Friends have turned against me

scarymoon1

I invited my friend who i live with and another housemate out recently with my sister and I on a night out. My friend who i know with years said she was broke and on anti biotics. The housemate said she was also broke and feeling sick. Fair enough - I went out with my sister. Then around 10 o clock that night housemate text me to say they were both feeling better and were coming out - where were we??! I was so annoyed - they obviously didnt want to come out with us as they first said they were broke then when they were coming out it was because they were feeling better - where did they get the money suddenly. I said we were in such a pub and they were going to a different pub - i said we will play it by ear and text later. They didnt text me later. Since then I have kinda avoided them. On another night outbefore that my friend turned her back to my sister on purpose to exclude her. My friend hardly talks to me anymore in the house but talks away to the other girl. I feel so uncomfortable in the house now - actaully nervous when she comes in and slams the door. this is the same girl who bad mouthed a guy i met so until i told him get lost. Am I too sensitive??? Sorry for long post but Im actually thinking of moving out.

JajaD

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I invited my friend who i live with and another housemate out recently with my sister and I on a night out. My friend who i know with years said she was broke and on anti biotics. The housemate said she was also broke and feeling sick. Fair enough - I went out with my sister. Then around 10 o clock that night housemate text me to say they were both feeling better and were coming out - where were we??! I was so annoyed - they obviously didnt want to come out with us as they first said they were broke then when they were coming out it was because they were feeling better - where did they get the money suddenly. I said we were in such a pub and they were going to a different pub - i said we will play it by ear and text later. They didnt text me later. Since then I have kinda avoided them. On another night outbefore that my friend turned her back to my sister on purpose to exclude her. My friend hardly talks to me anymore in the house but talks away to the other girl. I feel so uncomfortable in the house now - actaully nervous when she comes in and slams the door. this is the same girl who bad mouthed a guy i met so until i told him get lost. Am I too sensitive??? Sorry for long post but Im actually thinking of moving out.

Your friends sound like bi tches. Like a few of mine actually! Who does stuff like that? Only bit ches! You should try find other people to hang around with...

Denerick

Oh for God sake. You should know by now that when people aren't in the mood to go out, its unacceptable to say 'I don't want to go out/drink tonight'. Its like a weird social prohibition. So they make up lies instead (I'm broke/I'm sick)

Don't be too harsh on them. Blame the wider society that makes honesty impossible.

MissFlitworth

scarymoon1 wrote: »

Then around 10 o clock that night housemate text me to say they were both feeling better and were coming out - where were we??! I was so annoyed - they obviously didnt want to come out with us as they first said they were broke then when they were coming out it was because they were feeling better

Has that never happened to you before? You feel a bit cr4p & lazy and don't want to go out but around 10 you get twitchy to leave the house for a bit? I can't count the amount of nights out I've had that started out with 'No, I shouldn't go out, I'm broke & have sniffles' and ended up with feeling better later or deciding not to drink to save cash and just going out.

If they didn't want to go out with you they wouldn't have gotten in touch at all, you're being very oversensitive here I think

dearg lady

I'd agree you're being oversensitive, this has happened to em personally and with friends lots of times, people do change their minds. They texted yout, they didn't try to keep it a secret that they were out so I'm failing to see the issue??

Azureus

You're being oversensitive imo. Obviously they're not being the nicest to you if you are contemplating moving out, so maybe there is more to this than the story you are giving, but if that's the biggest incident thats happened, then you are definately overreacting.

I have often said ''im broke im not going out'', and then two hours later changed the tv station to a music channel thats got me in the mood for a boogie and said ''feck it, im going!'' They text you to let you know aswell, its not just as if you came home to find them out when they had said that they were staying in. I really dont see what the issue is, if I had a friend who made a big deal about this kind of stuff then I'd be a bit irritated to be honest. Give em a break!

scarymoon1

So i had a talk with my friend and the reason she didnt want to go out with just me and my sister is because when my sis and I cooked that night we didnt offer her food, even though we used her saucepan! And we didnt ask her to the cinema etc that day so she's not good enough to cook or go shopping etc with but good enough to go out with. She said she told 3 other friends and they agreed that my sis and i not asking her did she want food was very harsh! Bit pathetic IMO - but ive let it go - not worth the hassle. I said sorry and she said ok. She didnt say sorry at all. But anyways - its done now.

Kimia

Wow, that's pathetic. Don't associate with this drama queen, she'll just drag you down into her drama filled world. I couldn't be friends with someone like this - you want food - ask for some!! Bloody hell.