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  • 12-03-2011 3:05am
    #1
    Zippy!!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    Im 20 years old and reacently moved in with my boyfriend (about 7 months ago). I really love him and he know he feels the same about me. there is just one problem.he never wants to have sex with me.

    He is under a lot of stress between work and college and he says that he cant cope with everything. he is seeing a professional about the stress. we are intimate in other ways but i cant help feeling rejected when he doesnt want sex. he says that he does want it, yet he doesnt act on it.

    im an attracrive girl and I have a healhy sex drive. he is 22 years old and i dont think the lack of sex is normal. we have sex about every 6 weeks but its not for the want of me trying.

    i really could use some advice as this is having a negative effect on our relationship. whenever we talk about it, he gets embarrassed and says he will get better.
    but he shouldnt have to get better, surely he should want to have sex and not just because ive asked him!

    male advice espically needed, but id love to hear from girls too!


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  • #2
    Contessa Raven
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 642 ✭✭✭Contessa Raven


    Hey,

    I understand your frustrations. Sex is an important part of a relationship and without it, people can get tetchy and tense. However, I've recently been in your bf's position. I wanted to have sex SO bad but it was like my body physically couldn't arouse itself. It was also due to stress. It's an instant libido killer.

    If he's already seeing a professional about his stress then he's doing the right thing. You can't fault him for that. It would be worse if he brushed it under the carpet and insisted everything was fine. I'm not sure what else you can do other than continue to be intimate in other ways without the pressure of having sex. It will come back in time when he reduces his stress levels.

    My sex drive has started to come back and it's such a relief to be able to have sex again. It was really upsetting me. No doubt your bf is embarrassed about it too. He probably thinks "Oh I can't have sex. I can't satisfy her." That's how I felt anyway. But it WILL come back if he's seeking a solution to the problem. It just might take time.


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