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I'm the heartbreaker...

  • 12-03-2011 10:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Basically a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 and half years! I just realised I wasn't happy and we were not compatible as a couple. We did not agree on most things and if I'm honest I didn't see any future for us. So after realising this I did the thing that was best for both of us and ended it with him. He was quite hurt but understood.

    The problem I'm having is knowing how to move on from this situation. I feel sick with guilt for hurting him because even with all his faults he is a good person and I hurt him. How do I get over this guilt ridden feeling and move on with my life. Any advise for the heart breaker?


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  • #2
    flowerchild
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 534 ✭✭✭flowerchild


    Take the learnings. Could you have ended the relationship with more care and respect? Was it wrong to get involved with him in the first place?

    And have you told him your regrets? Perhaps it might help him.


  • #3
    DesQ2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 58 ✭✭DesQ2


    No one wnats to put someone through a break up, everyone wants to be happy and do whats right to make someone happy,

    It might not seem like it to you but you paved the way for this guy to meet someone that will make him happy, will love him and will see a future with him, things you weren't feeling.

    he might be hurt now but will be very happy in the future, the worst thing you could have done is to hang on to a relationship giving him false hope for something that wasn't even there, and you didn't, you did exactly what you should have done.

    You did the right thing, chin up and don't feel guilty,


  • #4
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    You did the right thing in breaking up with him. He might be hurt now but when he gets over it, he might look back and realise that things weren't as rosy as he thought they were. If you had stayed together, things could well have gone bad over time anyway. All going well, he'll meet someone better suited to him and he'll be glad you broke up with him.


  • #5
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    Don't beat yourself up for a start. It's a hard thing to do.

    But do cut contact. Or maybe he has already instigated it. Either way, not seeing each other indefinitely is a really good way of not being reminded of the guilt. And more importantly, he won't be stopped from moving on and can get over the relationship quicker.


  • #6
    Partizan
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 629 ✭✭✭Partizan


    Feegees wrote: »
    Basically a month ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 and half years! I just realised I wasn't happy and we were not compatible as a couple. We did not agree on most things and if I'm honest I didn't see any future for us. So after realising this I did the thing that was best for both of us and ended it with him. He was quite hurt but understood.

    The problem I'm having is knowing how to move on from this situation. I feel sick with guilt for hurting him because even with all his faults he is a good person and I hurt him. How do I get over this guilt ridden feeling and move on with my life. Any advise for the heart breaker?


    Well at least you said it to him to his face. My ex of just over 1 year had to get her cousin to tell me it was all off and that was just before Xmas just as I was getting everything (visa, plane tickets, gifts etc.) ready to be with her. She lives abroad. Not even a dicky bird from her since, no call, no email, nada...nothing.

    Bitch and I hope karma gets her.


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