Should i ask her to marry me?

LegacyUser

i went out with my ex for 6 years.
we broke up summer 09 and for the past 6 months she has been in a new relationship.

im in my early 30s and she is 30.
is it ok to want to ask her to marry me even though i know there is less than 1% chance she will say yes?

she does love me and will always(her words not mine) and she knows i will always love her too...

Silverfish

Am I reading this right?

You want to ask your ex girlfriend, who is in a relationship with someone else, to marry you?

I don't think you should. It's okay to WANT to ask her to marry you, but I wouldn't do it.

You guys broke up for a reason, and you're not back together for a reason too.
I think asking her to marry you would be a bit extreme.

Jack B. Badd

PrincessCut wrote: »

is it ok to want to ask her to marry me even though i know there is less than 1% chance she will say yes?

Fine to want it, fine to want anything really. But you'll come across as a right nut if you actually do it. It may seem romantic in the movies but in real life it just indicates you're missing your grip on reality.

PrincessCut wrote: »

she does love me and will always(her words not mine) and she knows i will always love her too...

This seems very naive to me. With regards to the "her words" bit, you do know that sometimes people just say stuff, yeah? If she said it mid-relationship, she may have thought it at the time but time (and break-ups) change things. If said during the break-up or after, well maybe she was just trying to let you down gently or avoid a major blow-up on your part.

Maybe she does love you (and always will) but do you really expect her to love you more than her actual partner (either the current one or any future ones)? As Silverfish said, ye broke up for a reason...

King of Kings

perfectly fine to ask her but probably not the wisest thing in the world.
don't blow money on a ring beforehand if you do

Wisco

I'd agree with Jack B- people say things in a breakup because they don't want to hurt the other person. It doesn't mean she necessarily has romantic feelings for you now, although she may have fond memories of you.
But the fact that she's in a relationship with someone else tells me she's moved on and that you need to move on too. Yes, I'm sure you'll always have some kind of feelings for her, but that doesn't mean you should act on them.

Colonel_McCoy

I dont think you should. She is an Ex for a reason.

Ickle Magoo

I would go by the general rule of thumb that if you have to run the merits of a marriage proposal past a forum of strangers to poll for opinions, then it's not a very sensible proposal.

She's moved on, you should do the same.

All the best.

ztoical

PrincessCut wrote: »

she does love me and will always(her words not mine) and she knows i will always love her too...

the is a huge difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. It would take a pretty heartless person, or a pretty massive breakup, for someone not to care about a person they dated for 6 years. I still care for my ex, several years on, in the sense that I hope he is happy and well but while I may still care for him I am no longer in love with him and I know our relationship is over and I don't want to get back with him or marry him.