Can't Maintain an Erection

LegacyUser

I'm having trouble maintaining an erection - I've been to see the doctor and he has told me there is nothing wrong with blood flow or indeed anything that could be rectified surgically - he suggested Viagra but I was sceptical given I've had an operation less then a year ago in relation to my heart and I was a little worried it might affect my blood pressure

Believe it or not, I'm only in my mid 20s, and my operation was to do with a heart cavity and not the heart itself. I've been with my partner six years and it's probably November last year since the last time we had sex.

Basically, the suggestion has been made that it's physiological, and motivated by stress in my life. When I don't feel stress I could find myself waking up one morning with a bulge in my pants and yet when it comes to sex with the woman I've been living with for years it seems I struggle big time.....and now my partner feels its a reflection on her attractiveness and my mind has wandered elsewhere

Of course, I've told her I don't want anyone else and I really don't, but should I be trying to find attractive women (in porn and the media) to stimulate myself too in order to help maintain erections if this helps? Because of my upbringing, which wasn't abusive in the slightest, I had an extremely "Catholic" upbringing and therefore porn was pretty much banned outright - I was constantly told that magazines and media outlets which portrayed sexy (and not even naked) women were disgusting and to be ignored.

I was 17 the first time I ever seen softcore porn, and I came in my pants watching it, I didn't even mean too...a friend put it on one night on satellite tv and I just watched it....

Any advice would be helpful

Bottle_of_Smoke

I doubt your doc would suggest viagra if it was harmful to you. If its psychological it may help you get through that.

Vicxas

Mate, its stress.. i should know ive dealt with it for the last year.

I agree completely with Bottle_of_Smoke - there is no way in hell a doctor would suggest something that could potentially damage your health - but just to be sure, does said doctor know about your previous heart surgery? It's good that you went the medical route, so that it rules that out. I can't give any proper advice, but you should try out Viagra for a certain amount of time, just to see if it has helped you afterwards.

It could be a case that when you get an erection, you think too much about maintaining it and this can have an effect on it too.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,
statistiaclly you are too young for a physical problem but it is not impossible. Get all necessary blood tests and a visit to a specialist is needs be, too reassure yourself and then it may be time to visit a therapist.
some specialise in psychosexual problems, If it is on your mind all the time you develop your own blocks to maintaining an erection. you put too much pressure on yourself and cause stress which has teh opposite effect of what you want. You have to learn to relax again and things will fall into place.
hope it works out.