dont know what to do!

LegacyUser

As the title suggests i dont know what to do! I am madly in love with a girl and I dont know how she feels about me. were very close friends and we spend alot of time together, were both final year students in college.

i treat her like absolutely royalty and treat her to the very best of everything, bring her to expensive restuarants and always buying her drinks on night's out.i spend a lot of money on her. im not even sure if she appreciates everything i do for her. sometimes she makes me feel so bad about myself, i dont know if she does this delliberately or not! however sometimes she can be the most amazing person in the world too. i was in hospital for a few weeks lately and she phoned 3 or 4 times a day everyday and visited me a lot too.also i had to go back to hospital for a scan during the week and i knew the news wouldnt be good and she insisted on coming with me so i would have someone to talk to about it, i thought it was the sweatest thing anyone has ever done for me! but then if i say something that she finds offensive she can hold a grudge for days no matter how trivial it is! she a beautiful girl but does have self esteem issues.

i really fancy her but dont know how she would react if i told her this. i dont know what im trying to achieve writing this here...but maybe its a good thing to get some things off my chest here. all i ever do is try to make her happy.

Kitiara

Best thing is to tell her. Uncertainty will only prolongue the issue.Whilst you are afraid to loose any hope of ever having a relationship with her if her answer is negative, remind yourself that you cannot see what's around you if you are focussed only on her. You need clarity. Just tell her.or, if you are to nerveus to speak to her, email her. No answer-forget about it. Good luck!

kerryman12

Hi OP

Something in your post really confuses me;

sometimes she makes me feel so bad about myself, i dont know if she does this delliberately or not

Is it that she is actually doing something to make you feel this way or is it that she isnt, and because of your feelings for her you end up making yourself feel this way.

Until you can answear that question I would hold the horses. Last thing you want to do is get into a relationship that will make you feel miserable!

Best of luck

Kitiara

kerryman12 wrote: »

Hi OP

Something in your post really confuses me;



Is it that she is actually doing something to make you feel this way or is it that she isnt, and because of your feelings for her you end up making yourself feel this way.

Until you can answear that question I would hold the horses. Last thing you want to do is get into a relationship that will make you feel miserable!

Best of luck

Fully agree. I am in a relationship like that and desperate to get out. Hopefully this weekend.So OP, what Kerry is saying is very true. be carefull about it!

LegacyUser

OP here again, thanks for the replies guys

Its kinda awkard to explain. we would spend alot of our time together so obviously when you spend that much time with one person conflict will be inevitable!

the main problem i suppose is that she can say absolutely anything she wants to me and thinks it should be ok. Yet if i say anything even slightly controversial she will get thick with me and perhaps wont talk to me for days, its all very childish. I know i have her spoilt like a princess and she knows im wrapped around her finger. but its like she doesnt seem to care, she can say some really hurtful things and not even be remorseful and will pawn it off as joking a few days later

But i love hanging out with her, we have such a good time. we share common interests and rarely get tired of each others company. lately on nights out i feel like she wants to kiss me but because i suppose i lack some confidence and am afraid of rejection il lose a close friend. she is a stunning girl, always gets lots of attention on nights out. And I know i would be considered good looking and i do get chatted up on nights out by girls, she is just in a different league completely!!

kerryman12

Hi OP

the main problem i suppose is that she can say absolutely anything she wants to me and thinks it should be ok. Yet if i say anything even slightly controversial she will get thick with me and perhaps wont talk to me for days, its all very childish. I know i have her spoilt like a princess and she knows im wrapped around her finger. but its like she doesnt seem to care, she can say some really hurtful things and not even be remorseful and will pawn it off as joking a few days later

That dosent sound like very nice behaviour to me OP, It kind of sounds like you are being taken for granted a bit. You might want to consider standing uo to her the next time she trys it on.

But i love hanging out with her, we have such a good time. we share common interests and rarely get tired of each others company. lately on nights out i feel like she wants to kiss me but because i suppose i lack some confidence and am afraid of rejection il lose a close friend. she is a stunning girl, always gets lots of attention on nights out. And I know i would be considered good looking and i do get chatted up on nights out by girls, she is just in a different league completely!!

If this was the only section of your post and it wasnt preceeded by the last paragraph I would tell you to go for it.

Best of luck