Roomies Girlfriend practically living in our apartment.

LegacyUser

Hi,
So I'm just gonna put this out there and see what you gs think.

So I've been living with my friend for over a year, no real problems. But he's started going out with this girl since about October. To be honest I'm just annoyed by her. She's fairly unbearable, but she is practically living in our apartment, they are inseparable.

We are both barely in from work and she calls or knocks on the door. They spend the rest of the night layed out in front of the TV and whatever. So I'm pretty much confined to my room. Well I mean I can join them but third wheel gets a bit old and I just don't like her all that much, she's very controlling, very moody, very childish and loud and makes zero effort with me since we've met.

I mean under any other circumstance she's my friends girlfriend and I'd get over it bit I'm practically living with her. I mean at this stage she should nearly be chipping in with rent or bill money. She is here as much as I am, using all the facilities, keeping me awake even right now making noise when I really need to sleep for work and I'm just weary from it.

I'm probably a bit annoyed too that my friend has changed so much, he went from a really fun out going guy always up for doing things and having a laugh to just doing nothing without her permission or having her tag along like a wet rag.

She comes by all the time just sulking and pouting and arguing which is why I just go off myself half the time. I was surprised this weekend he came out in the afternoon when the guys were out and about, turns out she had other plans he wasnt to go to, but he kept checking his phone in a mood asking me to drive him home. Then we went for pints in the evening and she had to turn up and drag him away and just act like a wet rag when we were having a bit of craic.

She justs acts very childish, saying and doing stupid things, she was trying to unbutton my shirt at the weekend and I was just like... STOP!!! When she was dragging him away again the gys and I were trying to be nice about it but get him to just ask her to stay for a few drinks so he didnt have to run off but she actuall started shouting at the top of her voice in the pub I WANT SEX! I WANT SEX! until he ran out with her. She's said some nasty things about me and my girlfriend shortly after I met her and I just didn't really care much for her after that.

It's probably 2 fold. I think she's not good for my friend, shes a bit of a drama queen and my friend was really looking for a girlfriend but he's latched onto this girl and I think she's taking advantage of him, she lists some other dude she used to date as her boyfriend on facebook still, there's always drama with her ex and she says a lot she doesnt want a serious relationship but it doesn't click with him because he's obsessed with her. He mst have spent 500-600 euro at least on her at christmas and they'd known each other 2 months, I didnt even do that with my won girlfriend.

Thats one problem, but the whole thing of being here every night and taking the place over is whats getting me. My own girlfriend calls over probably one weeknight, on rare occasions twice if we are both free, I think thats fair enough and we don't hog the living room and stuff. I don't mind my friend having his girlfriend over but she practically lives here now, she might as well be chipping in and helping around the house but she acts like a guest we must bow down to accommodate. I just can't stand it anymore. I'm like a guest in my own home.

Monkey Allen

I've definitely been there before. I think you need to tell your friend that he needs to either get his own place with his girlfriend or he has to tell her she cant be around as much. Surely she has a home of her own they can hang out in?

Regarding her not being good enough for your friend, thats for him to see on his own. And he will, most likely months after being dumped by her.