been dumped

booboo88

within a week of valaentines day and my birthday. sorry i just need to rant, really dont want my family to see me upset and im really not up for them asking questions just yet

spinandscribble

I know its worth nothing and probably irritating to hear this but I think its probably better it happened before rather the right after. When you know you've been dumped but strung along for awhile while the other person goes through the motions because they haven't the balls, its disgusting (speaking from experience).

I'm not sure what else to say to you without details of what happened or what advice you want from this thread.

booboo88

god i know but im just really hurt. i actually nearly started to cry in front of my younger bro, which is something i never do.
god if only i could back to life before it was ever complicated

spinandscribble

I'm not sure what happened between you so I won't say anything stupid like name calling ect to make you feel better, that would be foolish. Besides, I know that never made me feel better anyway.

Are you living at home so? Unless your family are monsters why don't you approach one of them on the side and let them know what's happened but you're not ready to speak yet?

booboo88

ah im not the kind of person to show emotion. and besides family are just back from the pub

spinandscribble

Well you might be the sort not to want them to know something wrong but if you look upset and burst into tears without warning you might feel worse then if you take control and just tell them you are upset.
If you're not ready the best you can do is go to your room and if you've a laptop maybe watch some film or shows online, something to distract until you can sleep.
Were you together long?

booboo88

we just had a connection, he understood alot of whats happened in the past.
any one got a happy pill?

spinandscribble

I was gonna post a youtube video of a puppy doing something funny but i don't think this forum allows videos.

If you can treat yourself really well for the next few weeks. do some fun stuff for your birthday and try and do something you've always wanted to do!

Hank_Jones

booboo88 wrote: »

any one got a happy pill?

Best I can do at the minute.

<snip>

You'll be alright, it'll just take a bit of time.

booboo88

Hank_Jones wrote: »

Best I can do at the minute.

<snip>

You'll be alright, it'll just take a bit of time.

thank you that made me laugh

booboo88

sorry about the self pity, just really down atm.
looks like his ex won, kinda stupid really.
god i really want a hug
i really thought he'd want to work it out. that wat we had was worth fighting for, jokes on me

MissOphelia

Please confide in someone. You really need support and I'm sure someone in your family or friends is approachable or has experienced a break up.
Try to keep busy and distract yourself.
Been through a horrible break up recently myself and although it's getting slightly easier I am hating Valentine's Day, as the memories of last year are still so fresh in my mind.
But at least your ex didn't go through a charade for Val's Day and your birthday, that would have made it so much harder to get your head around.
Stay strong and feel free to rant..
x

Wompa1

booboo88 wrote: »

sorry about the self pity, just really down atm.
looks like his ex won, kinda stupid really.
god i really want a hug
i really thought he'd want to work it out. that wat we had was worth fighting for, jokes on me

I hear you, I could do with a hug myself. Similar situation. Can't understand how someone who claims to love me isn't willing to work through things...lousy biatch!

booboo88

*hugs*
i think im adjusting, i found a few home truths

booboo88

MissOphelia wrote: »

Please confide in someone. You really need support and I'm sure someone in your family or friends is approachable or has experienced a break up.
Try to keep busy and distract yourself.
Been through a horrible break up recently myself and although it's getting slightly easier I am hating Valentine's Day, as the memories of last year are still so fresh in my mind.
But at least your ex didn't go through a charade for Val's Day and your birthday, that would have made it so much harder to get your head around.
Stay strong and feel free to rant..
x

thank you. my mother is a diamond, she doesnt even have to say anything just be in the same room
i did burst into tears while telling her though. onwards and upwards
i know ill prob be dreadin goin to work on monday but at least ie only a two day week this week.

Khyra24

I'm glad you confided in your mother. It's always good to let your tears out when you need to...don't hold them in...you'll just end up going crazy. Do things that make you happy...you don't need a man for that *hugs*

booboo88

Khyra24 wrote: »

I'm glad you confided in your mother. It's always good to let your tears out when you need to...don't hold them in...you'll just end up going crazy. Do things that make you happy...you don't need a man for that *hugs*

retail therapy me thinks

MissOphelia

booboo88 wrote: »

thank you. my mother is a diamond, she doesnt even have to say anything just be in the same room
i did burst into tears while telling her though. onwards and upwards
i know ill prob be dreadin goin to work on monday but at least ie only a two day week this week.

I'm so glad you told her, you sound a bit happier already. Treat yourself to something nice when you're shopping, and don't say anything in work until you're good and ready.. I waited nearly 5 weeks before telling anyone as I needed that time to come to terms with it first..

Stay strong
x

snorlax

My fella broke up with me last weekend too. The best advice I can give is to stay busy and stay around close friends/ those you can confide in.

It gets easier everyday. Thing is if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be. There's someone better out there waiting for you so chin up.

booboo88

snorlax wrote: »

My fella broke up with me last weekend too. The best advice I can give is to stay busy and stay around close friends/ those you can confide in.

It gets easier everyday. Thing is if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be. There's someone better out there waiting for you so chin up.

sad part is im the only one who seems to be cut up about it
oh bad day today. i really just want today to be over