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  • 07-02-2011 11:22am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I just want to know if anyone else has been in this situation....i need some advice.... or just some perspectives


    Was going out with my bf for about 6 years...he was my first boyfriend and I ended it..because well...he is lazy..doesn't talk a whole lot we had communication problems (on both sides) just alot of rubbish things...so I ended it... a couple of months after ending it I left ireland, fresh start and all that.....I popped home a month or two ago and well we met up..now I had been missing him..and when we met up everything was great, we just have that attachment to eachother I guess ..anyway we got the talking and well decided maybe we would give long distance a go..on a trial basis...and well if its meant to be its meant to be .....


    two months in I am seriously regretting this...i feel like i have gone completely backwards...i had made a new life for myself, and now im back right where I was... thing is although he doesn't communicate well at all I know he feels more for me than i do for him.


    I just feel like such a monster, like I agreed to the long distance and now I am contemplating ending it again....well I know I have to end it again.... I just feel like such a fool and a b*tch, I know it will hurt him so much to end it all again...


    anyone else been in this situation?


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  • #2
    greenprincess
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 309 ✭✭greenprincess


    Your def not a bitch! After 6 years you are bound to still feel something for your ex. You gave it another go, it hasnt worked out, so at least you know it isnt right for you and you can move on.

    You will probably always have some sort of feeling towards him which is to be expected. I really dont think you are being a bad person or anything like that by breaking up with him.

    :)


  • #3
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    notgood123 wrote: »
    I just feel like such a monster, like I agreed to the long distance and now I am contemplating ending it again....well I know I have to end it again.... I just feel like such a fool and a b*tch, I know it will hurt him so much to end it all again...

    yeah it will hurt him, but that's just how it is. In fairness, if he didn't know there was a chance he'd end up hurt when he agreed to restart a relationship that had already failed once, it's not your fault.
    Don't let your fear of hurting him make you put off hurting him, btw. You know how you feel, and you know (as do I) that you're not going to change your mind. You can't make it not hurt, but you can still be decent and finish it asap before it gets too messy.

    these things happen, live and learn yeah?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    op here,
    Thank you all for your replies..i thought i would be slated really for treating someone so badly.

    I just feel so sick thinking about what i have to do again..... i just feel like i have messed him about so much. There is the extra weirdness of he is excited about me coming home in a few weeks .... and i mean i just don't know what to say :(


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