Expensive wedding dress

janbaby

I'm so torn about the wedding dress!! On one hand I think its a complete waste of money to spend loads on the dress but then I tried ordering one online and I'm not happy with it. It doesn't have the same wow factor as when I tried on a dress in the shop.
Everything for a wedding costs a fortune should I just accept that this is another thing and add it to the list. I want to feel amazing on my wedding day. I've looked for the dress second hand but no joy. Its €1800....is this worth it for one day!!!!:eek:

tinkerbell

Before I answer, I am someone who has expensive taste - so I am happy spending a lot of money on something if it calls for it.

However, I think my max for a wedding dress would be around €1,000 simply because it is for one day. It'll only be worn for a few hours and then put away. Yes it is important to have a wedding dress you love, but I think that it depends on your budget too - can you afford it? I would be quite happy spending that much and more on things that I'd get a lot of wear out of but I just wouldn't personally go near the €2k mark for a wedding dress.

But then again, I don't believe in blowing a whole load of money on the wedding itself either - my priorities would be good food on the day and an amazing honeymoon. I think flowers, inviting tons of people and all that crap are not a priority. At the end of the day, it's about you and your partner which is why I think that the ceremony and the honeymoon are the most important things to do with a wedding.

But it's your day, your finances so only you can decide. If you can afford it, then get the dress! If it means that you need to scale back honeymoon or whatever else you consider important, then don't. You can get fabulous dresses for under €1,800.

dresstoimpress

If it makes you feel good, and you have the cash, go for it!!
Otherwize you'll feel crap in a second choice dress.
You only have to justify the cost to yourself, and if you can live with it, it shouldn't matter about anyone else.

Plus its not just for one day, you'll probably be looking at photo's of it on your living room wall for the rest of your life!!! So you might as well love it!!

cyning

Have you long to go to the wedding? I got my dream dress in a sample sale in the shop reduced to €850 from €1700.... migh be worth trying something like that! Or maybe try sites like this hopefully you might find something!

bills

This really has to be your decision. It all depends on finances & how comfortable you are spending the money. I found most of the dresses are around this price range anyway.
I think you need to spend more money on certain types of material also such as silk,lace etc..

moco

janbaby wrote: »

I'm so torn about the wedding dress!! On one hand I think its a complete waste of money to spend loads on the dress but then I tried ordering one online and I'm not happy with it. It doesn't have the same wow factor as when I tried on a dress in the shop.
Everything for a wedding costs a fortune should I just accept that this is another thing and add it to the list. I want to feel amazing on my wedding day. I've looked for the dress second hand but no joy. Its €1800....is this worth it for one dad!!!!:eek:

It is one day, but when you think of it like that...this is going to be the only day in your life you will ever wear such an amazing and expensive dress, and if you love it and you'll feel great in it, I say go for it if you can afford it.

You may save a few hundred going for your second choice, but in the grand scheme of things..those few hundred saved won’t be worth not being the happiest you can be in your dress!

newbride11

I personally couldn't justify spending that much on a wedding dress tbh but each to their own.
I'd sooner buy something cheaper & spend the money on little extras for the day that everyone can enjoy.
Whatever you chose I'm sure you will look & feel fantastic on the day itself

kandr10

Hi,

Like above posters, I think ultimately it's up to you and your OHs' budget.
Just in relation to the other dress you ordered online, it's possible it didn't have the wow factor because you didn't get to try it on first maybe?? That may not be down to the cost.
I think it is defo possible to find a dress for around 1000, especially in sales. You don't need to go down the second hand route to get it for less than what you quoted. If you have time, try a few more bridal shops to satisfy yourself. At the end of the day, if you can't find anything else, you'll find it worth the price tag.
Best of luck

janbaby

Think Im gonna shop around

Sofiztikated

Have a look around.

My OH has her dress picked out for quite some time, it was her first choice dress, she has tried others, more expensive, and by all accounts it's fantastic. (Obviously, I haven't seen it yet.)

Apparently, it's an out of season dress. Cost? €400.

Bargains are to be had.

RainbowNinja

shop around, ring other bridal shops that stock your dress and see how much they will charge you.. i saved 500e by doing this

sallysaucer101

Go in and try on dresses but if you can try to get the make and serial number then just do a a search for it on google.

Or even ask here! You will more than likely find it cheaper then what a bridal shop would ask for!

Sally!

CoalBucket

janbaby wrote: »

Its €1800....is this worth it for one dad!!!!:eek:

Freudian slip, is daddy paying for this dress ?

janbaby

CoalBucket wrote: »

Freudian slip, is daddy paying for this dress ?

Well spotted lol. No daddy is def not paying. This will all be out of hard earned cash!

SBWife

I bought a very expensive wedding dress almost €4k :eek: wedding was a couple of years ago but I loved the dress, felt amazing in it and don't regret buying it for an instant.

mickey1979

my gf spent 1600 on a dress told me she got a bargain I grinded my teeth and complained but to be honest I had one of the best days of my life and it all began when she walked up the aisle looking amazing my advice if you can afford it and it makes you happy you will have no regrets

Couchkitten

It has taken me a while to come to terms with how much weddings cost in general but now I have come to terms with it. We've saved the money and we want the big trad wedding so we're going to have to pay for it. If it makes you feel any better your dress is not highly expensive in wedding dress terms (I know, it's insane!)

It's a personal decision - How important is the dress to you? Write a list of your priorities and spend accordingly. I'm not paying full price for anything, I got tons of bargains and that made me feel alot better. So if you try to get a deal on the dress it might make you feel better about spending the money.

Heineken Helen

The dress was the first thing I got and I spent £1000 (my budget was 400 ). Since then I've got amazing bargains on everything and it's the one thing I ALMOST regret is spending so much on the dress. However, I managed to justify it by saving the entire amount myself on top of what we were each saving for the wedding. So nobody can ever bitch about the price of the dress cos I paid every penny myself . Use this as a great opportunity to give up smoking or something unhealthy and put away the extra cash... you've got an end goal!

yayaitsme

i went to the uk for a weekend. got my dress for £900 including all the alterations, which they'll do in a week close to the wedding. seen prices for the same dress here up to €1500. i love my dress but not the price here .

AvonEnniskerry

I think when you know when you've got the right dress. I was agonising over the price of mine (it was a similar price) but looked at others and none of them had that feel great factor. Mine included fittings etc. But the best advice I can give you is you know when you've got the right one.

If you can find things about the dress (bar the price) that you are unsure about then it is the wrong one for you.
If you wouldn't change a thing about it. You're right on the mark.

But it does seem even in the recession that weddings are still big money.
If you still feel unsure get the dress and compromise somewhere else in the day. eg instead of hiring a car borrow a friends etc

The most important thing about your day is that you are happy. with who you are marrying and how you feel. you only get it once!!