise48 wrote: »

i know that but its the moral aspect im looking at

I think you're reading too much into it. It's just a symbolic thing. A bit like being a bridesmaid at a wedding.

LETHAL LADY

Sorry depends on how close your child is to his/hers godparents please give details.

Boxoffrogs

Forgive me, but isn't the whole God Parent thingy symbolic?. It's not like you've signed your kids over to them in the event of your death. Besides you can always make a will if you are in any way concerned. Like alwaysadub, I haven't the foggiest who my God Parents are, nor do I care.

NinjaTruncs

What is the life changing situation?

I can't believe i'm the first to ask!

partyatmygaff

deise48 wrote: »

sorry i dont know where best to place this but im looking for advice me and my wife have had a life changing situation with people we were best friends with for a long long time .is there any way tou can change god parents?

Ask the priest who Christened your child. I don't see any reason why they couldn't be changed if it means that much to you.

starbelgrade

One thing you must note though, is that if the father of the child dies, you have to shag his bereaved missus at the funeral.

Not on the coffin or anything, but somewhere discreet, like in a confession box.

But besides that, there's no other moral obligation.

starbelgrade

partyatmygaff wrote: »

Ask the priest who Christened your child.

And he'll say, "I am the priest who christened your child".

senordingdong

robinph wrote: »

It doesn't mean anything so what would you need to change?

Too true.
If anyone is upset that you didn't chose them as godparents, then just remind them that it doesn't mean anything in the real world.

Abi

deise48 wrote: »

sorry i dont know where best to place this but im looking for advice me and my wife have had a life changing situation with people we were best friends with for a long long time .is there any way tou can change god parents?

I don't have any advice to give on this, bar choosing them carefully. My godmother lives in the UK and has done since before I was born. I met her a few days ago because my grandmother is sick, and she'd know idea who the fúck I was. My godfather is into his cars and races. Daddy's choice on the godfather front, fúcking rawks.

LETHAL LADY

starbelgrade wrote: »

One thing you must note though, is that if the father of the child dies, you have to shag his bereaved missus at the funeral.

Not on the coffin or anything, but somewhere discreet, like in a confession box.

But besides that, there's no other moral obligation.

Jaysus what kind of funerals are you attending.

juma

starbelgrade wrote: »

One thing you must note though, is that if the father of the child dies, you have to shag his bereaved missus at the funeral.

Not on the coffin or anything, but somewhere discreet, like in a confession box.

But besides that, there's no other moral obligation.

You, sir, are an idiot

Praetorian Saighdiuir

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

Jaysus what kind of funerals are you attending.

He's a funeral crasher!


Everyone knows Starbelgrade puts the "fun" in funeral!

starbelgrade

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

Jaysus what kind of funerals are you attending.

The type of funerals where there are more types of stiffs in a box than usual.

LETHAL LADY

I used to get 10 pound notes off my god mother every birthday, christmas etc etc then I moved to a different area and guess what zilch not even a card.

Super-Rush

I know someone who had picked two godfathers and two godmothers for their child and just told two of them to **** off after a couple of months. Just pick two different god parents and forget about it. God won't mind.

OutlawPete

Okay, lets be straight - I know why you have posted in After Hours, you want my help. Yet, the thing is, I can't remember the last time you invited me to your regular forum, but let's be frank, you never wanted my friendship.

Now you come and say "Don Pete, give me justice." But you don't ask with respect. You don't offer friendship. You don't even think to call me the new "Godfather." You come into this forum and you ask me to take care of these people for you.

If you'd come to me in friendship, this scum who have disrespected their God children would be suffering this very day. And if by some chance an honest man like yourself made enemies they would become my enemies. And then, they would fear you.

Some day, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to thank some posts and post personal abuse against some members of this forum. But until that day, consider this justice a gift .. on St Patrick's Day.

Todd Gack

Time Machine?

phasers

my godmother is in a mental institution and i've no clue who my godfather is.

I'm my nephews godmother and it means absolutely nothing.

Snakeblood

benwavner wrote: »

Yup, its normal for this to happen after a drunken "wife swap" situation.

Best stick to random internet couples.

Or just bang loads of people at once. That way the embarassment is diffused over a wide area.

Jesus Wept

eternal wrote: »

no you cant change it cos its logged in the church where the baptism took place.And yes it does mean something.It means if anything happens to the parents than the god parents look after the kid .
I take being a god parent seriously

Do you mean as a legal guardian?
You won't be their legal guardian purely because you are their godparent.

phasers

The-Rigger wrote: »

Do you mean as a legal guardian?
You won't be their legal guardian purely because you are their godparent.

But... God says so...

robinph

deise48 wrote: »

i know that but its the moral aspect im looking at

What moral aspect of it?

I guess the kids no longer have anything to do with these "god" parents, what moral issue is there?

God parents mean nothing, they have no rights over the children, the children have no rights to expect anything from the god parents in the event of your demise. They are completely irrelevant.

Other than appearing in a couple of photos of the kids when they were babies.

Jesus Wept

phasers wrote: »

But... God says so...

Well if he/she/it turns up at the hearing.....

It still won't matter what he/she/it has to say.

robinph

eternal wrote: »

It means if anything happens to the parents than the god parents look after the kid .

No it doesn't.

It means that the parents were friends with the god parents at some point in the past, nothing more.

seanybiker

Yeah you can. Some young one I was talking to one night told me she changed her sons godparents. Dunno how and wasn't interested in why

littlefriend

op are you drunk?

senordingdong

seanybiker wrote: »

Yeah you can. Some young one I was talking to one night told me she changed her sons godparents. Dunno how and wasn't interested in why

Probably just said so to the priest?

doomed

If you and your wife died suddenly who would step up to look after the kids? They are the real god parents even if they don't believe in god. The rest is just a ceremony. Its like picking someone as your "best man". If the term meant anything surely there would be a contest.

tony1kenobi

deise48 wrote: »

i dont want the people god parents to my children or vice versa

Could you baptise the kids again?

seanybiker

senordingdong wrote: »

Probably just said so to the priest?

Think that's all it was to be honest.

robinph

Sitec wrote: »

My two Godparents were my Uncle on my Dads side, and my Aunty on my Mams side.

It did mean a lot to my uncle because he never had kids.

Now those people may have some minor level of influence over your future if your parents were to die whilst you were still a minor, but because they are related to you and not because they stood and watched as a bloke in a silly dress threw some water over you as a baby.

Turtyturd

deise48 wrote: »

i know that but its the moral aspect im looking at

I think initiating your child into something they can't opt out of shows a lack of any kind of morals.

Depends what you mean by Godparents

If it's the "honour a freind" thing, then shrug it off.

If you're looking to actually change it on Church paper, well, that's a Christianity forum topic.

This place is Atheist-heavy, so expect a lot of responses that assume as fact that religion is BS. In jest, cos it's AH, but still.

rannerap

I have 2 godkids and it means a lot to me, my own godparent are an uncle I have never even talked to and who has no contact, and my nan, pointless!

krudler

deise48 wrote: »

i dont want the people god parents to my children or vice versa

how could your kids be godparents to those people? unless its one of those body swap movies that were all the rage in the 80's, whatever happened Fred Savage anyway?

lace

as far as i know, godparents can't be changed in the church records.

if you consider godparents to mean the people who will look after your child if anything should happen to you, then there's no legal binding to that and it makes no difference.

if you take it in the christian sense to mean someone who will morally guide the child and teach them to be a good christian, then you can ask anyone to take on that role. if you no longer think the people you chose will set a good example for your child, then you can ask someone else to mentor him/her.

you cannot go back in time and change your choice of godparents. you'll still have the photos of the day. your child will still probably be asked about this in primary school when it comes to studying sacrements and baptism, but that's about it.