Is it right for an attached or married men to 'check out' other women?

starlit

Is it right for an attached/married man to 'check out' other women? I really don't think it is, subconsciously they might get away with it but I think it is a bit unfair on their partner to have to put up with such a thing if they notice and catch their partner 'checking out' other women. Its disrespecting women and their partner. What do the people of AH think? Any funny or serious comments are welcome.

landsleaving

It's completely normal to be attracted to the opposite (or same) sex. This doesn't magically change when you go out with someone.

Respect for your partner is not trying to get into bed with everyone you find attractive.

Asphyxia

You can look but not touch

stovelid

Anybody who says they don't is lying.

MagicSean

It's a sign of a healthy relationship

ladynotout

I see no problem in a guy who is in relationship to look at other women.

Looking is one thing but touching is another.

Once a guy is not giving this girl the amazing look no harm in it.

Daroxtar

Being in a relationship means you're paralysed, not blind.

wandatowell

Why is this even up for discussion?

strobe

Of course it is. You should try to be a bit discreet but you can't spend however many years with your eyes automatically flicking about to focus on women like a compass needle points north and then somehow switch it off cause you are going out with one in particular. Just never ever ever going to happen in this dimension of space and time. Ever. If you think your bf or husband doesn't check women out then either he is just really cute and sly about it or you aren't a very observant person.

Captain_Generic

ladynotout wrote: »

Once a guy is not giving this girl the amazing look no harm in it.

Has does one go about looking in such a fashion?

Dohnny Jepp

No harm checking out the menu even if you have no intention of ordering

Agricola

Nothing wrong with checking out the merchandise. Never know when you'll want to trade in that old banger and upgrade to a sleek new model.

stovelid

wandatowell wrote: »

Why is this even up for discussion?

Pathological jealousy?

minidazzler

I'd find more of a problem with someone who says they aren't attracted to or looking at anyone else.

TheZohanS

snuggles285 wrote: »

Is it right for an attached/married man to 'check out' other women? I really don't think it is, subconsciously they might get away with it but I think it is a bit unfair on their partner to have to put up with such a thing if they notice and catch their partner 'checking out' other women. Its disrespecting women and their partner. What do the people of AH think? Any funny or serious comments are welcome.

Of course it is, they're married/attached not dead. Bad idea to do it in front of an insecure partner however.

Spore

It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you always eat at home.

saywhatyousee

snuggles285 wrote: »

Is it right for an attached/married man to 'check out' other women? I really don't think it is, subconsciously they might get away with it but I think it is a bit unfair on their partner to have to put up with such a thing if they notice and catch their partner 'checking out' other women. Its disrespecting women and their partner. What do the people of AH think? Any funny or serious comments are welcome.

why did you pick out "men"? surely the thread title should be married/attached people

starlit

saywhatyousee wrote: »

why did you pick out "men"? surely the thread title should be married/attached people

Sorry, men just stuck out in my head to be the suspecting offenders. I suppose women do it too but subconsciously and not letting their guy/girl partner know about it! Women do check out guys I'm sure not denying that they do but if they do other guys don't get bothered by it do they or do they?

TheZohanS

snuggles285 wrote: »

Sorry, men just stuck out in my head to be the suspecting offenders. I suppose women do it too but subconsciously and not letting their guy/girl partner know about it! Women do check out guys I'm sure not denying that they do but if they do other guys don't get bothered by it do they or do they?

Now this is turning into a slo-mo trainwreck...

Pherekydes

If I didn't look I think my wife would assume I'd gone blind or had fallen ill.

I don't think respect, or lack of, comes into it.

Wolfe Tone

Of course its grand

minidazzler

snuggles285 wrote: »

Sorry, men just stuck out in my head to be the suspecting offenders. I suppose women do it too but subconsciously and not letting their guy/girl partner know about it! Women do check out guys I'm sure not denying that they do but if they do other guys don't get bothered by it do they or do they?

Lots of married/attached men AND women CONSCIOUSLY check people out. It's ok, it's not cheating, and it's not immoral. It's a VERY natural reaction. How did that couple get together in the first place if one wasn't checking the other out?

Common as...

Unless a brain surgeon goes in and rewires my head, I'll be 'checking out' hot women til the day I die.
Just like yore DA

pragmatic1

Its human nature. Its not something that can be helped.

steve_cass

Doesn't matter where the kettle heats up as long as it boils at home

Ash.J.Williams

snuggles285 wrote: »

Is it right for an attached/married man to 'check out' other women? I really don't think it is, subconsciously they might get away with it but I think it is a bit unfair on their partner to have to put up with such a thing if they notice and catch their partner 'checking out' other women. Its disrespecting women and their partner. What do the people of AH think? Any funny or serious comments are welcome.

men can checkout whoever they like as can women, it's nature.

Sofiztikated

Right?

Right?

Methink you're a bit insecure. I'm with my Mrs 9 years this March, we're getting married in September.

She knows I check out other women. I regularly tell her who I think is a bit of alright.

I know she checks out other men. She tells me who she thinks is a hottie.

We're still mad into each other, she my best friend, and I couldn't see myself with anyone else, I'd never do anything about those thoughts, and I've been in the position where I could have gotten stuck to the balls into other women. I didn't. That's respect.

But if I said other women didn't turn me on, I'd be lying.

we'llallhavetea_old

well gouge my eyes out with a spoon and feed me to the lions then :rolleyes:

cock robin

snuggles285 wrote: »

Is it right for an attached/married man to 'check out' other women? I really don't think it is, subconsciously they might get away with it but I think it is a bit unfair on their partner to have to put up with such a thing if they notice and catch their partner 'checking out' other women. Its disrespecting women and their partner. What do the people of AH think? Any funny or serious comments are welcome.

Not only is it right snuggles285 it is in fact the law, that all married men slobber over other women and imagine themselves buired in their klunge. bloody goverment and their red tape

LighterGuy

I think its all about a balance.

There is nothing wrong with an attached man or woman looking at others they find attractive. Perfectly normal.

However, if they constantly stare (or even giving someone 'the eye') in your presence its disrespectful to you. I'd be utterly pissed off at that.

Feardorca

It doesn't matter where you get your appetite once you have your meals at home!!

Donal Og O Baelach

Yes. I always stop and look at a womans arse as she sways slowly on down the street.
Women love that sort of thing - and it makes them try harder to please their man in case he wanders off.
Not meaning to be in any way sexist - but women are simple creatures at heart. (and before anyone gets offended, let me clarify - women are VERY NICE simple creatures at heart.)

.same.

snuggles285 wrote: »

Is it right for an attached/married man to 'check out' other women? I really don't think it is, subconsciously they might get away with it but I think it is a bit unfair on their partner to have to put up with such a thing if they notice and catch their partner 'checking out' other women. Its disrespecting women and their partner. What do the people of AH think? Any funny or serious comments are welcome.

If you see your boyfriend/partner doing this you should know that what he's doing is taking mental images to be played later when the two of you are having sex.
So lets say you're out doing the shopping with your bf and that slut that you hate is also in the store, he is gonna pretend to be wandering off to get stuff but what he is really doing is taking a few pic's of her ass so that he can have sex with her later that night.:eek:

starlit

.same. wrote: »

If you see your boyfriend/partner doing this you should know that what he's doing is taking mental images to be played later when the two of you are having sex.
So lets say you're out doing the shopping with your bf and that slut that you hate is also in the store, he is gonna pretend to be wandering off to get stuff but what he is really doing is taking a few pic's of her ass so that he can have sex with her later that night.:eek:

I currently don't have a bf but I would be mortified if I had a bf and if he did do that! Fair enough he is bount to have mental images imprinted in his brain when a beautiful woman he may be attracted to appears but surely he can keep it in his pants and only have eyes for his partner for the most part. When it comes to sex seriously that's a bit sick of him thinking of another woman when you have sex, its different if it were a celebrity the chances of them meeting are slim but if its a real woman he is undressing with his eyes, what are the chances of them meeting/hooking up in real life wouldn't an insecure woman not realise what the probablity of that happening? Like its ok to say if I think that guy is cute but not fancy him etc and the bf says that about a girl thats ok but flirting or anything more than just a gawk I would be worried it means he has gone off his partner and looking for someone else thats my opinion anyway on it.

Women are more likely to be discret and not go wow like a guy would to a hot girl its deamning. I have known fellas who check out other girls in the presence of their gf's and I think its dishonest and not a nice thing to do, why do it. Different for a girl she is less likely to be caught. Ya look but not touch is my motto. Just that a wandering eye is not always a nice trait for anyone by any means whether married/attached fine when single/casually seeing somone its natural when a relationship isn't serious.

Gunsfortoys

snuggles285 wrote: »

I currently don't have a bf

*Shocked*

Mr. Presentable

How will I know the awesomeness of mine if I don't check out others?

starlit

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

*Shocked*

Why so shocked? I like to ask a lot of questions...:D

PeterIanStaker

If the goods are on display, check em out, gives you something to think about when your poking the missus later on. :pac:

starlit

Mr. Presentable wrote: »

How will I know the awesomeness of mine if I don't check out others?

I suppose that's true but you are comparing your partner to someone else? Would you not likely bum off your partner and go off with another no?:eek:

Gunsfortoys

snuggles285 wrote: »

Why so shocked? I like to ask a lot of questions...:D

Well I don't speak for a lot of blokes, but your over analysing of the opposite sex is quite frankly, disturbing.

strobe

snuggles285 wrote: »

Would you not likely bum off your partner

teeheehee

Mr. Presentable

snuggles285 wrote: »

I suppose that's true but you are comparing your partner to someone else? Would you not likely bum off your partner and go off with another no?:eek:

Haha. I know which end of my candle is buttered, thanks

starlit

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

Well I don't speak for a lot of blokes, but your over analysing of the opposite sex is quite frankly, disturbing.

Okay...I do over analyse and and I over analyse about everything not just about the opposite sex! How you mean disturbing? Insecure disturbing or that men aren't as complex as they seem? Or its just all plain ould human nature going back to the caveman era?:P

easyeason3

snuggles285 wrote: »

I currently don't have a bf but I would be mortified if I had a bf and if he did do that! Fair enough he is bount to have mental images imprinted in his brain when a beautiful woman he may be attracted to appears but surely he can keep it in his pants and only have eyes for his partner for the most part. When it comes to sex seriously that's a bit sick of him thinking of another woman when you have sex, its different if it were a celebrity the chances of them meeting are slim but if its a real woman he is undressing with his eyes, what are the chances of them meeting/hooking up in real life wouldn't an insecure woman not realise what the probablity of that happening? Like its ok to say if I think that guy is cute but not fancy him etc and the bf says that about a girl thats ok but flirting or anything more than just a gawk I would be worried it means he has gone off his partner and looking for someone else thats my opinion anyway on it.

Women are more likely to be discret and not go wow like a guy would to a hot girl its deamning. I have known fellas who check out other girls in the presence of their gf's and I think its dishonest and not a nice thing to do, why do it. Different for a girl she is less likely to be caught. Ya look but not touch is my motto. Just that a wandering eye is not always a nice trait for anyone by any means whether married/attached fine when single/casually seeing somone its natural when a relationship isn't serious.

It's posts like this that give women a bad name as rambling, raving, insecure, can't-make-up-my -mind lunatics.

starlit

Gunsfortoys wrote: »

*Shocked*

Why you so shocked I don't have a bf??? :P

stovelid

I should add that even though I think everybody checks out other people, it's plain rude to do it blatantly in front of your partner.

Sunglasses are a method of concealment. Or the tried and trusted give me a hug darling moment so you can scope a retreating arse over the shoulder.

starlit

easyeason3 wrote: »

It's posts like this that give women a bad name as rambling, raving, insecure, can't-make-up-my -mind lunatics.

Unfortunately some of that describes me...:o

easyeason3

snuggles285 wrote: »

Unfortunately some of that describes me...:o

FYP.

starlit

Think I have scared off half the AH male population on here? :pac: Don't worry, I won't bite and I'm harmless. :cool: Ok You win easyeason3....It describes me...:(

Gunsfortoys

snuggles285 wrote: »

Why you so shocked I don't have a bf??? :P

You just seem so easygoing.

Micky Dolenz

Did the bold married man try and touch you?