(one for women)my cousin with confidence issues...advice???

grehan

hey guys just wanted to ask d women here a couple of questions regarding a cousin of mine.... basically one of my cousins has a major confidence issue in regards to talking to women, reason being is because he has this mild twitching/shaking thing with his head and body that comes and goes, due to anxiety he tells me cause hes got it checked out and d doc gave him d all clear, its hardly even noticable at times! and d upsetting thing about it is that hes a great lookin bloke! i mean hes a personal trainer and mad into his fitness and really looks after himself, and before he had this thing he used to have no problems with confidence what so ever, had no problems talking to women on a night out or whatever! plus hes only 23 as well! hes just afraid that if he goes to talk to some girl and he has this twitching thing going on, that theyll percieve him as some kind of freak or somethin even though hes d soundest lad ever and dead easy to get on with!....basically my question is girls, if u were on a night out, and a real good looking bloke, who was in great shape, great personality and all that jazz started talking to u at d bar or whatever and was twitching/shaking or whatever would u either A) just feel embarrassed and rather not talk to him? or talk to him regardless,get to see that hes a decent lad and all and not give a crap if he was twitching?........just wanna see what women would think about this! thanks guys.

LegacyUser

I'm a girl, 25... And obviously I would talk to him and not think he's a freak or whatever. Anybody who would think that and/or not talk to him because of it is obviously very shallow and is not worth talking to anyway.

grehan

thanks! iv said this to him that not all birds are stuck up and shallow and that he should just go for it regardless he gets rejected or not! gonna repost and try get a few more replies! thanks again!

Artistic_Love

Completely agree with the previous poster. If a girl judges him based on that, she's not worth his time. I can guarantee that if he acts confident and doesn't let it affect him, the likelihood of her noticing is minimal! Best of luck to him!

Peanut2011

Hey OP, just thought to mention that it sounds like your friend has torets syndrome. Maybe he should look in to it a bit and familiarize himself with that. Once he learns to live with it he won't be as concious of it.

As far as I can see from replies so far, women would not judge him for that but rather the person he is.

grehan

thanks for the reply guys! much appreciate it! he doesnt have tourettes peanut, hes been checked out by the top neurologist in the country and he said hes a fit healthy young man! its anxiety my cousin says, hes been through loads of stress the last year, hes checked it out and its actually very common with anxiety apparantly! so at least theres nothing seriously wrong with him thank god! just a matter of accepting it and eventually down the road itll fade id say!

purity

I know personality is the main attraction blah blah! But it's the truth, I'd never judge a guy by his appearance or ability or disability. I'm a 24 year considered good looking girl and looks were never the main attraction. A good looking man is always an advantage and you say your cousin is good looking, Well he shouldn't be shy or conscious I bet his twitch isn't that bad. Everyone has a different opinion on things but I'd say the majority of people wouldn't even notice a twitch. So tell him not to worry and to get out there and have fun he is 23!

Ickle Magoo

Can you check you are posting on recent threads please.

This thread hadn't been posted on in nearly a fortnight and wasn't really a PI to begin with.

Cheers. :cool: