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Crush on my bestfriend...who's taken...HELP!

  • 02-03-2011 6:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey there! I have a little issue here. I have a crush on my best friend...and he's taken.
    I just moved to a small town where everybody knows eachother. I'm from the city and I don't get along with most of people here. He's my only friend, the best friend I have here. And he has a girfriend. She's nice and all but i only talked to her twice.
    We spend so much time together, more than he spend with his girfriend. He seems so attached to me. He tells me things his gf doesn't know... and I'm so attracted to him. I've never tried to show him my feelings for him because I'm afraid I loose him and he's all i have. I don't know if I'm imagining stuff but sometimes I feel like he's flirting with me: he says I'm very beautiful, and if he was single he would date me without doubt! he hugs me all the time, he says he needs me to be with him all the time and that I mean so much to him. and in public when his gf is not there people think we're a couple, the way he gets so close to my face when he talks to me, the way he takes me by my hips...I know his girlfriend wouldn't aprove and I already have a bad reputation, and i dont want to make people talk dirty about me again, so i asked him to stop being so close and stop acting like that because i dont want people to say I'm a bitch or anything and i dont want his gf to hate me. He said it's fine he'll do whatever i want but he just didnt stop!
    it's not that i dont like it... of course i like it, but i think about his gf and i dont want her to hate me and i respect her.
    I dont know if he's acting like that on purpose because maybe deep inside him he wants me too, or maybe i just imagine things...I'm Lost!

    I really want him soo baaad!! I just dont know what to do?? i want to do things right! PLease Help me!! It'll mean so much to me!! Just don't say I should move on and that there's a lot of single guys out there... I know that he is the only one in this town that I want, I've never been so sure! thank you!!


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  • #2
    Peanut2011
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,001 ✭✭✭Peanut2011


    OP, the only answer I can give you is GROW UP!
    You say you asked him to stop being so close and doing the thing you mentioned and he did not. The only reason he did not is cos you are still encouraging it.
    and in public when his gf is not there people think we're a couple, the way he gets so close to my face when he talks to me, the way he takes me by my hips...I know his girlfriend wouldn't aprove and I already have a bad reputation, and i dont want to make people talk dirty about me again,
    So you know what YOU are doing is also wrong! Do you really want the man who does not respect his girlfriend at all? How would you feel if he was with you but was doing all that with another friend?

    You say you already have a bad reputation. Why is that?

    There is certainly more to this story than you are giving away, but my advice is distance yourself from him from all the cosy and touchy feely stuff and just be a friend, otherwise tell him where you stand and ask him what he feels. Continuing like this with the "hidden agenda" will not result in anything good at all.


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