Disgusted

LegacyUser

There has been a similar thread to this one recently and I apologise but I didn't want to hijack that one and the situation is slightly different.

I have been seeing a guy for a few months, he's a really nice guy, seems perfectly normal and respectful etc.

I recently heard him mention a porn site to one of his friends which he said he went on all the time. He then said to me that I would hate it and it's not my kind of thing. I have no interest in porn myself so I wasn't going to anyway but him saying that sparked my curiosity and yesterday I had a look at it.

It was the most disgusting mysogynistic thing I have ever seen, most of the videos are about rape or sexual assault, the site in general seems to be about the humiliation of women, the way women are talked about on the site is appauling, it's all bitch, slut, 'watch this stupid w hore get slapped'. Some of the video are about incest. I really the rape videos are highly likely to be fake but I am not convinced about some of the others, some are of women being flashed at seem to be done on a camera phone and don't show the person exposing themselves, some are pictures up women's skirts again on camera phones. It's the kind of site where people can upload things themself so I don;t know how even the website can be sure they are not real. One of the most disturbing things was actually a clip from the news about a group sexual assault in a foreign country, obviously it's not that graphic with being from the news but showed women having their tops ripped of etc but that one was obviously real.

I hate this kind of think (obviously) and I just cannot see why any right thinking person would watch it. I know some people have fetishes that they would never act out in real life but this seems over the line to me.

Am I overreacting?

ggrr1970

I hope I'm not getting off topic here (and God know's the Mods will kill me if they think I am) but one of my girlfriend's friends said she'd go mental if she caught her bf jerking off. I really don't know why. It's absolutely nothing to do with her. Some women have a serious problem with this. ALL men (well 95%+) masturbate whether in a relationship or not. I'm not for one minute excusing this guy's porn choices but, if it's in the fantasy realm, I wouldn't read too much into it. If my g/f had some fantasy involving rape (and many women do) I'd hope to be secure enough to see it as just that, a fantasy.
Keep the lines of communication open.

Ickle Magoo

I don't think it really matters what anyone else thinks...if you aren't comfortable with your boyfriend getting off on whatever kind of porn site then does it matter if everyone else here thinks it's grand?

It's up to you what you deem acceptable or crossing the line, we all have a different view on what that is so the only way to reach a solution for your relationship is to discuss how you feel with the man in question and let him do the same.

All the best. :cool:

cafecolour

Well, some women are into the humiliation fantasies - maybe he mentioned it intentionally (with a disclaimer) on the hope you might be as well, and you could do some role play.

If it's his fetish, it doesn't mean he views all women as beneath him - it's just a sexual fantasy. However, if you're not comfortable with it, you should discuss it with him, and see how deeply it runs.