Men and Women - how important is hotness?

Poor Craythur

I was just pondering this today. The men I've been out with have varied greatly in looks. Some better than others. But I loved them all!

In a relationship, for me the clinchers are always chemistry (that great undefinable thing that means you find yourself wanting to get to know them better and feel excited talking to them) and shared sense of humour. I think also think it's very important to connect on a mental level.

Hairy men turn my head (and I think all men look "hotter" scruffier), but not all my boyfriend have been hairy so that means nothing to me in the end (though current boyfriend is wonderfully hairy). Looks never really come into it all that much for me (or at least conventional looks). I wouldn't find obesity attractive, and don't like 'em snake-hipped either. Anything in between is fine. Height doesn't matter either.

So, men and women, how important are looks to you in a relationship?

kfallon

Just as important as personality and sense of humour!

Kasabian

Very important.

All my ex's were ridiculously beautiful.

--Kaiser--

Hey baby

AnonoBoy

Anything above 20 degrees will do me.

In the winter I'll go as low as 15 because comparitively speaking that's pretty hot.

liah

I dunno. Not particularly important, but there has to be something there that I'm attracted to. That definitely doesn't mean they must be conventionally attractive though. I've been told on a variety of occasions that I have odd tastes. :pac:

Still, there's been many a time when I've not initially been physically attracted to a person, but that attraction developed over time as I learned more about them.

But, I mean.. there's limits.

Poor Craythur

kfallon wrote: »

Just as important as personality and sense of humour!

Kasabian wrote: »

Very important.

Thank you for your considered replies!

Shenshen

It really depends...


For flings, it's the most important thing.
For relationships, it's not as important as other things. Although there does need to be chemistry, of course.

And I tend to think of hotness in a little unorthodox way... Brad Pitt for example does nothing for me at all. But I fancy the pants of Neil Oliver.

Poor Craythur

--Kaiser-- wrote: »

Hey baby

Hot!

Poor Craythur

liah wrote: »

Still, there's been many a time when I've not initially been physically attracted to a person, but that attraction developed over time as I learned more about them.

Usually how it happens for me too. Which is why I was never into the pub/club pulling scene.

Kasabian

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Thank you for your considered replies!

I considered not replying but wanted to give your thread a chance.

How you doin'

Duggy747

The less make-up a girl wears = the less she has to hide = the hotter she is.

But humour and personality are the main ones. Dry, sour wimmen who only live for things like Grey's Anatomy can fùck right off :pac:

Poor Craythur

Kasabian wrote: »

I considered not replying but wanted to give your thread a chance

Ah, it's ok, no need to reply. I cruelly and coldly cast my eye over threads on this board all the time. Many don't make the grade.

seafood dunleavy

A hole,a heartbeat and big tits.Or just a hole and big tits,a heartbeat isn't necessary.

Kasabian

liah wrote: »

I dunno. Not particularly important, but there has to be something there that I'm attracted to. That definitely doesn't mean they must be conventionally attractive though. I've been told on a variety of occasions that I have odd tastes. :pac:

Still, there's been many a time when I've not initially been physically attracted to a person, but that attraction developed over time as I learned more about them.

But, I mean.. there's limits.

Personality can make a person extremely hot or extremely not.

Poor Craythur

Duggy747 wrote: »

The less make-up a girl wears = the less she has to hide = the hotter she is.

Definitely agree. I know a very pretty girl with a killer figure who absolutely RUINS herself with fake tan. Why? WHY?

Kasabian

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Ah, it's ok, no need to reply. I cruelly and coldly cast my eye over threads on this board all the time. Many don't make the grade.

Going by your OP everyone makes the grade. :pac:

Poor Craythur

Shenshen wrote: »

And I tend to think of hotness in a little unorthodox way... Brad Pitt for example does nothing for me at all. But I fancy the pants of Neil Oliver.

Brad Pitt - nadda for me either. Ed Norton on the hand...

Poor Craythur

Kasabian wrote: »

Going by your OP everyone makes the grade. :pac:

Did you just call me a slu'? :mad: :P :pac:

Shenshen

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Brad Pitt - nadda for me either. Ed Norton on the hand...

Yes, maybe... but I do have this thing for men with long hair.
Who incidentally are in bloody short supply here in Ireland.

Lads - if you want to shave something, shave your balls, not your heads!

Kasabian

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Did you just call me a slu'? :mad: :P :pac:

Yes
what's a slu'

Jaxxy

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Brad Pitt - nadda for me either. Ed Norton on the hand...

Oh yesss... I'd have me some Ed!

For me it's all about the chemistry. I mightn't be with the most conventionally attractive man in the world, but if we have a bit of a sizzle none of that will matter.

Boom_Bap

Looks aren't as important as sandwich making skills

silverspoon

I think 'hotness' is subjective really. I mean, there are standards I'd say we'd all generally agree on, but something that's a complete turn-off to one person might be completely different for someone else.

Anyway, personality shapes the way you see someone. I've often found people seem more physically attractive to me if they have a great (and by great I mean one which clicks with me ha) personality, and vice versa.

There are things which are less to do with natural looks which are important to me, like grooming, a reasonable interest in appearance, all that. I'm not talking about serious routines or anything, just a nice haircut, sense of own style, regular showering...

Badgermonkey

Shenshen wrote: »

Yes, maybe... but I do have this thing for men with long hair.

What about the Terry Nutkins look, bald on top, long hair back and sides?

Poor Craythur

Kasabian wrote: »

what's a slu'

Dublinese for slut.

Shenshen

Badgermonkey wrote: »

What about the Terry Nutkins look, bald on top, long hair back and sides?

Can - I repeat, CAN look interesting. Not on Terry Nutkins and not on Bill Bailey, though...

Poor Craythur

Shenshen wrote: »

Can - I repeat, CAN look interesting. Not on Terry Nutkins and not on Bill Bailey, though...

Aw, I'd let Bill poke me - he's funny.

Gunsfortoys

Celebrates steak and BJ day as if it is religious.

Shenshen

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Aw, I'd let Bill poke me - he's funny.

I don't think I would...
While someone has to be funny in order to be sexy, being funny alone makes nobody sexy.

Poor Craythur

Shenshen wrote: »

I don't think I would...
While someone has to be funny in order to be sexy, being funny alone makes nobody sexy.

True.

I was surprised by how many UK women find Dylan Moran unbelievably hot. He's my favourite comedian but hot? No.

gargleblaster

not very. what matters to me is chemistry... how well i get along with someone.

opinion guy

Hotness is very important!!

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Definitely agree. I know a very pretty girl with a killer figure who absolutely RUINS herself with fake tan. Why? WHY?

But.....orangeness negates hotness!

Shenshen

Poor Craythur wrote: »

True.

I was surprised by how many UK women find Dylan Moran unbelievably hot. He's my favourite comedian but hot? No.

He looks cute all right... but hot? No. Too shakey and too incoherent.
I think for the Brits, the accent has a lot to do with finding him hot.

ScumLord

I don't go for hotness at all, it's usually a sign there's something wrong with the fembot or the blowups already been used recently.

FlutterinBantam

Shenshen wrote: »

Yes, maybe... but I do have this thing for men with long hair.
Who incidentally are in bloody short supply here in Ireland.

Lads - if you want to shave something, shave your balls, not your heads!

I wouldn't shave my cluster for any woman, take it as it is honey, like a coiled cobra in a nest of mangroves.

Nice ripe fent of bag sweat and a fine clean knob primed and glistening.

Fcuking cheek of you missus:mad:

Shenshen

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

I wouldn't shave my cluster for any woman, take it as it is honey, like a coiled cobra in a nest of mangroves.

Nice ripe fent of bag sweat and a fine clean knob primed and glistening.

Fcuking cheek of you missus:mad:

That's not getting anywhere near my cheeks, mate.

magotch07

i have to say i always thought Hotness and chemistry went hand in hand until the current girl im seeing....very very hot but there is just nothing between us no passion nothing should be ending soon i reckon

RichieC

I met many women who first i thought I wouldn't go for but after yapping to them would have totally gone for it.

so I think it's really only top priority to the soulless crowd looking for an arm piece.

Poor Craythur

magotch07 wrote: »

i have to say i always thought Hotness and chemistry went hand in hand until the current girl im seeing....very very hot but there is just nothing between us no passion nothing should be ending soon i reckon

Well, duh! The amount of good-looking fellas I've known that I felt nothing for...

Chemistry and hotness are two separate things, though they can run concurrently.

FlutterinBantam

Shenshen wrote: »

That's not getting anywhere near my cheeks, mate.

Not worried missus, it's your loss.

Stick to the ladyboys if you want to, real men are out there and no fcuking bald bolloxes on them.

:mad:

Shenshen

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

Not worried missus, it's your loss.

Stick to the ladyboys if you want to, real men are out there and no fcuking bald bolloxes on them.

:mad:

By real men you mean those guys who will try their best to impress other guys with their manliness, right?

I prefer guys with enough self-confidence to shave the right bits and not worry about how that might look to their mates.

I've never known any girl who preferred pubes in her mouth to a nice smooth crotch.

Poor Craythur

Shenshen wrote: »

I've never known any girl who preferred pubes in her mouth to a nice smooth crotch.

Current boyfriend feels the same with regard to women. Feckin' hassle.

TMI.

magotch07

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Well, duh! The amount of good-looking fellas I've known that I felt nothing for...

Chemistry and hotness are two separate things, though they can run concurrently.

well im only kind of finding my feet in the whole dating game so dont hold my navie thoughts against me

liah

Shenshen wrote: »

By real men you mean those guys who will try their best to impress other guys with their manliness, right?

I prefer guys with enough self-confidence to shave the right bits and not worry about how that might look to their mates.

I've never known any girl who preferred pubes in her mouth to a nice smooth crotch.

Erm, me.

Well, I prefer trimmed to wild or bald, so there's no pubes in the mouth and it doesn't look ridiculous. Win-win.

Donal Og O Baelach

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Aw, I'd let Bill poke me - he's funny.

Why do I picture you kneeling on a bed - a bored but benevolent smile on your lips as you watch Holby City on the telly - while poor old Bill, grateful, wide eyed and slobbering, avails of this fine reward you have granted him.:eek:

RichieC

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

Not worried missus, it's your loss.

Stick to the ladyboys if you want to, real men are out there and no fcuking bald bolloxes on them.

:mad:

Nuts reader no doubt.

FlutterinBantam

Shenshen wrote: »

By real men you mean those guys who will try their best to impress other guys with their manliness, right?

I prefer guys with enough self-confidence to shave the right bits and not worry about how that might look to their mates.

I've never known any girl who preferred pubes in her mouth to a nice smooth crotch.

Nothing to do with self confidence missus, most girls, when they are warmed up and dripping like a George Forman Grill,are not worried about the appearance of their lover's giblets, and vice versa.

Just get on with it, and savour the juices sister, you come across a bit wooden and stilted to me.

Poor Craythur

magotch07 wrote: »

well im only kind of finding my feet in the whole dating game so dont hold my navie thoughts against me

Don't worry, you may yet strike gold and find hotness AND chemistry.

Shenshen

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Current boyfriend feels the same with regard to women. Feckin' hassle.

TMI.

Heh.
To me, it's just common courtesy, either way

Poor Craythur

Donal Og O Baelach wrote: »

Why do I picture you kneeling on a bed - a bored but benevolent smile on your lips as you watch Holby City on the telly - while poor old Bill, grateful, wide eyed and slobbering, avails of this fine reward you have granted him.:eek:

I don't think he'd be massively grateful - we all know men get better looking when they find fame.