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so confused

  • 04-03-2011 12:46am
    #1
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭


    Hows it going.
    Ah i dont really know what is going on but I find myself awful attracted to the lads these days. especially in college, i always thought i was straight.
    and when i go to the changing rooms in college i spend hours n there looking at penis and goign ya i want one of them.
    any advice would be very helpful. im so confiused..


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  • #2
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    WELL shane st I had similar problems in my youth I think you should go and see your gp they can advise you on places to go and speak to professionals in this area.


  • #3
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    hey and did u get the help u need. just at the moment i cant stop thinking about penis. im too embarassed to speak about this with anyone excpet here online with anonymity


  • #4
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Shane St. wrote: »
    hey and did u get the help u need. just at the moment i cant stop thinking about penis. im too embarassed to speak about this with anyone excpet here online with anonymity

    Well what exactly do you mean by you're thinking about penis?


  • #5
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    just when i see a real cute guy i feel slightly attracted to him. If i was with a group of good lookingt lads id have to wear awful baggy trousers.
    Like i had a coupleof girl friends a few years back. im 19 now and just dont know whats going on.


  • #6
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Shane St. wrote: »
    just when i see a real cute guy i feel slightly attracted to him. If i was with a group of good lookingt lads id have to wear awful baggy trousers.
    Like i had a coupleof girl friends a few years back. im 19 now and just dont know whats going on.

    well your obviously gay so!! or at least bisexual

    You're a Diklas Bendtner :p


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  • #7
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    its not that simple man. i think this thread should be treating more seriously. I'm seriosly confused about my situation. is there any other salternative than going to a gp. I find going in to tell another person in person would be mortifying


  • #8
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    Correct me if I'm wrong, but this thread looks like a bit of a píss take.


  • #9
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Shane St. wrote: »
    its not that simple man. i think this thread should be treating more seriously. I'm seriosly confused about my situation. is there any other salternative than going to a gp. I find going in to tell another person in person would be mortifying

    Maybe if someone who knows what you've been through, who understands, who can teach you how to finally sink that ball in the hole and discover who you really are.... hmmmm i wonder who that could be ;)

    i was in your position at the same age about 40years ago...


  • #10
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    no its not a pisstake mate. im looking for some advice man and id appreciate some feedback


  • #11
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Shane St. wrote: »
    no its not a pisstake mate. im looking for some advice man and id appreciate some feedback

    I am giving you feedback :)


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  • #12
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    tomombo wrote: »
    Maybe if someone who knows what you've been through, who understands, who can teach you how to finally sink that ball in the hole and discover who you really are.... hmmmm i wonder who that could be ;)

    i was in your position at the same age about 40years ago...

    this is not helpful at all. mate ur just messing now. this is a seerious problem! how do u report to a mod


  • #13
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    Well going out and exploring your sexuality is not something to be taken in earnest. Your GP or local citizen information office can possibly advice on an experienced Counselling service that maybe be able provide someone to speak to you about it. You can check out the resources thread aswell.


  • #14
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    thanks people can u give me a link to that resource centre?


  • #15
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Mr.S wrote: »
    If this is not a pisstake...

    --

    Stop overthinking it. Just go with it. whatever you feel comfortable and happy with. No one can tell you if your gay or bi or straight, thats for you to figure out. I know thats easier said then done. But really, theres no need to loose sleep over it. If your attracted to guys, then your attracted to guys. What exactly are you looking for advice on :confused:

    Can we all stop acting the goat here if anyone wants to give any postive feedback :)


  • #16
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    http://http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055923166

    Resource thread ^^^^

    www.citizensinformation.ie/

    May also be useful if you want to find a counselling service.


  • #17
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    ItsThatManAgain wrote: »
    http://http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055923166

    Resource thread ^^^^

    www.citizensinformation.ie/

    May also be useful if you want to find a counselling service.

    Your link doesnt work its fake ur def pullin the piss man


  • #18
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    ItsThatManAgain wrote: »
    http://http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055923166

    Resource thread ^^^^

    www.citizensinformation.ie/

    May also be useful if you want to find a counselling service.

    the 1st link didnt work mate. i realise this is none of my business btut are u gay urself. feel under no obligation to reply just lookin to have a chat with a couple of people.


  • #19
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Shane St. wrote: »
    the 1st link didnt work mate. i realise this is none of my business btut are u gay urself. feel under no obligation to reply just lookin to have a chat with a couple of people.

    I dont know about him but i am 110%. I used to make myself score women but then i stopped making myself and I felt as free as a bird. Maybe one day you will be too shane st. if that is ur real name lol


  • #20
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,242 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=72888

    There's the link again, just browse through the lgbt forum for the resources thread at the top. I may not be tom, but I am a transsexual.


  • #21
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    ItsThatManAgain wrote: »
    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=72888

    There's the link again, just browse through the lgbt forum for the resources thread at the top. I may not be tom, but I am a transsexual.

    does that not mean you could be gay if you get me?

    (NO OFFENCE INTENDED)

    actually forget it that's your business :)

    Now Shane do you have any friends that may have 'come out' after school etc they could be a good preson to speak to they will def know how u feel


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  • #22
    Shane St.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,797 ✭✭✭Shane St.


    i dnt have many friends now cos alot of my scholmates thought i was gay. tomombo were about are u from i wouldt mind meetin up with some1 to discuss this further


  • #23
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Shane St. wrote: »
    i dnt have many friends now cos alot of my scholmates thought i was gay. tomombo were about are u from i wouldt mind meetin up with some1 to discuss this further

    Where you from?


  • #24
    LGiamani
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭LGiamani


    Shane St. wrote: »
    Hows it going.
    Ah i dont really know what is going on but I find myself awful attracted to the lads these days. especially in college, i always thought i was straight.
    and when i go to the changing rooms in college i spend hours n there looking at penis and goign ya i want one of them.
    any advice would be very helpful. im so confiused..

    Hi Shane I do'nt understand you say you spend hours looking at their penis have they not spotted you doing this and confronted you about this or are these lads gay as well. would it be the fact you are intimidated by their presence and you feel insecure in their company. Do you fancy one of these guys in particular. I a gay man and I to cannot help looking at guys but I never stare at their privates and make them fell intimidated espically if their straight and are not looking for my attention. I would be a bit more open with them and test the ground and see what they think of gay guys. I have some straight friends who are really nice and really hot as well but I do'nt push my sexuality with them.


  • #25
    Barna77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,272 ✭✭✭Barna77


    LGiamani wrote: »
    Hi Shane I do'nt understand you say you spend hours looking at their penis have they not spotted you doing this and confronted you about this or are these lads gay as well. would it be the fact you are intimidated by their presence and you feel insecure in their company. Do you fancy one of these guys in particular. I a gay man and I to cannot help looking at guys but I never stare at their privates and make them fell intimidated espically if their straight and are not looking for my attention. I would be a bit more open with them and test the ground and see what they think of gay guys. I have some straight friends who are really nice and really hot as well but I do'nt push my sexuality with them.
    Exactly.

    And on checking out guys, ok I couldn't help it when I joined the gym. The locker room was hotness galore, now I'm used to it, so wouldn't care about a naked guy beside me. Well, sometimes... :rolleyes: :D


  • #26
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,158 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Why are you guys are telling him to to a GP? I see no reason to go near a GP whatsoever

    OP - give the national LGBT helpline a call - details at

    Www.LGBT.ie

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #27
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Barna77 wrote: »
    Exactly.

    And on checking out guys, ok I couldn't help it when I joined the gym. The locker room was hotness galore, now I'm used to it, so wouldn't care about a naked guy beside me. Well, sometimes... :rolleyes: :D

    Its ok down the Silver Strand though ;)


  • #28
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,158 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Can we stay on topic please?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #29
    AndrewJD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 451 ✭✭AndrewJD


    Johnnymcg wrote: »
    Why are you guys are telling him to to a GP? I see no reason to go near a GP whatsoever

    Before a lot of these websites and helplines existed (or were at least well known of) it was certainly a common recommendation, at least in the UK (where obviously there was no charge). GPs are very good listeners and have a lot of contacts, so if the person had no one else they felt they could talk to about it, the GP was a good choice. Nowadays it's less relevant but still an option.


  • #30
    LGiamani
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭LGiamani


    Barna77 wrote: »
    Exactly.

    And on checking out guys, ok I couldn't help it when I joined the gym. The locker room was hotness galore, now I'm used to it, so wouldn't care about a naked guy beside me. Well, sometimes... :rolleyes: :D


    You would sneak a peak. espically if you've never seen them before and they have got it going on. getting back to the thread i think healthy for this guy to confront his desires but threat the guys with respect. Some straight guys may not want to be buddies but they will avoid you if you are checking them out regularly. I always try and make small talk with them and make it atomsphere as light as possible and talk about trival things.


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  • #31
    oisindoyle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 899 ✭✭✭oisindoyle


    Hmmm,,Am not 100% sure this is not a piss take by the OP....

    As for some of the advice given so far,people telling him to go to a GP or a resource centre??? FFS it sounds like something the bible bashers in deep south of the U.S. would suggest ...

    Heres my twopence worth Shane IF you are genuine .

    As someone else said ,NO ONE can tell you if you are gay ,only YOU can answer that one for yourself.

    Ones sexuality is not that simple ,some people know they are definitely gay others know they are definitely straight,some like both sexes and theres nothing wrong with that .

    You say you are 19 ,you are still young and maybe you are just curious and want to experiment ,again nothing wrong with that.

    Heres a question for you ,,,when you are walking down the street ,who do you find yourself looking at more ? guys or girls?

    When you masturbate ,who do you fantasize about ? guys or girls ?

    Only you know the answers to the above


  • #32
    PJelly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 494 ✭✭PJelly


    You spend *hours* in the changing room looking at penis?
    Sounds like you're at least Bi


  • #33
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    oisindoyle wrote: »
    Hmmm,,Am not 100% sure this is not a piss take by the OP....

    As for some of the advice given so far,people telling him to go to a GP or a resource centre??? FFS it sounds like something the bible bashers in deep south of the U.S. would suggest ...

    Heres my twopence worth Shane IF you are genuine .

    As someone else said ,NO ONE can tell you if you are gay ,only YOU can answer that one for yourself.

    Ones sexuality is not that simple ,some people know they are definitely gay others know they are definitely straight,some like both sexes and theres nothing wrong with that .

    You say you are 19 ,you are still young and maybe you are just curious and want to experiment ,again nothing wrong with that.

    Heres a question for you ,,,when you are walking down the street ,who do you find yourself looking at more ? guys or girls?

    When you masturbate ,who do you fantasize about ? guys or girls ?

    Only you know the answers to the above

    I think we all know this clearly isn't a piss take. So what if he likes looking at other people's areas at least he's out and straight (lol) about it

    Also who says he masturbates? A very personal question


  • #34
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    PJelly wrote: »
    You spend *hours* in the changing room looking at penis?
    Sounds like you're at least Bi

    Could be possible


  • #35
    PJelly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 494 ✭✭PJelly


    If he's confused about his sexuality, then theres a possibility of homo/bisexuality there at the very least. Do you possible see yourself in a relationship with a man in the future, or is it only sexual "ya i want one of them" kind of thoughts you're having? It could just be something you want to get out of your system then.


  • #36
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,158 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Can we please stick to giving useful advice in this thread

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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  • #37
    T Corolla
    Closed Accounts Posts: 611 ✭✭✭T Corolla


    What does'nt the guy meetup with another guy and play around with him assuming he is mature enough to handle it. Many moons ago I did and was convinced within a few moments it was'nt for me not much to grap onto


  • #38
    gcgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,044 ✭✭✭gcgirl


    tomombo wrote: »
    Its ok down the Silver Strand though ;)

    Thats the beach out past Brittas Bay not the silver strand :D


  • #39
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Would it ever be a good idea to talk to your family about it?


  • #40
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    gcgirl wrote: »
    Thats the beach out past Brittas Bay not the silver strand :D
    You don't get it...

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2054967763&page=4


  • #41
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    Johnnymcg wrote: »
    Can we please stick to giving useful advice in this thread

    Seconded


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  • #42
    tomombo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 140 ✭✭tomombo


    PJelly wrote: »
    If he's confused about his sexuality, then theres a possibility of homo/bisexuality there at the very least. Do you possible see yourself in a relationship with a man in the future, or is it only sexual "ya i want one of them" kind of thoughts you're having? It could just be something you want to get out of your system then.

    Maybe he's just curious and isn't gay? Maybe he hasnt scored since he was 19 and thinks he's simply gay?


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