Do girls like anal?

IamtheWalrus

Hi all,

A girl I've been seeing recently said she's like to try anal. The conversation came up and I said I tried it before and enjoyed it (giving!). The problem is I think she is just saying that to please me. I would like to try it with her but not if she is just pleasing me and is getting no enjoyment out of it. The times I have done it the girls have said they enjoy it and would do it again.

Should I say no or try it with her even though deep down she may not want it?

Do girls actually like it or is it always just to please their partner?

Thanks

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Nevyn

Some women do like it, some don't and won't do it and some will put up with it to please the person they are with. The only way to know with your partner is to talk to her about it.

Lux23

Sometimes what is really fun about sex is giving pleasure to another person.

IamtheWalrus

Lux23 wrote: »

Sometimes what is really fun about sex is giving pleasure to another person.

Yea, I suppose but one time I was doing it and the girl didn't seem to having a blast and I asked did she want me to stop. She said no but for me to hurry up! I took that as meaning things were not going well.

zxcvbnm1

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

Yea, I suppose but one time I was doing it and the girl didn't seem to having a blast and I asked did she want me to stop. She said no but for me to hurry up! I took that as meaning things were not going well.

Ha ha !:)

Duggy747

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

Should I say no or try it with her even though deep down she may not want it?

Try not to go that deep, then :pac:

A good start is to first try with a finger. That helps her to see if she would like the sensation. It's also a good experience for the both of you considering it would be her first time.

Like Thaedydal said, some like it others wouldn't but would do it to please their partner.

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

LegacyUser

Hi OP, of course girls like anal, but it depends on the girl, just like everything else with sex, some people like things others don't. Though anal does seem to scare a lot more people than most other sexual things. But if she brought it up and wants to try it, then she wants to try it, just be considerate, good man for even bothering to post this here!!

As said before, start with a finger, if you're fingering her vagina, finger her bum at the same time and see how she likes it. Then you could go from there depending how she liked that.

Important thing to remember is to use LOOOOOOOOADS of lube, otherwise it can hurt like hell, but when you're lubed up and you mind her, it can be really great. I love anal sex, I never come from it but that doesn't matter, it still feels amazing and can hit your g spot from a whole other angle. And knowing how much the guy likes it makes me like it even more!

Just please remember to use tuns of lube, and mind her and listen to her. Don't lose the run of yourself, go slowly and not too deep, especially if you're well endowed! Keep asking her how it is for her, let her dictate the speed and depth until she gets used to it.

If she's said she wants to then don't worry about her just doing it to please you, if you do all that above then you're letting her explore what she wants and doing the utmost to try make her enjoy herself. Just remember, if she doesn't like it, she doesnt like it!!!!

Have fun!!! :-)

IamtheWalrus

yes!! wrote: »

Hi OP, of course girls like anal, but it depends on the girl, just like everything else with sex, some people like things others don't. Though anal does seem to scare a lot more people than most other sexual things. But if she brought it up and wants to try it, then she wants to try it, just be considerate, good man for even bothering to post this here!!

As said before, start with a finger, if you're fingering her vagina, finger her bum at the same time and see how she likes it. Then you could go from there depending how she liked that.

Important thing to remember is to use LOOOOOOOOADS of lube, otherwise it can hurt like hell, but when you're lubed up and you mind her, it can be really great. I love anal sex, I never come from it but that doesn't matter, it still feels amazing and can hit your g spot from a whole other angle. And knowing how much the guy likes it makes me like it even more!

Just please remember to use tuns of lube, and mind her and listen to her. Don't lose the run of yourself, go slowly and not too deep, especially if you're well endowed! Keep asking her how it is for her, let her dictate the speed and depth until she gets used to it.

If she's said she wants to then don't worry about her just doing it to please you, if you do all that above then you're letting her explore what she wants and doing the utmost to try make her enjoy herself. Just remember, if she doesn't like it, she doesnt like it!!!!

Have fun!!! :-)

Do you think it's more or less sore with a condom or not? I know both of us are clean so we could try without if that makes it more pleasurable for her.

KiLLeR CoUCh

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

Do you think it's more or less sore with a condom or not? I know both of us are clean so we could try without if that makes it more pleasurable for her.

I'm sure with or without makes no difference pain wise, but given the amount of bacteria and God knows whatever else that resides in that area do you really want to go in uncovered?

common sense brigade

If somebody tells you to hurry up, however subtly. then they are not enjoying what you are doing.

LegacyUser

As other posters have said, take it very slowly. I mean so slow that each time you try it, go a little deeper. I wouldn't go deep first time.
Yes, the first time it hurts but no pain no gain.

LegacyUser

Some of you have mentioned pain already, and having tried anal (im female) it hurts like hell and I completely fail to see where the enjoyment for a woman might be in it?????? Pain is pain. Pain is not pleasure, or enjoyment.

It's quite simple. Humans were not made for anal penetration. Bums are physically only made so that something can come out of them comfortably - not so that something can penetrate them comfortably.

So you can all talk about women who 'enjoy' anal - but the bottom line is there is no physical pleasure to be had from anything penetrating your anus. It's psychological and more to do with the fact that you are pleasuring someone else that turns you on. There are no sexual 'juices' in the bum - none whatsoever. Humans are made to defaecate from the anal passage - there are no sexual physical things going on in the anus.

I'm not for or against it - I'm just saying that anal sex does not sexually stimulate a woman, other than in a psychological capacity.

Smashhits

as said in previous posts loooads of lube and use your finger first. i found if she had a vibrator (quite small) she could use that first and she's in control which would make her relax more to enjoy. i certainly would use a condom hygiene reasons only.

LegacyUser

unregistered wrote: »

Some of you have mentioned pain already, and having tried anal (im female) it hurts like hell and I completely fail to see where the enjoyment for a woman might be in it?????? Pain is pain. Pain is not pleasure, or enjoyment.

It's quite simple. Humans were not made for anal penetration. Bums are physically only made so that something can come out of them comfortably - not so that something can penetrate them comfortably.

So you can all talk about women who 'enjoy' anal - but the bottom line is there is no physical pleasure to be had from anything penetrating your anus. It's psychological and more to do with the fact that you are pleasuring someone else that turns you on. There are no sexual 'juices' in the bum - none whatsoever. Humans are made to defaecate from the anal passage - there are no sexual physical things going on in the anus.

I'm not for or against it - I'm just saying that anal sex does not sexually stimulate a woman, other than in a psychological capacity.

this whole post is ridiculous, sexual stimulation is not just physical, being psychologically turned on goes hand in hand with being physically turned on, i don't even understand how you could possibly separate the two? and even as you claim, which i dont agree with, that a woman could only be psychologically pleasured by anal, whats wrong with that, pleasure is pleasure and it comes in many forms!

your statements are incredibly cut and dried, YOU don't enjoy anal as a woman, but you can't speak for all women by saying 'theres no physical pleasure to be had from anything penetrating your anus', i find it very pleasureable, and not just 'psychologically' or because i'm pleasuring him, but because i do enjoy the physical sensation, the friction, the fullness, how it hits me from another direction and angle, all of these things are physically, sexually stimulating, for me.

i won't even go into the whole aspect of your post where you said humans were not 'made' for human penetration, that is going to open a whole other can of worms that will derail OPs question!

you have your own opinions on what you enjoy and what is sexually pleasing for you, but please dont apply them to others sexual capacitys and enjoyment in such sweeping terms. so OP, women DO enjoy anal, it IS natural, just talk to your girlfriend about whether she still wants to and how she wants to do it. at the end of the day, it's about her & you.

sam34

unregistered wrote: »

Some of you have mentioned pain already, and having tried anal (im female) it hurts like hell and I completely fail to see where the enjoyment for a woman might be in it??????

with respect, maybe you didnt try it properly, ie gradually and with enough lubrication. or maybe you did, but still didnt like it. fair enough.

some women enjoy it, though.

unregistered wrote: »

Pain is pain. Pain is not pleasure, or enjoyment..

it's not painful for all women.

and, for some people, pain actually is pleasure.

unregistered wrote: »

Bums are physically only made so that something can come out of them comfortably - not so that something can penetrate them comfortably

anal penetration can be comfortable for some women (and men)

unregistered wrote: »

So you can all talk about women who 'enjoy' anal - but the bottom line is there is no physical pleasure to be had from anything penetrating your anus.

untrue. true in your experience maybe, but not true for every other woman out there.

unregistered wrote: »

I'm just saying that anal sex does not sexually stimulate a woman, other than in a psychological capacity

speak for yourself.

Morag

Too much lube can be bad, as if you penetrate to fast and too hard then it causes mirco tears and bleeding.

LegacyUser

yes!!! wrote: »

this whole post is ridiculous, sexual stimulation is not just physical, being psychologically turned on goes hand in hand with being physically turned on, i don't even understand how you could possibly separate the two? and even as you claim, which i dont agree with, that a woman could only be psychologically pleasured by anal, whats wrong with that, pleasure is pleasure and it comes in many forms!

your statements are incredibly cut and dried, YOU don't enjoy anal as a woman, but you can't speak for all women by saying 'theres no physical pleasure to be had from anything penetrating your anus', i find it very pleasureable, and not just 'psychologically' or because i'm pleasuring him, but because i do enjoy the physical sensation, the friction, the fullness, how it hits me from another direction and angle, all of these things are physically, sexually stimulating, for me.

i won't even go into the whole aspect of your post where you said humans were not 'made' for human penetration, that is going to open a whole other can of worms that will derail OPs question!

you have your own opinions on what you enjoy and what is sexually pleasing for you, but please dont apply them to others sexual capacitys and enjoyment in such sweeping terms. so OP, women DO enjoy anal, it IS natural, just talk to your girlfriend about whether she still wants to and how she wants to do it. at the end of the day, it's about her & you.

It's NOT natural.

You can argue the toss all you want, but the muscles in your bum were made to contract and relax from the inside out - therby allowing faeces out in a natural manner. It's biology and nothing to do with whether I like or dislike it. It hurts so much because the muscles there don't contract and relax from the outside in, therby allowing penetration for sex in a comfortable manner. I couldn't care less whether every other woman in the world loves it, and it's just me who doesn't - I was just trying to explain that whether you like it or not, the human body wasn't made to have sexual intercourse up the bum. So it's nothing to do with whether I like it or not, its to do with the way we're made.

Porn on the internet has alot to do with mens expectations for anal sex these days - it's completely unrealistic.

Benincasa

Sharrow wrote: »

Too much lube can be bad, as if you penetrate to fast and too hard then it causes mirco tears and bleeding.

One needs to be VERY careful of the potential health implications of this. OP: I cannot believe that you are considering anal sex without a condom. There are a LOT of bacteria down there. The anus was not designed for penetration. Some people might like it but that doesn't change the point that the anus was not designed for sex.

As Sharrow pointed out above, there is a risk of tears and bleeding. There is also a risk of fecal incontinence. This is unlikely to happen after the first time, but prolonged engagement in anal sex will increase the risks. The fact that this is not a convenient, popular or politically correct position does not change reality. See the video below:

http://www.5min.com/Video/The-Link-Between-Anal-Sex-and-Fecal-Incontinence-236989090

dudara

I think we've had enought discussion on anal - what I want posters to focus on now is how to help the OP discuss this with his girlfriend. That was his original concern.

dudara

LegacyUser

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

A girl I've been seeing recently said she's like to try anal. The conversation came up and I said I tried it before and enjoyed it (giving!). The problem is I think she is just saying that to please me. I would like to try it with her but not if she is just pleasing me and is getting no enjoyment out of it.

If your girlfriend has expressed an interest in it, then I think you should explore it with her, rather than second-guessing her motivations like this. You seem to have doubts that any girl would ever actually desire to be penetrated anally, but that is simply not true. Some women enjoy it greatly. I'm a female and I learned about anal stimulation while experimenting on my own with sex toys. It is also an activity I enjoy with my partner.

I second all the cautions and recommendations given above. I would also add, never ever withdraw from your girlfriend's anus and go straight into her vagina. That is extremely unhygienic and can give her a bad bacterial infection.

Silverfish

dandanpakistan wrote: »

She obviously an un scrupulous slut so go for it. There's no better feeling than degrading somebody by sticking your penis in them.

Banned.

Tar.Aldarion

That's like asking do women like cheese, it depends on her and only by talking to her will you know. If you are asking do any of them like it? Of course some do...and I don't blame em!