Should I ask her out?

LegacyUser

I met a fantastic girl at a college event last week; we kissed, and went back to mine, and then hers, where we talked and fooled around for a little while (somewhere between "second" and "third base" to use the twee American metaphor). She is gorgeous, intelligent and really passionate about what she's doing in life; I've been thinking about her, and want to text her to see if she'd like to meet up sometime.

I have NO experience with what to do - I'm 24, but this is only the second girl I've so much as kissed. She gave me some pretty mixed signals during the night which are making me think twice, but she still had her hands all over me the next morning, and I got her number. I was in a rush for college so we didn't get a chance to talk about anything.

I'm aware these are _basic_ questions, but... What do I say? Is it weird to say I've been thinking about her? Where do I suggest we go (is it weird to suggest coffee if we've been intimate before)?

LegacyUser

What do I say? Is it weird to say I've been thinking about her? Where do I suggest we go (is it weird to suggest coffee if we've been intimate before)?

Womans perspective here OP:

I think you're over thinking this too much
Just call her and ask her if she wants to go for a coffee/drink sometime! It really is that simple!

she'll either jump at the chance or she'll make her excuses, either way you'll have an answer straight away. If she was still 'affectionate' for want of a better word the next morning and gave you her number then chances are she was into you, also the fact that she brought you back to her place instead of staying at yours would suggest she was comfortable around you, Go for it OP, you've nothing to lose, hope it works out for you!

Angeles

go-for-it wrote: »

Womans perspective here OP:

I think you're over thinking this too much
Just call her and ask her if she wants to go for a coffee/drink sometime! It really is that simple!

she'll either jump at the chance or she'll make her excuses, either way you'll have an answer straight away. If she was still 'affectionate' for want of a better word the next morning and gave you her number then chances are she was into you, also the fact that she brought you back to her place instead of staying at yours would suggest she was comfortable around you, Go for it OP, you've nothing to lose, hope it works out for you!

+1 just go for it op
get your head around to the thought process of "if I don't take the risk, I'll be left wondering forever"
You've nothing to lose, Even if she does say no, your far better off knowing then left wracking your head about it.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice.

Called her, but she was at lunch with people so she cut it short. I texted her after, but no reply. I didn't actually get to ask her out straight, but I'm taking this as her letting me down gently. Was worth trying anyway...

LegacyUser

Called her, but she was at lunch with people so she cut it short. I texted her after, but no reply. I didn't actually get to ask her out straight, but I'm taking this as her letting me down gently. Was worth trying anyway...

Aw well fair play for having the guts to call her OP
I think you've done exactly the right thing, i'd be chuffed if i was in her position.

Start as you mean to go on OP, life's too short to have regrets, if she doesn't text you back well then her loss, yeah it sucks a bit, but at least you know you've tried and you don't have the regret of not knowing what if!

The balls in her court now, I really hope she texts you back, you sound like a lovely guy!