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LegacyUser

ok, here is the issue.

broke up with bf 3 weeks ago. been going out for just over a year.
got two concert tickets for my birthday 4 months prior to split.
i instigated split much to his disagreement.
fine cue two weeks later apparently everything is fine. getting on great etc
still texting every day etc
things arent al ok though clearly pretty cut up over the whole thing causing arguments.
been nice, understanding ,civil, firm, and finally aggressive.
dont know what to do with these tickets.
do we go together and risk runing the weekend?
do i give the tickets back? even though i know they wont take them?
do i take someone else?
please help

Wagon

Do the decent thing and cut contact. He'll be pretty cut up for a while but in time he'll feel better. Staying in touch with him after you dumped him isn't fair.

The tickets? Give them back to him or sell the other one and refund him the money.

LegacyUser

yes thats what i suggested. and its what i did and i was asked repeatedly as to why i didnt want to remain friends. things just turn into arguments and i get called mean for cutting contact then. i just cant win!!

Miss Fluff

Cut contact and sell the tickets

LegacyUser

i told him that. i expressly told him to cut contact. it didnt go down well i was accused of not wanting to remain friends and no contact would be more damaging. i will be perceived as a b***h no matter what i do it seems. also remains adamant despite firm and resounding protests that going to said concert together is not going to be emotionally damaging. so to say im unfair when the person wont respond isnt right in itself!

gypsy_rose

change your number, and if you live near each other try to avoid him for a while. Trust me it's the best option after a break up, and it sounds to me like he has a bit of a hold on you, don't let him have that. Sell the tickets or bring a friend

Oryx

If he wants the tickets, give them to him. Otherwise go yourself but bring a friend. He sounds as if he is using the concert as a way to meet you again. So once youve decided on whats happening with the tickets, dont contact him again and refuse to respond to his contact of you. Doing otherwise is just opening a raw wound in him. He wont get over you unless you stay away, he just doesnt know that yet.

Peanut2011

fireflysails wrote: »

i told him that. i expressly told him to cut contact. it didnt go down well i was accused of not wanting to remain friends and no contact would be more damaging. i will be perceived as a b***h no matter what i do it seems. also remains adamant despite firm and resounding protests that going to said concert together is not going to be emotionally damaging. so to say im unfair when the person wont respond isnt right in itself!

If you have told the ex that all contact is now done, it should be done! From that point on you don't answer any calls, don't reply to txt's and if you see him on your day to day routine just ignore him.

He will call you all the names but so what. That is his problems and he needs to deal with it. Regarding the tickets, well if they were present for your birthday than the two tickets were for you. Who you take to the concert is your choice. At the time it would probably have been given that he was going with you but hey, times change.

Bring your best friend with you and have a good time.

After a while he will get the message and move on, but make sure you do not keep the communication open as that will keep making you the problems.

Best of luck OP.