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Relationship gone?

  • 09-03-2011 7:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So I've been with my girlfriend a good few months, I was so happy, but then I found out basically that she had lied to me about things in her past and her present as well, I ended up finding out that she had been texting guys and hanging out with them not on her own not that i know of(but she never told me), but did nothing to put a stop to it. So last friday night when i heard one more thing i snapped on a night out told her it was over and I was single, i had a few drinks on me so a slight over reaction.

    Next day she text me and we said we would meet on monday and sort things out, we text and msn'ed the usual we would do when we didn't see each other.

    Then sunday hit and she told me that she needed space and would talk to me when she was ready too? after all she had said the day before,

    I've tried getting in contact with her in regards to wedding plans that where coming up with my relations, work issues in the summer and even summer holidays that where planned.

    No response she's switched her phone off and when I contacted her brother today he just said she wanted space and that he didn't want to get in to it.

    My head is absolutely wrecked I have so many things going on and needed her to see what was going I can't get around her, her friends havn't even heard from her the ones that i'd talk to so I'm utterly dead inside I love her so much and to feel like I'm getting treated like this is really annoying me.

    I need help what the hell is going on what do I do. I can't eat or do anything and i'm constantly down at the moment !


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  • #2
    Asphyxia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,740 ✭✭✭Asphyxia


    I'm afraid there's nothing you can do but wait. You told her it was over and it seemed to have switched something on in her head, you should take this time to see what you really want from the relationship and when she's ready have a chat. It's going to be hard at first but it does get easier.


  • #3
    Peanut2011
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,001 ✭✭✭Peanut2011


    helppppp wrote: »
    I ended up finding out that she had been texting guys and hanging out with them not on her own not that i know of(but she never told me),


    Sorry OP but the above makes no sense. So what is she was hanging out with them and texting?Are they her friends? The over-reaction on your part about this might have told her you are not as mature as she thought.

    I recon there is more to this story than what you are saying. Why do you feel the need for her to tell you about who she is hanging out with?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Peanut2011 wrote: »
    Sorry OP but the above makes no sense. So what is she was hanging out with them and texting?Are they her friends? The over-reaction on your part about this might have told her you are not as mature as she thought.

    I recon there is more to this story than what you are saying. Why do you feel the need for her to tell you about who she is hanging out with?

    Because they are guys that fancy her and i do know that for a fact and she knows it as well as they have asked her out on dates!


  • #5
    Peanut2011
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,001 ✭✭✭Peanut2011


    Sorry OP, there are always going to be other guy's that fancy your GF and there is nothing you can do about it. The fact that she did not go out on the date with them should be telling you something.
    However, I am not saying she should be hanging around them as such. Have you spoken to her about it?


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